Wife doesn’t care for looking good, dressing well

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I remember taking a very high level job at a company where the CEO, soon to be terminated, only hired beautiful young women for support positions. My wife showed up one day with our young kids to see where Dad worked…dressed in mom gear….and she said that’s the last time she was going any where near our offices in mom gear. She really upped her game after that and she definitely had the underpinnings to make it happen. Many years later she still likes to look good.

So the takeaway is: put your wife in embarrassing situations and shame her into looking nicer! Brilliant.

No, it was a surprise visit and I had told her about the CEO’s hiring strategy. You’re making a bigger deal out of this than she did. I’m sure she looks better in shorts and a tee shirt than you do glammed up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you can thank the “athleisure” trend for this. People put on leggings or sweatpants and call it an “outfit.” And scream bloody murder when you tell them it isn’t.

Hehe you ever watched Star Trek? If so, you’ll know that athleisure wear is the attire of the future. Get with the program.

OMG I was just saying that this is one of the top 10 reasons I can’t wait for the Star Trek future—everything they wear looks comfy and practical. Even the flowy sexy stuff for dress up. It’s a future without soanx.

[Anonymous]

Jeez - I like comfortable clothes but I like to look good and not for my husband but for me. I’m reasonably fit but yoga pants and tights are for working out not going out. I’m pretty fit but maybe 5% of women look really good in yoga pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember taking a very high level job at a company where the CEO, soon to be terminated, only hired beautiful young women for support positions. My wife showed up one day with our young kids to see where Dad worked…dressed in mom gear….and she said that’s the last time she was going any where near our offices in mom gear. She really upped her game after that and she definitely had the underpinnings to make it happen. Many years later she still likes to look good.

So the takeaway is: put your wife in embarrassing situations and shame her into looking nicer! Brilliant.

No, it was a surprise visit and I had told her about the CEO’s hiring strategy. You’re making a bigger deal out of this than she did. I’m sure she looks better in shorts and a tee shirt than you do glammed up.

Touchy!

Obviously you didn’t actually set up your wife. Bit your comment is a bizarre thing to say to a husband who thinks his wife isn’t pretty often enough. Whether you’re bragging, or offering advice, or just typing out random things online, it’s a weird story that I personally wouldn’t share as a point of pride.

But hey, congrats on having such a hot wife! I bet she is really pretty!
Congrats on having

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeez - I like comfortable clothes but I like to look good and not for my husband but for me. I’m reasonably fit but yoga pants and tights are for working out not going out. I’m pretty fit but maybe 5% of women look really good in yoga pants.

I think you think too much about how other people look in yoga pants tbh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you want her to dress up, take her somewhere worth dressing up for.

As a SAHM, no way in hell am I dressing up every day, I need to be able to play at the park with my kids. Can’t do that in jeans. Plus my clothes get completely dirty by the end of the day. But if my H takes me somewhere nice, or better yet when we have a weekend away, I’ll dress up.

If she’s wearing the same outfit for days on end, then it’s probably depression and she needs help. But if you’re pissed she wears yoga pants when you want her to wear jeans, back off and maybe re-assess what you find valuable about your wife.

Sorry, don’t care how you or anyone else dresses, but the statement in bold is simply stupid.

Denim is extremely inflexible, which is why you never see workout clothes made out of it.

I wear denim maybe 3-4x a year. It’s just way too uncomfortable and restrictive for me. I don’t wear anything I can’t do a full squat in.

But I was a gymnast and dancer, and I’m used to being able to use the full range of motion of my joints. Not being able to feels suffocating for me.

PP - I understand preferring other pants to jeans, don’t get me wrong. I also prefer to wear workout clothes to play with my kids. But to state that one “can’t“ do it in jeans is just ridiculous. People do extremely active WORK in jeans all the time. If you can’t squat in jeans it’s perhaps because your jeans are too tight or not a high enough rise. Again, I understand that jeans are not everyone’s cup of tea anymore, but people are acting like putting on a pair of jeans is the equivalent of a full length ballgown and heels.

I don’t understand how jeans are now considered dressing up.

Yes! When I put on jeans, I’m dressing down, not dressing up. Jeans are work clothes, not dressy clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember taking a very high level job at a company where the CEO, soon to be terminated, only hired beautiful young women for support positions. My wife showed up one day with our young kids to see where Dad worked…dressed in mom gear….and she said that’s the last time she was going any where near our offices in mom gear. She really upped her game after that and she definitely had the underpinnings to make it happen. Many years later she still likes to look good.

So the takeaway is: put your wife in embarrassing situations and shame her into looking nicer! Brilliant.

No, it was a surprise visit and I had told her about the CEO’s hiring strategy. You’re making a bigger deal out of this than she did. I’m sure she looks better in shorts and a tee shirt than you do glammed up.

Touchy!

Obviously you didn’t actually set up your wife. Bit your comment is a bizarre thing to say to a husband who thinks his wife isn’t pretty often enough. Whether you’re bragging, or offering advice, or just typing out random things online, it’s a weird story that I personally wouldn’t share as a point of pride.

But hey, congrats on having such a hot wife! I bet she is really pretty!
Congrats on having

This story really does come off as kind of mean spirited.

[Anonymous]

Dh started working from home about 5 years ago and there was a time it seemed like he didn't change or shower or shave for several days in a row. I finally said something. Like, I don't care what you wear but you need to keep up a modicum of hygiene and effort if you want to keep me interested in taking those clothes off.

Fast forward to 2020 and I realized I started falling into to a similar rut, same shapeless clothes, skipping showers etc. I took my own advice. I still wear casual comfy clothes at home but try to ensure they are clothes, not PJs, I also shower, brush hair put on lip gloss and wear nicer clothes and cute outfits when I leave home..mostly for me so I don't forget how to present myself but also for dh since I recall being in the other end of this

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want her to dress up, take her somewhere worth dressing up for.

As a SAHM, no way in hell am I dressing up every day, I need to be able to play at the park with my kids. Can’t do that in jeans. Plus my clothes get completely dirty by the end of the day. But if my H takes me somewhere nice, or better yet when we have a weekend away, I’ll dress up.

If she’s wearing the same outfit for days on end, then it’s probably depression and she needs help. But if you’re pissed she wears yoga pants when you want her to wear jeans, back off and maybe re-assess what you find valuable about your wife.

Sorry, don’t care how you or anyone else dresses, but the statement in bold is simply stupid.

Yes this is so dumb. I took my kid to the playground for two hours today. In jeans. I also put my hair up in a nice chignon and wore a nice but comfortable tank top. Was I ready for a fancy dinner out? No, but I did look presentable and wouldn’t have felt embarrassed if I ran into someone I knew. Oh and I also had a great time running around with my kid.

Why are you wearing jeans when it’s hot AF?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Buy her a makeover for her birthday and then take her out to eat.

Omg do not ever buy a woman a makeover. I would be furious if my H did this.

+1. This sounds like a clueless man’s idea of a “solution.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you can thank the “athleisure” trend for this. People put on leggings or sweatpants and call it an “outfit.” And scream bloody murder when you tell them it isn’t.

Because it is an outfit, and it’s fun how much that frosts you controlling types’ cookies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lost my spouse last year. I didn’t give one whip what they wore. Get your priorities straight.

Every thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy. Even if your husband doesn’t care, isn’t the rest of your life more pleasant if other people generally find you attractive? And before any bitter frumps come accuse me of being a bimbo, I have a demanding and somewhat high-profile tech job. Which i would never show up to in sweatpants and a greasy ponytail.

Actually, no, my quality of life is unrelated to how attractive people find me. Crazy, right?

+1. I’ve never understood the obsession with caring about what others think of your appearance, be they friends, family, employers, employees, colleagues, or strangers. My happiness is intrinsic, and so far removed from following societal conventions. I’ve got enough self-pride and confidence to live my life how I want to live it, including how I choose to dress, opinion of others be damned. To each his/her own I suppose. I simply find it sad when reasons for doing one thing or another are driven by extrinsic factors that place value on one’s worth, rather than intrinsic desires. Find ya’ll worth internally people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I lost my spouse last year. I didn’t give one whip what they wore. Get your priorities straight.

Every thread.

^^That is a mean-spirited comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll post, don’t feed it.

What? You read two pages and say not to feed it. Everything is not a ‘troll’ post. People turn to ‘troll’ so easily.