Can you have a successful sexless marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I've said before, there is no better place I've found on the internet to convince me to never get married again. I'll never have a GF that gets away with denying me sex, no matter her perceived good reasons.

And it's comments like this that make me think (#not all) men are sociopaths with no respect for women. You'd be much happier in a part of the world where it's sadly still acceptable to keep women as sex slaves. But really, you should get a grip. Sex is not a right. While sexual release might be a need, sexual release with a woman is not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As I've said before, there is no better place I've found on the internet to convince me to never get married again. I'll never have a GF that gets away with denying me sex, no matter her perceived good reasons.

And it's comments like this that make me think (#not all) men are sociopaths with no respect for women. You'd be much happier in a part of the world where it's sadly still acceptable to keep women as sex slaves. But really, you should get a grip. Sex is not a right. While sexual release might be a need, sexual release with a woman is not.

It's good that men like him take themselves off the market. Imagine giving birth and having a guy hound you for sex the following day. Imagine going through chemo and having a man whine about his sex life.

Maybe one day he'll get very sick and he'll realize some things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

+1. And for men to say that women are changing the goal posts makes me LOL even more. As if they could’ve pulled this crap when we were dating. If we hung out all day and he didn’t even acknowledge me and then wanted sex at night, that would be a negative. I was never the type he could text at 11 to NETFLIX and chill. I remember planned fun dates, flirting, back rubs, and making out first. Revisionist history on their part.

Again ladies: sounds like YOU do absolutely NOTHING for sex and romance in your marriage.
Ironic that you think the men are the lazy entitled jerks.

Wow PP you have Issues. Are you the famous Sexless Marriage Guy?

And if anyone reading this thinks women wanting affection and attention before sex- this is part of being in an adult relationship with a human being. Get a sex robot if you can't manage to do that.

If these women were really doing NOTHING to increase affection and intimacy in the marriage, why don’t these guys get divorced? In that case, the issue is not lack of sex, it’s that your partner won’t touch you or express an interest in you.

But I think often these women are doing a lot to increase intimacy, and the dudes are just pouting about lack of sex. They are like “we held hands on our walk, now I put my dick in” and are mad when this quid pro quo approach turns off their wives.

Plus 9 times out of 10, these guys have young kids. Your mad your wife doesn’t initiate sex more often? How much childcare labor is she doing? All they can see is their needs. They have zero cognition of how all this stuff works together.

You know who is happily married? People who help out their partners and approach issues with a collective approach. Period. You know who gets divorced? People who view their own unhappiness as a problem in their partner’s behavior. Recipe for disaster.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As I've said before, there is no better place I've found on the internet to convince me to never get married again. I'll never have a GF that gets away with denying me sex, no matter her perceived good reasons.

And it's comments like this that make me think (#not all) men are sociopaths with no respect for women. You'd be much happier in a part of the world where it's sadly still acceptable to keep women as sex slaves. But really, you should get a grip. Sex is not a right. While sexual release might be a need, sexual release with a woman is not.

It's good that men like him take themselves off the market. Imagine giving birth and having a guy hound you for sex the following day. Imagine going through chemo and having a man whine about his sex life.

Maybe one day he'll get very sick and he'll realize some things.

Hopefully when he's on his death bed, he'll have the mental clarity to realize that the sex life he had or didn't have throughout his life doesn't matter to him at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

+1. And for men to say that women are changing the goal posts makes me LOL even more. As if they could’ve pulled this crap when we were dating. If we hung out all day and he didn’t even acknowledge me and then wanted sex at night, that would be a negative. I was never the type he could text at 11 to NETFLIX and chill. I remember planned fun dates, flirting, back rubs, and making out first. Revisionist history on their part.

Again ladies: sounds like YOU do absolutely NOTHING for sex and romance in your marriage.
Ironic that you think the men are the lazy entitled jerks.

Wow PP you have Issues. Are you the famous Sexless Marriage Guy?

And if anyone reading this thinks women wanting affection and attention before sex- this is part of being in an adult relationship with a human being. Get a sex robot if you can't manage to do that.

If these women were really doing NOTHING to increase affection and intimacy in the marriage, why don’t these guys get divorced? In that case, the issue is not lack of sex, it’s that your partner won’t touch you or express an interest in you.

But I think often these women are doing a lot to increase intimacy, and the dudes are just pouting about lack of sex. They are like “we held hands on our walk, now I put my dick in” and are mad when this quid pro quo approach turns off their wives.

Plus 9 times out of 10, these guys have young kids. Your mad your wife doesn’t initiate sex more often? How much childcare labor is she doing? All they can see is their needs. They have zero cognition of how all this stuff works together.

You know who is happily married? People who help out their partners and approach issues with a collective approach. Period. You know who gets divorced? People who view their own unhappiness as a problem in their partner’s behavior. Recipe for disaster.

Pouting is also extremely unattractive. Seems like a symptom of being an entitled whiney man baby.

[Anonymous]

Pretty simple formula ladies. Infrequent sex at home equals husband gets that elsewhere. Deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty simple formula ladies. Infrequent sex at home equals husband gets that elsewhere. Deal.

I agree, which is why I divorced once my DH lost his job. Boy wasn't keeping up his end of the bargain. Now I'm married to a richer guy, but if he ever loses a cent I'm out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty simple formula ladies. Infrequent sex at home equals husband gets that elsewhere. Deal.

Please. I'm begging you. Seek help. I feel like this level of anger and obsession is like on a mass shooter level. You ignore every shred of evidence that doesn't back up your personal opinions. Go ahead and get a divorce if you are that unhappy. Sheesh

[Anonymous]

To the low libido spouses/women here...although your spouses may manifest their emotions differently and behave with varying degrees of empathy and maturity, please try to remember that at its core, your spouse is feeling crushing sadness and grief over permanently losing a connection with you. I know that’s how I feel (DH).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

+1. And for men to say that women are changing the goal posts makes me LOL even more. As if they could’ve pulled this crap when we were dating. If we hung out all day and he didn’t even acknowledge me and then wanted sex at night, that would be a negative. I was never the type he could text at 11 to NETFLIX and chill. I remember planned fun dates, flirting, back rubs, and making out first. Revisionist history on their part.

Again ladies: sounds like YOU do absolutely NOTHING for sex and romance in your marriage.
Ironic that you think the men are the lazy entitled jerks.

Wow PP you have Issues. Are you the famous Sexless Marriage Guy?

And if anyone reading this thinks women wanting affection and attention before sex- this is part of being in an adult relationship with a human being. Get a sex robot if you can't manage to do that.

So, about these sex robots...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the low libido spouses/women here...although your spouses may manifest their emotions differently and behave with varying degrees of empathy and maturity, please try to remember that at its core, your spouse is feeling crushing sadness and grief over permanently losing a connection with you. I know that’s how I feel (DH).

Libido differences account for about half of divorces. It's a real problem. Sorry you are going through it. I am sure your wife loves you but like many women just lost her drive. Nothing to solve, it just is

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

+1. And for men to say that women are changing the goal posts makes me LOL even more. As if they could’ve pulled this crap when we were dating. If we hung out all day and he didn’t even acknowledge me and then wanted sex at night, that would be a negative. I was never the type he could text at 11 to NETFLIX and chill. I remember planned fun dates, flirting, back rubs, and making out first. Revisionist history on their part.

Again ladies: sounds like YOU do absolutely NOTHING for sex and romance in your marriage.
Ironic that you think the men are the lazy entitled jerks.

Wow PP you have Issues. Are you the famous Sexless Marriage Guy?

And if anyone reading this thinks women wanting affection and attention before sex- this is part of being in an adult relationship with a human being. Get a sex robot if you can't manage to do that.

So, about these sex robots...

Back in the day, they were called prostitutes and married men frequented them all the time. I am sure they still do but affairs are more acceptable now

[Anonymous]

There's some evidence that women become bored with monogamy quicker than men. That would explain why the women were keen on sex when dating and their libido often drops after a few years of marriage. This would also explain why women's libidos often reignite after divorce. The Atlantic just ran an article on this:
https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/women-get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

+1. And for men to say that women are changing the goal posts makes me LOL even more. As if they could’ve pulled this crap when we were dating. If we hung out all day and he didn’t even acknowledge me and then wanted sex at night, that would be a negative. I was never the type he could text at 11 to NETFLIX and chill. I remember planned fun dates, flirting, back rubs, and making out first. Revisionist history on their part.

Again ladies: sounds like YOU do absolutely NOTHING for sex and romance in your marriage.
Ironic that you think the men are the lazy entitled jerks.

Wow PP you have Issues. Are you the famous Sexless Marriage Guy?

And if anyone reading this thinks women wanting affection and attention before sex- this is part of being in an adult relationship with a human being. Get a sex robot if you can't manage to do that.

So, about these sex robots...

Back in the day, they were called prostitutes and married men frequented them all the time. I am sure they still do but affairs are more acceptable now

For real, though, a good sex robot (think: realistic like in Blade Runner) would solve a lot of problems. It could save a lot of unhappy marriages, and save some from even happening in the first place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty simple formula ladies. Infrequent sex at home equals husband gets that elsewhere. Deal.

I agree, which is why I divorced once my DH lost his job. Boy wasn't keeping up his end of the bargain. Now I'm married to a richer guy, but if he ever loses a cent I'm out.

Did you always want to be a hooker when you grew up? Because valuing a man primarily for what he can buy you is kinda the definition.