Can you have a successful sexless marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

Thank you! The vast majority of women needs some kind of emotional connection to be aroused. If you've been married for any length of time and you are either too lazy or still don't understand how to connect emotionally to the woman you CHOSE to marry, I don't have an ounce of pity for you. It's also amazing how they don't recognize that demanding sex and going on and on about their sexual needs without ever acknowledging what their partner's might be missing in the relationship just makes women LESS interested in sex. My libido has definitely declined since having children, but my DH is still respectful and kind to me and obviously cares about my emotional well-being. It goes a long way towards keeping me interested in sex even during these years with young kids where it can be hard to find the time and energy.

If he was just sitting around stewing about how little sex he was getting, I sense I wouldn't even be interested in the already limited sex we are currently having because who wants to have sex with a selfish whiner? No thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

+1. And for men to say that women are changing the goal posts makes me LOL even more. As if they could’ve pulled this crap when we were dating. If we hung out all day and he didn’t even acknowledge me and then wanted sex at night, that would be a negative. I was never the type he could text at 11 to NETFLIX and chill. I remember planned fun dates, flirting, back rubs, and making out first. Revisionist history on their part.

[Anonymous]

My post menopausal no libido wife has sex with me twice per week because

A) I am a good partner to her
B) I refuse to accept a monogamous sexless marriage

So OP my advice to you is .... see A and B above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

+1. And for men to say that women are changing the goal posts makes me LOL even more. As if they could’ve pulled this crap when we were dating. If we hung out all day and he didn’t even acknowledge me and then wanted sex at night, that would be a negative. I was never the type he could text at 11 to NETFLIX and chill. I remember planned fun dates, flirting, back rubs, and making out first. Revisionist history on their part.

Again ladies: sounds like YOU do absolutely NOTHING for sex and romance in your marriage.
Ironic that you think the men are the lazy entitled jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very happily married. My husband had a heart attack 10 years ago and his meds leave him with ED. We've tried everything and he tries, but can't. We got married a little older so I knew that life would be different for us just because we have aged. I never intended for this to be the case, but we've had to learn to do other things that satisfy us.

Um. Yay?

[Anonymous]

Men: Ew, sluts are gross, women who like sex are whores, they all have loose vaginas, nasty.

Married Men: Ew, my wife doesn't want sex?? I married a nice virgin and she didn't turn into a porn star?? This is a scam. I hate women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

+1. And for men to say that women are changing the goal posts makes me LOL even more. As if they could’ve pulled this crap when we were dating. If we hung out all day and he didn’t even acknowledge me and then wanted sex at night, that would be a negative. I was never the type he could text at 11 to NETFLIX and chill. I remember planned fun dates, flirting, back rubs, and making out first. Revisionist history on their part.

Man here and this is a legit post. But like someone said upthread, it becomes a cycle, where she rejects him because he didn't approach her with enough preparation, he gets pouty, he's less attractive to her, they have less sex, he gives up and ends up cheating.

Tale as old as time.

Again, it's really just biology. It's much, much harder for a man to seduce his wife than a strange woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My post menopausal no libido wife has sex with me twice per week because

A) I am a good partner to her
B) I refuse to accept a monogamous sexless marriage

So OP my advice to you is .... see A and B above.

What if her attitude when you go for it is...ok fine, get it over with please. Still do it? I couldn't bring myself to impose myself at that point. It became humiliation. I found a coworker in the same situation as me whose husband rejects her. I hate the sneaking around but it's better than a pity session.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men: Ew, sluts are gross, women who like sex are whores, they all have loose vaginas, nasty.

Married Men: Ew, my wife doesn't want sex?? I married a nice virgin and she didn't turn into a porn star?? This is a scam. I hate women.

This describes not a single man I know although admittedly I am not part of a religious community

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men: Ew, sluts are gross, women who like sex are whores, they all have loose vaginas, nasty.

Married Men: Ew, my wife doesn't want sex?? I married a nice virgin and she didn't turn into a porn star?? This is a scam. I hate women.

Men don’t call women whores. Only other women do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I've said before, there is no better place I've found on the internet to convince me to never get married again. I'll never have a GF that gets away with denying me sex, no matter her perceived good reasons.

You think you are entitled to sex. That is very rapey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men: Ew, sluts are gross, women who like sex are whores, they all have loose vaginas, nasty.

Married Men: Ew, my wife doesn't want sex?? I married a nice virgin and she didn't turn into a porn star?? This is a scam. I hate women.

Men don’t crmen whores. Only other women do.

100% false.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men: Ew, sluts are gross, women who like sex are whores, they all have loose vaginas, nasty.

Married Men: Ew, my wife doesn't want sex?? I married a nice virgin and she didn't turn into a porn star?? This is a scam. I hate women.

Men don’t call women whores. Only other women do.

Yes, men call women whores. Go visit reddit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

I don't do that -- I already know DW won't do it if she's tired so end of day sex wil never happen. It's one of the many pre-requisites that needs to be met for successful sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm LOLing at all these men talking about being "rejected". If you're poking your exhausted wife in the back with your d*ick at the end of a long day and she's not interested, that's not rejection. You simply know nothing about your wife at all, and the vast majority of women. If you want a positive response to that kind of initiation, you should have married a man or you should get divorced and pay women to have sex with you.

+1. And for men to say that women are changing the goal posts makes me LOL even more. As if they could’ve pulled this crap when we were dating. If we hung out all day and he didn’t even acknowledge me and then wanted sex at night, that would be a negative. I was never the type he could text at 11 to NETFLIX and chill. I remember planned fun dates, flirting, back rubs, and making out first. Revisionist history on their part.

Again ladies: sounds like YOU do absolutely NOTHING for sex and romance in your marriage.
Ironic that you think the men are the lazy entitled jerks.

Wow PP you have Issues. Are you the famous Sexless Marriage Guy?

And if anyone reading this thinks women wanting affection and attention before sex- this is part of being in an adult relationship with a human being. Get a sex robot if you can't manage to do that.