My gf slept with someone while we were broken up. Now I’m unsure if I want to be with her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, should she have spent months pining for you and remained single and celibate in case you deigned that you wanted to come back? What sort of a pathetic woman does this and why would you want one of those?

I’m not saying she should’ve waited but what does that mean if she can quickly hop into bed with someone else? She couldn’t have really cared about us if she did that so soon.

It means you guys were broken up. What do you think the definition of break up is?
Also, you slept with someone too.

Do you come with this fine print “if we date and we break up but get together within 6 months and you sleep with someone else in the first 60 days of said breakup, then I will fixate on this and use it to judge your character as a human and potential girlfriend. As the boyfriend I am exempt from such policy though as I do not want to be held to such a standard. Proceed with caution.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be the same OP. you are probably the girlfriend. Both of you need to grow up.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/949220.page

Agree +1

Same communication stay and anxious attachment style.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, should she have spent months pining for you and remained single and celibate in case you deigned that you wanted to come back? What sort of a pathetic woman does this and why would you want one of those?

I’m not saying she should’ve waited but what does that mean if she can quickly hop into bed with someone else? She couldn’t have really cared about us if she did that so soon.

It means you guys were broken up. What do you think the definition of break up is?
Also, you slept with someone too.

Do you come with this fine print “if we date and we break up but get together within 6 months and you sleep with someone else in the first 60 days of said breakup, then I will fixate on this and use it to judge your character as a human and potential girlfriend. As the boyfriend I am exempt from such policy though as I do not want to be held to such a standard. Proceed with caution.”

This.

OP you’re coming off as very unhinged. I mean this in the nicest way...it’s a good thing you’re going to therapy.

[Anonymous]

You're both ho's.

[Anonymous]

Do you have an ancestral village than can supply a virgin? If not, you need therapy.

Probably therapy is the most important step.

[Anonymous]

OP, the reality of your situation is that she was able to replace you very quickly, which means she really wasn't that into you in the first place. You likely dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're both ho's.

Oh please shut up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, the reality of your situation is that she was able to replace you very quickly, which means she really wasn't that into you in the first place. You likely dodged a bullet.

Is this what the Pick Up Artist book said?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, the reality of your situation is that she was able to replace you very quickly, which means she really wasn't that into you in the first place. You likely dodged a bullet.

Is this what the Pick Up Artist book said?

No, it's what the facts say, but don't let those get in the way of your narrative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the reality of your situation is that she was able to replace you very quickly, which means she really wasn't that into you in the first place. You likely dodged a bullet.

Is this what the Pick Up Artist book said?

No, it's what the facts say, but don't let those get in the way of your narrative.

Ah, yes the “facts”. Must be incel facts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the reality of your situation is that she was able to replace you very quickly, which means she really wasn't that into you in the first place. You likely dodged a bullet.

Is this what the Pick Up Artist book said?

No, it's what the facts say, but don't let those get in the way of your narrative.

Ah, yes the “facts”. Must be incel facts.

So, OP's post is now "incel facts." Okay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

This is not a situation where anyone did anything that wrong. It was okay to be separated for awhile, it was okay to see and/or sleep with other people while apart, it was okay to get back together, it was okay for you to have doubts, and it was okay for her to reconsider and not want to wait on you.

OP, it's probably over, and nobody is the bad guy. It just didn't work.

Meh. OP is kind of the bad guy. If you break up with someone, it’s okay to get back together. However the mind games OP is playing are not okay and it’s probably the reason for the original break up.

What mind games? If he doesn’t want to move forward that’s his right.

NP but asking if she slept with anyone while she was single and then punishing her for telling the truth because 1) she had sex too soon (slutty!) and/or/but 2) she must have really liked the guy (not slutty, too emotionally available?), but really 3) he's mad she beat him off the blocks. . . if it's not mind games it's just extreme immaturity. Plus, he didn't say he didn't want to move forward, he said he wants 3 days to think it over. That's very manipulative.

Don't ask questions you don't want answers to, and don't demand fidelity from someone you're not in a relationship with. He sounds like he only asked her if she slept with someone so he could tell her that he did, hoping for a reaction or to seem like he's got options, and is pouting because it didn't work out that way.

I think his game is he wants her to beg him to forgive her. He got off hearing about her other exploits. Now he wants to punish her for the (totally normal) thing she did. Now his thing is that she has to grovel for him to take her back.

Who the heck knows what he'll demand of her next time. What an emotionally manipulative jerk. She's better off without him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the reality of your situation is that she was able to replace you very quickly, which means she really wasn't that into you in the first place. You likely dodged a bullet.

Is this what the Pick Up Artist book said?

No, it's what the facts say, but don't let those get in the way of your narrative.

Ah, yes the “facts”. Must be incel facts.

So, OP's post is now "incel facts." Okay.

Sleeping with other people while being BROKEN up is perfectly fine and understandable. Your theory of that means she wasn’t into him is incredibly wrong and unfounded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

We were on a BREAK, Ross!!!!