My gf slept with someone while we were broken up. Now I’m unsure if I want to be with her.

[Anonymous]

So we broke up in October and went officially NC in December. I asked her when we got back together if she slept with someone and she told me she didn’t want to lie and she told me yes. Come to find out it was a month after we broke up that she slept with someone. I’ll admit I did too, but it wasn’t until February that I slept with someone. My issue is: 1. She’s not the type to sleep around so she must’ve had feelings for him although she claims she didn’t. 2. How she slept with someone before me - it was just so fast.

Now that I know she slept with someone else I’m not sure if I want to be with her anymore. Anyone else been through this?

[Anonymous]

You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Omg you sound so high maintenance and unfair - Rachel!! You were on a break. Get over it or move on.

[Anonymous]

Dump her, she deserves better.

[Anonymous]

I hope you are a troll.

She was mature enough to tell you the truth when you asked her. She trusted you would be mature as well. You slept with someone, too.

She should run. You clearly aren’t in love with her if you would cast her aside for this. You have weird issues.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are the arsehole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

[Anonymous]

I think the OP is the girl and the she's talking about her boyfriend. She switched genders for the post.

[Anonymous]

You were broken up. It’s very easy for women to find men to have sex with. She didn’t do anything wrong. You expected her to not have sex with anyone even though you guys were no longer dating and were broken up clearly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

She's right. It's either f--- yes or f--- no. She doesn't need to wait around while you "think" if you're OK with her doing what you did.

[Anonymous]

Dump her and don't get another one, ever! There is no reason for you to play this girlfriend/boyfriend crap. Stay single.

[Anonymous]

She waited an entire month.

That’s a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

This is not a situation where anyone did anything that wrong. It was okay to be separated for awhile, it was okay to see and/or sleep with other people while apart, it was okay to get back together, it was okay for you to have doubts, and it was okay for her to reconsider and not want to wait on you.

OP, it's probably over, and nobody is the bad guy. It just didn't work.

[Anonymous]

More fish in the sea. Dump her...