My gf slept with someone while we were broken up. Now I’m unsure if I want to be with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

She's right. It's either f--- yes or f--- no. She doesn't need to wait around while you "think" if you're OK with her doing what you did.

+1 more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the OP is the girl and the she's talking about her boyfriend. She switched genders for the post.

I think you’re actually OP and the bF trying to glean thoughts on whether I want to take your skanky ass back.

The answer is no.


If you were honest, it could have been a maybe. Asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

She's right. It's either f--- yes or f--- no. She doesn't need to wait around while you "think" if you're OK with her doing what you did.

+2 You're being manipulative trying to decide if you'll forgive her for the same behavior as yours. You shouldn't be together. Move on for her sake, this won't last.

[Anonymous]

A few days is not an entire month, OP. She was gracious. And it was probably a revenge relationship - she didn't need to "develop feelings" for that person.

You seem exceedingly immature. I hope you're in your early 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
A few days is not an entire month, OP. She was gracious. And it was probably a revenge relationship - she didn't need to "develop feelings" for that person.

You seem exceedingly immature. I hope you're in your early 20s.

Nope. Try stunted 40s, an old man filled with regret. On a mommy board, bored and boorish.

[Anonymous]

How old are you? You sound like you need to mature a bit before you start dating anyone seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

Again, you deserve to be alone. You can have a one night stand, but she can't? Can't you see how that's a double standard and hypocritical of you? It was unfair of YOU to judge her. She deserves better.

[Anonymous]

Not sure if OP is the guy or the girl in this situation. But the girl deserves better than that guy.

[Anonymous]

Ross? Is that you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we broke up in October and went officially NC in December. I asked her when we got back together if she slept with someone and she told me she didn’t want to lie and she told me yes. Come to find out it was a month after we broke up that she slept with someone. I’ll admit I did too, but it wasn’t until February that I slept with someone. My issue is: 1. She’s not the type to sleep around so she must’ve had feelings for him although she claims she didn’t. 2. How she slept with someone before me - it was just so fast.

Now that I know she slept with someone else I’m not sure if I want to be with her anymore. Anyone else been through this?

So the guy seems to admit that he's the type to sleep around. Yet another reason to dump him.

[Anonymous]

Oh my gosh I can’t ✋🏼
You are jealous.
This is called a double standard.
This relationship sounds exhausting.
If you can’t get over it then do both of you a favor and end it now.
She was correct to walk out and set a clear boundary with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we broke up in October and went officially NC in December. I asked her when we got back together if she slept with someone and she told me she didn’t want to lie and she told me yes. Come to find out it was a month after we broke up that she slept with someone. I’ll admit I did too, but it wasn’t until February that I slept with someone. My issue is: 1. She’s not the type to sleep around so she must’ve had feelings for him although she claims she didn’t. 2. How she slept with someone before me - it was just so fast.

Now that I know she slept with someone else I’m not sure if I want to be with her anymore. Anyone else been through this?

So the guy seems to admit that he's the type to sleep around. Yet another reason to dump him.

Word to yo mother. Forizzeal. He had no keep for unicorns!

[Anonymous]

Look, you separated for a reason. The relationship was already having problems.

You tried getting back together, but you weren't enthusiastic about it. You needed time to make the call. She didn't, in the context of an already problematic relationship and this newfound lukewarm nature of your reaction.

It's fine. It's done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

Again, you deserve to be alone. You can have a one night stand, but she can't? Can't you see how that's a double standard and hypocritical of you? It was unfair of YOU to judge her. She deserves better.

It wasn’t a one night stand. She slept with him a couple of times.