My gf slept with someone while we were broken up. Now I’m unsure if I want to be with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone slept around that quickly after breaking up with me, I would definitely not get back together with them

Guy here. I wouldn’t take her back. I wouldn’t get that out of my mind. Perhaps more importantly once you break up getting back together is a bad idea. Unless it was a few years later and you’ve each developed and changed and each had other meaningful relationships.

You wouldn’t take her back because she was SINGLE? But it’s okay for you to have slept with someone else during the breakup?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone slept around that quickly after breaking up with me, I would definitely not get back together with them

Guy here. I wouldn’t take her back. I wouldn’t get that out of my mind. Perhaps more importantly once you break up getting back together is a bad idea. Unless it was a few years later and you’ve each developed and changed and each had other meaningful relationships.

This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read. So you wouldn’t take her back because you wouldn’t be able to get the idea that she slept with someone else out of your head, but you’d get back with an ex down the road after she’s had a meaningful relationship aka slept with at least one other person.

Make it make sense.

[Anonymous]

So you can sleep with others but she can't. She should move on. She can do better.

[Anonymous]

In need more snarky Kamala gifs.

OP it’s weird that you even asked her, except maybe for the purpose of knowing if you both need to get tested for STIs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If someone slept around that quickly after breaking up with me, I would definitely not get back together with them

Men have to finally admit the one advantage women have over us - getting sex with no effort so soon. Even Mama June got laid.

[Anonymous]

You do not own her whether you are together or not. You see her like a possession albeit one with autonomy, but only at your direction.

Remember that anyone is free to do whatever they like- in or out of a relationship. They choose to stay. They choose to love you. They choose to put effort and time in you and your relationship.

She told you the truth when asked- that shows a lot about her.

[Anonymous]

I’m curious to see....how many men on here think OP is in the wrong here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone slept around that quickly after breaking up with me, I would definitely not get back together with them

Guy here. I wouldn’t take her back. I wouldn’t get that out of my mind. Perhaps more importantly once you break up getting back together is a bad idea. Unless it was a few years later and you’ve each developed and changed and each had other meaningful relationships.

This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read. So you wouldn’t take her back because you wouldn’t be able to get the idea that she slept with someone else out of your head, but you’d get back with an ex down the road after she’s had a meaningful relationship aka slept with at least one other person.

Make it make sense.

The skewing with someone else so soon after breakup (for both of them) will define the relationship. If they let time pass there’s a chance they can reconnect later and this break thing will be old news. It’s too fresh.

[Anonymous]

You should let her go and do some serious introspection before getting involved in another relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone slept around that quickly after breaking up with me, I would definitely not get back together with them

Guy here. I wouldn’t take her back. I wouldn’t get that out of my mind. Perhaps more importantly once you break up getting back together is a bad idea. Unless it was a few years later and you’ve each developed and changed and each had other meaningful relationships.

This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read. So you wouldn’t take her back because you wouldn’t be able to get the idea that she slept with someone else out of your head, but you’d get back with an ex down the road after she’s had a meaningful relationship aka slept with at least one other person.

Make it make sense.

The skewing with someone else so soon after breakup (for both of them) will define the relationship. If they let time pass there’s a chance they can reconnect later and this break thing will be old news. It’s too fresh.

A month after going NC isn’t “so soon”, especially when they had technically been broken up for 4 months.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

This is not a situation where anyone did anything that wrong. It was okay to be separated for awhile, it was okay to see and/or sleep with other people while apart, it was okay to get back together, it was okay for you to have doubts, and it was okay for her to reconsider and not want to wait on you.

OP, it's probably over, and nobody is the bad guy. It just didn't work.

Meh. OP is kind of the bad guy. If you break up with someone, it’s okay to get back together. However the mind games OP is playing are not okay and it’s probably the reason for the original break up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

This is not a situation where anyone did anything that wrong. It was okay to be separated for awhile, it was okay to see and/or sleep with other people while apart, it was okay to get back together, it was okay for you to have doubts, and it was okay for her to reconsider and not want to wait on you.

OP, it's probably over, and nobody is the bad guy. It just didn't work.

Meh. OP is kind of the bad guy. If you break up with someone, it’s okay to get back together. However the mind games OP is playing are not okay and it’s probably the reason for the original break up.

What mind games? If he doesn’t want to move forward that’s his right.

[Anonymous]

You should get together one night and both describe in great detail how the sex went with the other person. Then incorporate anything new that you learned from it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

Dumb move. I hope you know, she's already banged that other guy again. But this time, she won't tell you.

[Anonymous]

Man up and move on. You can't handle this woman. The next time you fight, she will get over you by getting under another man even faster than before only she won't tell you. This relationship is doomed because you can't get this out of your head.