My gf slept with someone while we were broken up. Now I’m unsure if I want to be with her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, should she have spent months pining for you and remained single and celibate in case you deigned that you wanted to come back? What sort of a pathetic woman does this and why would you want one of those?

I’m not saying she should’ve waited but what does that mean if she can quickly hop into bed with someone else? She couldn’t have really cared about us if she did that so soon.

Ummm...I think it says “I am single now because my boyfriend and I broke up so I don’t need to justify my choices to anyone it me.”
Why?
Did you think it meant “I guess my orgasms don’t need a mourning period to get over the breakup.” ??
Yeah, I guess it could be saying that too.

But mostly I’d say it’s none of your business what it “says” because you weren’t her boyfriend at that time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

Dumb move. I hope you know, she's already banged that other guy again. But this time, she won't tell you.

Why would you say that she already “banged” the guy? All because she slept with him before?

Yes, that's exactly why I said it. He's an easy booty call now for when you piss her off, or can't decide if you want a relationship. And I'm totally serious. You don't seem to know much about women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You were ON A BREAK! Plus, YOU DID THE SAME DAMN THING! Holy double-standard, Batman!

You deserve to be alone.

I told her to give me a few days to think it over and she flipped. She said she wasn’t going to wait for someone to do with her life especially when I had slept with someone. That either I was 100% or 100% out. I said I was unsure again and she stormed out.

I thought it was unfair of her not to give me a few days to think.

Dumb move. I hope you know, she's already banged that other guy again. But this time, she won't tell you.

Why would you say that she already “banged” the guy? All because she slept with him before?

Yes, that's exactly why I said it. He's an easy booty call now for when you piss her off, or can't decide if you want a relationship. And I'm totally serious. You don't seem to know much about women.

I’m a woman so I think I know A LOT about women. Sleeping with someone during a breakup doesn’t mean a woman is going to keep sleeping with someone. You’re conflating two things. One has nothing to do with the other.

[Anonymous]

Women "break up" all the time so they can sleep with someone else. I wouldn't want her back either. But, I don't break up to make up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women "break up" all the time so they can sleep with someone else. I wouldn't want her back either. But, I don't break up to make up.

She didn’t ask for me back. I reached out to her to reconcile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women "break up" all the time so they can sleep with someone else. I wouldn't want her back either. But, I don't break up to make up.

OP just said HE asked for her back.

So your dumb women break up all the time to sleep with someone else is completely wrong. Please make sure you get all the facts before you spew incorrect and ignorant things about women.

[Anonymous]

YOU WERE ON A BREAK (from Ross- am I old to remember this)? The idea that you don't believe her seems more problematic than the situation.

[Anonymous]

Hm. You’re more replaceable than she is, as I see it. I’d get in on that, if I were you.

[Anonymous]

What do you think she’s doing right now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you think she’s doing right now?

Does it matter? She needs to get away from this jerk.

[Anonymous]

This is one of the reasons breaks don't work. Either you are together or you're not -- there is no in between. Nothing good comes from a break. Life is not the movies dude. You've now learned your lesson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the reasons breaks don't work. Either you are together or you're not -- there is no in between. Nothing good comes from a break. Life is not the movies dude. You've now learned your lesson.

That’s what makes this worse. They were completely broken up! He’s acting like a big baby because she wasn’t chaste when they were no longer together smh.

[Anonymous]

OP, check yourself. You sound controlling and misogynistic. You were BROKEN UP. If you had never gotten back together, of course, she should have moved on. She can have “mourning/ break-up sex” as she tries to get over her break-up with you. She can fall in love. She can think a relationship has potential and then have it fall apart. She can have a one-night stand if she wants. The point is, it’s her life and her decision. You had sex with someone else so I just don’t understand all the pearl clutching about her decision when you were BROKEN UP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, check yourself. You sound controlling and misogynistic. You were BROKEN UP. If you had never gotten back together, of course, she should have moved on. She can have “mourning/ break-up sex” as she tries to get over her break-up with you. She can fall in love. She can think a relationship has potential and then have it fall apart. She can have a one-night stand if she wants. The point is, it’s her life and her decision. You had sex with someone else so I just don’t understand all the pearl clutching about her decision when you were BROKEN UP.

Do you think just because they were broken up he has to be okay with it? You can’t help how feel. I genuinely would like to understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, check yourself. You sound controlling and misogynistic. You were BROKEN UP. If you had never gotten back together, of course, she should have moved on. She can have “mourning/ break-up sex” as she tries to get over her break-up with you. She can fall in love. She can think a relationship has potential and then have it fall apart. She can have a one-night stand if she wants. The point is, it’s her life and her decision. You had sex with someone else so I just don’t understand all the pearl clutching about her decision when you were BROKEN UP.

OP doesn’t deserve a unicorn. He can’t even keep the stable horse he ran around with out of familiarity. It’s too much work for someone like him, with such limited capacity for growth and change.