Does he want his ex back? I’m flying out to spend Valentine’s Day with him tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

I (27/f) met a guy (30) about a month ago through my cousin. My cousin went to school with him and they became best friends, like brother and sister actually. Anyways, I moved back to my hometown about 2 months ago and started hanging out my cousin again. We all hung out as a group and I developed an interest in this guy. We eventually exchanged numbers. My cousin found out and warned me that he had just gotten out of a serious relationship. I asked for more details (how long ago, length of the relationship, etc.)

So the backstory - he was with her for almost 2 years, she was his first very serious adult relationship, he wanted to marry her. They broke up in October but officially stopped talking in December - they had planned for him to spend Xmas with her family. Apparently, he was kind of being jackass towards the end of the relationship and so she said that either they go to couples counseling or he could walk. He told her he wasn’t going to go. So she just told him “okay” then left. They haven’t talked since (December).

As I mentioned he and my cousin are like brother and sister so they hang out quite a bit and he confides in her. My cousin told me that he watches her stories every single time she posts. He liked a post 2 weeks ago that said, “the person you’re stressing over, well they’re f**king someone else, let it go.” Or just a few days ago, “don’t lose your mind over someone who doesn’t mind losing you.” My cousin also told me that it was the ex’s mom’s birthday on the 31st, well he texted the mom happy birthday. My cousin noted that he and the mom weren’t extremely close. Got along, but not close.

He was out a few days ago and got some free merchandise (beenie hats) from a law firm that happened to be the ex’s name. He posted a story saying “oh I got free merchandise from *insert law firm/ex’s name”. My cousin thought he did this on purpose to get her attention, I however just thought it was coincidence and he wanted to show off the free merchandise. Two nights ago he posted a meme that said, “Are you gorilla glue because I can’t can’t get my mind off of you” then with the letters/caption MED under the post. My cousin said the ex’s full name is (changed for post), Mary Elizabeth Donaldson - the ex’s initials are MED. Is that just coincidence?

So after my cousin told me all of this I confided in my best friend. My best friend said she believes he still wants to be with his ex. I disagree, if he still wanted to be with her he wouldn’t forming other relationships with women, aka me. I do, however, still think he’s just grieving the relationship. You can still care about someone and not still want to be with him (why he told her no to counseling) and I’m flying out to spend the Valentine’s Day weekend with him. If I’m with him this weekend it clearly means he doesn’t want her back, IMO.

So does he still want to be with his ex?

[Anonymous]

You don’t have much experience with men do you? Of course he wants the ex back. You’re a bed warmer until then. And there are others. Have a fun weekend but just remember your place.

[Anonymous]

Does he do anything to show that he's into you?

[Anonymous]

Maybe. See how it goes. Don’t have sex with him if you aren’t ok with sleeping someone who isn’t committed to a relationship with you.

But I also wonder if Your cousin might be into him and thus telling you these stories with a slant to keep you away from him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have much experience with men do you? Of course he wants the ex back. You’re a bed warmer until then. And there are others. Have a fun weekend but just remember your place.

Why are you saying of course he wants her back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he do anything to show that he's into you?

Him wanting to come spend Valentine’s weekend with him? Isn’t that obvious enough?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe. See how it goes. Don’t have sex with him if you aren’t ok with sleeping someone who isn’t committed to a relationship with you.

But I also wonder if Your cousin might be into him and thus telling you these stories with a slant to keep you away from him.

My cousin is a lesbian. This is why they’ve been so close for so long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have much experience with men do you? Of course he wants the ex back. You’re a bed warmer until then. And there are others. Have a fun weekend but just remember your place.

Why are you saying of course he wants her back?

Read what you wrote. Your friend is right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he do anything to show that he's into you?

Him wanting to come spend Valentine’s weekend with him? Isn’t that obvious enough?

It doesn't say that in the post. It just says she's flying out to be with him.

Are there any other actions/words that he says to you specifically indicating he likes you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have much experience with men do you? Of course he wants the ex back. You’re a bed warmer until then. And there are others. Have a fun weekend but just remember your place.

Why are you saying of course he wants her back?

Read what you wrote. Your friend is right.

Because he was being nice to her mom and showed off a beenie hat? That’s nothing lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he do anything to show that he's into you?

Him wanting to come spend Valentine’s weekend with him? Isn’t that obvious enough?

If he was so into you, he’d come to you. Instead your going to him. It’s just bed warming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he do anything to show that he's into you?

Him wanting to come spend Valentine’s weekend with him? Isn’t that obvious enough?

It doesn't say that in the post. It just says she's flying out to be with him.

Are there any other actions/words that he says to you specifically indicating he likes you?

Well we’ve been communicating frequently ever since December/they broke up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have much experience with men do you? Of course he wants the ex back. You’re a bed warmer until then. And there are others. Have a fun weekend but just remember your place.

Why are you saying of course he wants her back?

Read what you wrote. Your friend is right.

Because he was being nice to her mom and showed off a beenie hat? That’s nothing lol.

I don't think OP really wants help here. She's arguing with every single reply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have much experience with men do you? Of course he wants the ex back. You’re a bed warmer until then. And there are others. Have a fun weekend but just remember your place.

Why are you saying of course he wants her back?

Read what you wrote. Your friend is right.

Because he was being nice to her mom and showed off a beenie hat? That’s nothing lol.

🤷🏻‍♀️You desperately see what you want. But your cousin is telling you he’s not over his ex, and remember that’s his friend. And YOUR friend also can see it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have much experience with men do you? Of course he wants the ex back. You’re a bed warmer until then. And there are others. Have a fun weekend but just remember your place.

Why are you saying of course he wants her back?

Read what you wrote. Your friend is right.

Because he was being nice to her mom and showed off a beenie hat? That’s nothing lol.

I don't think OP really wants help here. She's arguing with every single reply.

Most likely another troll since it’s a late night thread.