What to do about daughter’s classmate? Outspoken racist parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, this is the kind of stuff people did in Nazi Germany.
Their daughters were friends with the little Jewish girls until they weren't. Then the Jewish girls were excluded from the birthday parties.

Sure exclude the Jews, Muslims, Christians, Yazidis, and Republicans and Democrats.

You end up with Communist China or Soviet Russia.

Nobody is excluding people because of religion of political affiliation. They are excluding a racist.

Excluding based on some beliefs is OK, but not other beliefs.

Yes, actually, excluding a bigoted family is fine. I do not have to be tolerant of racism. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless there’s something specific that’s happened to your daughter by this kid you should just invite her.

Op here. She didn’t do anything specific to my child. But last summer there was a birthday party for another kid, at which a little boy of Latin American descent was a guest. The girl in question told him that he needed to prove to everyone he’s American otherwise he didn’t belong at the party. They were all seven years old at the time. Seven. My daughter wasn’t at that party but apparently the little boy went home in tears and all the other parents were outraged.

I want my home to be a safe place for all kids. I don’t want any child to experience this kind of hatred and to invite her would feel like I’m just turning a blind eye to it.

I’d probably talk to the parents directly and let them know we’d like to invite their daughter, but if anything like the above is said, they will be asked to leave. Then leave it up to them if they want to come or not.

I feel so bad for that poor girl. She’s just parroting what her parents say and doesn’t realize the impact it will have on her life.

I feel worse for the little boy who had to put up with her racist bullying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, this is the kind of stuff people did in Nazi Germany.
Their daughters were friends with the little Jewish girls until they weren't. Then the Jewish girls were excluded from the birthday parties.

Sure exclude the Jews, Muslims, Christians, Yazidis, and Republicans and Democrats.

You end up with Communist China or Soviet Russia.

Nobody is excluding people because of religion of political affiliation. They are excluding a racist.

Excluding based on some beliefs is OK, but not other beliefs.

Yes, actually, excluding a bigoted family is fine. I do not have to be tolerant of racism. Sorry.

Correct exlcuding someone based on their race is wrong. Excluding someone who is a racist is not. But I suspect original PP knows this.

[Anonymous]

OP, I didn't even read the other responses here. And I have never responded like this to any single post here. But you are disgusting human being and setting a horrible example for your daughter. And by the way, I know exactly who you are talking about and shame on you for judging that little girl. You should be ashamed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, this is the kind of stuff people did in Nazi Germany.
Their daughters were friends with the little Jewish girls until they weren't. Then the Jewish girls were excluded from the birthday parties.

Sure exclude the Jews, Muslims, Christians, Yazidis, and Republicans and Democrats.

You end up with Communist China or Soviet Russia.

Nobody is excluding people because of religion of political affiliation. They are excluding a racist.

Excluding based on some beliefs is OK, but not other beliefs.

Yes, actually, excluding a bigoted family is fine. I do not have to be tolerant of racism. Sorry.

+1. I’m always so confused why types like PP always think that their having a belief in their own racial superiority should be respected and protected in the same way as being a practicing Jew or Christian or Muslim or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless there’s something specific that’s happened to your daughter by this kid you should just invite her.

Op here. She didn’t do anything specific to my child. But last summer there was a birthday party for another kid, at which a little boy of Latin American descent was a guest. The girl in question told him that he needed to prove to everyone he’s American otherwise he didn’t belong at the party. They were all seven years old at the time. Seven. My daughter wasn’t at that party but apparently the little boy went home in tears and all the other parents were outraged.

I want my home to be a safe place for all kids. I don’t want any child to experience this kind of hatred and to invite her would feel like I’m just turning a blind eye to it.

Oh yeah right. I call bs.

Agree. OP is either a troll, a miserable horrible person, or straight up lier. I would guess it's all of the above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I didn't even read the other responses here. And I have never responded like this to any single post here. But you are disgusting human being and setting a horrible example for your daughter. And by the way, I know exactly who you are talking about and shame on you for judging that little girl. You should be ashamed.

If you had read the part about the little girl sending a Latino boy home from a party in tears last summer I think you’d change your tune.

Also this is a country of 300+ millioN people. I’m so sure you know exactly who OP is talking about. Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I didn't even read the other responses here. And I have never responded like this to any single post here. But you are disgusting human being and setting a horrible example for your daughter. And by the way, I know exactly who you are talking about and shame on you for judging that little girl. You should be ashamed.

I get it pp. I would be upset too if I was married to Alex Jones...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let your daughter invite her friend. If the friend or parents say anything inappropriate, ask them to leave

I honestly don't know. I think I would like to go with this, but I would not what to have an outspoken racist in my home. Racism isn't a political belief. It's not a different culture or religion, such that the excuse your child needs to interact with all kinds of people would apply.


The child has already repeated the racist rhetoric of her parent. How many of OP's daughter's other friends will allow them to go to the party? I know I wouldn't allow my child to attend or play with a child who was doing this, whose parents encouraged it.

I wouldn't want to allow myself to be used to normalize racism.

At the same time, the child in question is only 8 still pretty young. If she was just a few years older I would have no problem telling my child she was not welcome, and would hope by age 11 or so my child would have the wisdom to identify and not want to associate with someone racist.


So I think I am leaning towards allowing the girl to come, but any hint of racism she is gone, immediately, never to be invited back again.

I also hope , OP, you are talking with your daughter regularly about things she may have heard or seen from her friend, and what she can do or say in response.

Well, neither OP or her daughter have seen or heard anything. Just acting on rumor, supposition, and bias. Being conservative doesn't make you racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless there’s something specific that’s happened to your daughter by this kid you should just invite her.

Op here. She didn’t do anything specific to my child. But last summer there was a birthday party for another kid, at which a little boy of Latin American descent was a guest. The girl in question told him that he needed to prove to everyone he’s American otherwise he didn’t belong at the party. They were all seven years old at the time. Seven. My daughter wasn’t at that party but apparently the little boy went home in tears and all the other parents were outraged.

I want my home to be a safe place for all kids. I don’t want any child to experience this kind of hatred and to invite her would feel like I’m just turning a blind eye to it.

Oh yeah right. I call bs.

Agree. OP is either a troll, a miserable horrible person, or straight up lier. I would guess it's all of the above.

What’s a lier?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My elementary aged daughter goes to school with a little girl who is the daughter of a well known alt right media personality. My daughter is having a birthday party (outdoor in case you’re wondering) and wants to invite about a third of the little girls in her class to attend, with the aforementioned child being one of them.

I’m having some serious misgivings about allowing this. There have been indications from other parents that this child is already getting into the racist, nationalist rhetoric that her parent spouts on air and on social media. I haven’t witnessed it but with the way things are in this country and the fact that kids are so impressionable I want nothing to do with this girl or her family. I’m having guilt about excluding a child especially when it’s not her fault that her parent is so vicious, but I want my daughter to grow up knowing that this kind of thing has no place in society and doesn’t get rewarded with an invitation to a birthday party. The girls aren’t even close, for what it’s worth.

Please help me think this through and how i should approach it with my daughter. She’s 8.

Would you really punish a little girl for her parent's beliefs? Why not show kindness so she can see how people should live.

+1 You can be a racist, a bigot, or both OP. Or you can be none of them. Choose none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let your daughter invite her friend. If the friend or parents say anything inappropriate, ask them to leave

I honestly don't know. I think I would like to go with this, but I would not what to have an outspoken racist in my home. Racism isn't a political belief. It's not a different culture or religion, such that the excuse your child needs to interact with all kinds of people would apply.


The child has already repeated the racist rhetoric of her parent. How many of OP's daughter's other friends will allow them to go to the party? I know I wouldn't allow my child to attend or play with a child who was doing this, whose parents encouraged it.

I wouldn't want to allow myself to be used to normalize racism.

At the same time, the child in question is only 8 still pretty young. If she was just a few years older I would have no problem telling my child she was not welcome, and would hope by age 11 or so my child would have the wisdom to identify and not want to associate with someone racist.


So I think I am leaning towards allowing the girl to come, but any hint of racism she is gone, immediately, never to be invited back again.

I also hope , OP, you are talking with your daughter regularly about things she may have heard or seen from her friend, and what she can do or say in response.

Well, neither OP or her daughter have seen or heard anything. Just acting on rumor, supposition, and bias. Being conservative doesn't make you racist.

Your reading comprehension isn’t too sharp, huh? Girl’s parents are literally white supremicists. Girl asked Latino boy to prove he’s American in front of a group of other children. I agree that not all conservatives are racist. But this girl and her parents certainly are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let your daughter invite her friend. If the friend or parents say anything inappropriate, ask them to leave

I honestly don't know. I think I would like to go with this, but I would not what to have an outspoken racist in my home. Racism isn't a political belief. It's not a different culture or religion, such that the excuse your child needs to interact with all kinds of people would apply.


The child has already repeated the racist rhetoric of her parent. How many of OP's daughter's other friends will allow them to go to the party? I know I wouldn't allow my child to attend or play with a child who was doing this, whose parents encouraged it.

I wouldn't want to allow myself to be used to normalize racism.

At the same time, the child in question is only 8 still pretty young. If she was just a few years older I would have no problem telling my child she was not welcome, and would hope by age 11 or so my child would have the wisdom to identify and not want to associate with someone racist.


So I think I am leaning towards allowing the girl to come, but any hint of racism she is gone, immediately, never to be invited back again.

I also hope , OP, you are talking with your daughter regularly about things she may have heard or seen from her friend, and what she can do or say in response.

Well, neither OP or her daughter have seen or heard anything. Just acting on rumor, supposition, and bias. Being conservative doesn't make you racist.

If a bunch of other parents were talking about the incident it’s unlikely it’s a rumor. Just like evidence at a crime scene points to a crime having taken place, even if you weren’t there to witness it. Man you racists will do anything to normalize and justify your behavior.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, no. My family doesn’t extend invites to racist families. I’m not sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless there’s something specific that’s happened to your daughter by this kid you should just invite her.

Op here. She didn’t do anything specific to my child. But last summer there was a birthday party for another kid, at which a little boy of Latin American descent was a guest. The girl in question told him that he needed to prove to everyone he’s American otherwise he didn’t belong at the party. They were all seven years old at the time. Seven. My daughter wasn’t at that party but apparently the little boy went home in tears and all the other parents were outraged.

I want my home to be a safe place for all kids. I don’t want any child to experience this kind of hatred and to invite her would feel like I’m just turning a blind eye to it.

Oh yeah right. I call bs.

Agree. OP is either a troll, a miserable horrible person, or straight up lier. I would guess it's all of the above.

What’s a lier?

You can’t figure out what PP meant? I thought all DCUM posters were highly educated. I went to a crappy college and even I understood what she meant.