What to do about daughter’s classmate? Outspoken racist parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless there’s something specific that’s happened to your daughter by this kid you should just invite her.

Op here. She didn’t do anything specific to my child. But last summer there was a birthday party for another kid, at which a little boy of Latin American descent was a guest. The girl in question told him that he needed to prove to everyone he’s American otherwise he didn’t belong at the party. They were all seven years old at the time. Seven. My daughter wasn’t at that party but apparently the little boy went home in tears and all the other parents were outraged.

I want my home to be a safe place for all kids. I don’t want any child to experience this kind of hatred and to invite her would feel like I’m just turning a blind eye to it.

Oh yeah right. I call bs.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like an urban legend to me.

[Anonymous]

Does this thread look strangely familiar to anyone else??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless there’s something specific that’s happened to your daughter by this kid you should just invite her.

Op here. She didn’t do anything specific to my child. But last summer there was a birthday party for another kid, at which a little boy of Latin American descent was a guest. The girl in question told him that he needed to prove to everyone he’s American otherwise he didn’t belong at the party. They were all seven years old at the time. Seven. My daughter wasn’t at that party but apparently the little boy went home in tears and all the other parents were outraged.

I want my home to be a safe place for all kids. I don’t want any child to experience this kind of hatred and to invite her would feel like I’m just turning a blind eye to it.

You really needed a year to decide if this was okay? Come on , OP! Seriously? OP if this actually happened. This is a no brainer. This settles it ifor me, no way would she be invited to the party, and honestly, my child would not be interacting with her at all after this incident.

[Anonymous]

When I was in 3rd grade, there were two kids running for class president. The white girl made posters saying "Vote for a real American for class president" because the other girl was biracial. When kids from my district play sports in rural areas those kids chant "Build the Wall" as one of their cheers. Kids say stuff. There were a bunch of articles about this kind of comment after Trump was arrested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless there’s something specific that’s happened to your daughter by this kid you should just invite her.

Op here. She didn’t do anything specific to my child. But last summer there was a birthday party for another kid, at which a little boy of Latin American descent was a guest. The girl in question told him that he needed to prove to everyone he’s American otherwise he didn’t belong at the party. They were all seven years old at the time. Seven. My daughter wasn’t at that party but apparently the little boy went home in tears and all the other parents were outraged.

I want my home to be a safe place for all kids. I don’t want any child to experience this kind of hatred and to invite her would feel like I’m just turning a blind eye to it.

Oh yeah right. I call bs.

Oh really? You call BS? Growing up in the rural south I heard racial slurs in elementary school. But according to you I must be full of it, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was in 3rd grade, there were two kids running for class president. The white girl made posters saying "Vote for a real American for class president" because the other girl was biracial. When kids from my district play sports in rural areas those kids chant "Build the Wall" as one of their cheers. Kids say stuff. There were a bunch of articles about this kind of comment after Trump was arrested.

Ha! Freudian slip-that should say, when Trump got elected

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was in 3rd grade, there were two kids running for class president. The white girl made posters saying "Vote for a real American for class president" because the other girl was biracial. When kids from my district play sports in rural areas those kids chant "Build the Wall" as one of their cheers. Kids say stuff. There were a bunch of articles about this kind of comment after Trump was arrested.

Ha! Freudian slip-that should say, when Trump got elected

I was going to say, when did that happen? Are you from the future? Can you pick my lotto numbers? Lol.


Sadly though, you are right this stuff gets passed down parent to child, this is why racism won't just die out. We have to actively work to rid ourselves of it.

[Anonymous]

Op you probably wouldn’t let a kid who had a history of punching others in the face to your house. Same should go with with white power types. End of story.

[Anonymous]

Black girl here and I say invite her. The incident last summer was a perfect time to respond to her about why her comment was wrong. Kids say stupid things, especially if they have parents giving them bad examples. Apparently your daughter likes her, so invite her and help her learn better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Diversity, tolerance, inclusiveness...doesn't just apply to people you agree with.

Why would you want to engineer a homogeneous friend group for your kids? I thought it was a good thing to expose your children to different backgrounds, opinions etc? Its up to you to form their value system and guide them and hope they make the right decisions.

I get that you find the parents' opinions distasteful, but that's not a reason to ostracize a little girl.

+1 If your parenting is so weak that your child will turn into an insta-racist by being in the same room as this kid, than you need to look back on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself OP. Do you want a DCUM cookie for your virtue signaling?

+1. Nauseating post, assuming it’s not a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ostracize the child and the entire family for their beliefs. Only way to stop this nonsense it to sever it from the rest of us. Let a little bit of this attitude get into the world and it taints everything. Better to let them be among themselves and not part of civil society.

Yes, that's exactly how I feel about BLM burning down Democrat-run cities! Well put, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let your daughter invite her friend. If the friend or parents say anything inappropriate, ask them to leave

This.

I honestly can’t believe you’d hold the actions of her parents against an 8 year old girl without the girl ever doing anything offensive in your presence before.

Op - you are part of our country’s problems.

The OP said that the little girl is saying things that are problematic to her. So your comment is off base. And OP is exactly right to ask. YOU not asking is what is part of the problem.

OP- I'd ask. If she says something racist (or whatever you think is a problem) correct it. "We don't use language like that in this house." If it happens again, ask them to leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless there’s something specific that’s happened to your daughter by this kid you should just invite her.

Op here. She didn’t do anything specific to my child. But last summer there was a birthday party for another kid, at which a little boy of Latin American descent was a guest. The girl in question told him that he needed to prove to everyone he’s American otherwise he didn’t belong at the party. They were all seven years old at the time. Seven. My daughter wasn’t at that party but apparently the little boy went home in tears and all the other parents were outraged.

I want my home to be a safe place for all kids. I don’t want any child to experience this kind of hatred and to invite her would feel like I’m just turning a blind eye to it.

I’d probably talk to the parents directly and let them know we’d like to invite their daughter, but if anything like the above is said, they will be asked to leave. Then leave it up to them if they want to come or not.

I feel so bad for that poor girl. She’s just parroting what her parents say and doesn’t realize the impact it will have on her life.