Took a friend's kid on vacation, no acknowledgement or thank you?

[Anonymous]

We hosted friends and their 3 incredibly shedding dogs for a week once. The day they left, they were so discombobulated getting everything packed they didn't say anything remotely close to "thanks."

I was seriously annoyed. Until a package arrived in the mail about a week later containing a set of very high quality binoculars, two hand-carved walking sticks and an incredibly gracious thank you note. (We had taken several hikes together and really enjoyed birdwatching.)

Your irritation won't change anything, OP. So don't let it get to you. Maybe your friend will surprise you, as mine did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird that her 7 year old had been gone for 3 nights (so 4 days) and she couldn’t be bothered to get off her work call to receive him and talk to you directly about how it went.

I feel sorry for the kid-he was probably excited to see his mom.

If I hadn’t seen my 7 year old in 4 days, I’d be watching the window and standing outside the moment he pulled up.

I work too, btw.

Calm your tits.

Wow – you are a really unpleasant person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird that her 7 year old had been gone for 3 nights (so 4 days) and she couldn’t be bothered to get off her work call to receive him and talk to you directly about how it went.

I feel sorry for the kid-he was probably excited to see his mom.

If I hadn’t seen my 7 year old in 4 days, I’d be watching the window and standing outside the moment he pulled up.

I work too, btw.

Calm your tits.

Wow – you are a really unpleasant person.

Right?? I’m the PP. 7 is really young. Wouldn’t you miss your 7 year old after 4 days? Even if you didn’t, wouldn’t you want your 7 yo to feel missed and like you are excited to see him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a bit odd but try and let it go. I do understand how your feelings might be hurt though.

I’m an older mom so I grew up with grandmother and mother who modeled thank you cards, hostess gifts, “ always arrive with something.” I know not everyone feels this way or even is aware of this ( for good or bad I suppose.) Just focus on how you want your DC to be when they are out in the world as that is more important.

I have boys as well and have consistently emphasized this idea so that they do not think it is only the “ woman” who does this.

For example, one ds was invited for a weekend and so I took him to store to do a small bag of treats and then I wrote a thank you note in advance from me thanking them hosting him for him to hand them on arrival.

Another time this summer, another ds was away with a family and upon returning home I asked for their new address to send a thank you note and Starbucks card to mom as thank you and he said “ it’s good...I bought everyone lunch to say thank you” He’s 17. My grandmother would have been so proud of him!

Same. My sons take hostess gifts with them and write thank you notes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird that her 7 year old had been gone for 3 nights (so 4 days) and she couldn’t be bothered to get off her work call to receive him and talk to you directly about how it went.

I feel sorry for the kid-he was probably excited to see his mom.

If I hadn’t seen my 7 year old in 4 days, I’d be watching the window and standing outside the moment he pulled up.

I work too, btw.

Calm your tits.

Wow – you are a really unpleasant person.

Right?? I’m the PP. 7 is really young. Wouldn’t you miss your 7 year old after 4 days? Even if you didn’t, wouldn’t you want your 7 yo to feel missed and like you are excited to see him?

Of course, but if your boss is a university president or a publisher, you can’t exactly call them back in 5. Or maybe the mom was pooping. Have you ever pooped? My 7yo knows she is beloved and missed and cherished. She is secure in that; we have a relationship solid enough that if I am on the phone with Nana who has dementia, she can say hi to her brother and knows I’ll be out in a minute. Clearly, your relationships are too fragile for poop windows.

[Anonymous]

After reading this thread, I’m very grateful that I have thoughtful and kind-hearted friends. I can’t imagine any of them being so self-focused that they can’t take a moment to text a thank you, or recognize the kindness of a friend.

[Anonymous]

I agree you should give her another day or two. I would be hurt by this too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she is sending you a small thank you gift and it has not arrived yet.

This. TL; DR

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, I’m very grateful that I have thoughtful and kind-hearted friends. I can’t imagine any of them being so self-focused that they can’t take a moment to text a thank you, or recognize the kindness of a friend.

And so very humble, to boot! Are they all smug, or just you?

-Writes old-school thank you notes

[Anonymous]

You should have expected to pay for everything as he was your guest and you clearly have the means to do so. Also I assume the kid is young though I don’t know if the age was stated.

[Anonymous]

Did he really come along with no money? WTF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have expected to pay for everything as he was your guest and you clearly have the means to do so. Also I assume the kid is young though I don’t know if the age was stated.

7 year old and OP is worried about the carry out and ice cream she bought the kid. She could have made grilled cheese and kraft mac and cheese cheaply and the kid would have been fine.

[Anonymous]

Omg, welcome to dc bit$$es right op? I can not believe the way most people act. Yes she should have thanked you no matter how must she was. These posters on here are guilty as well and acting just as entitled. People are assholes. Sorry op. You sound super sweet and that was grand of you to do this!

Make new friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he really come along with no money? WTF

Money for what? Its COVID. They should not be going out to eat or doing much. Really, how much does a 7 year old eat? If you cannot afford food, don't invite the kid. I'd never take money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, I’m very grateful that I have thoughtful and kind-hearted friends. I can’t imagine any of them being so self-focused that they can’t take a moment to text a thank you, or recognize the kindness of a friend.

And so very humble, to boot! Are they all smug, or just you?

-Writes old-school thank you notes

THIS!!! THIS IS CLASS! Well done! Hopefully others will catch on.