Took a friend's kid on vacation, no acknowledgement or thank you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread shows a lot of what’s wrong in America right now. No basic manners and plain rudeness.

It also shows that people hold grudges and assume the worst.

I would only trust my very closest friends and family to take my oldest during a pandemic. So if they weren’t available for the final greeting and forgot to thank me, I could chalk it up to one busy night and move on. I have a lot of grace, goodwill, love and trust built up with my nearest and dearest.

That said, it sounds like maybe OP was content to send her child up with an acquaintance or a friend of convenience. If she had no goodwill and trust built up with this woman, I can’t imagine why she would send a young child traveling with her during a pandemic.

If it’s truly a good friend; where’s the grace? If it’s not a good friend, why are you entrusting a young child with her during a pandemic?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, we had a friend recently ask and take our child on a week long vacation to keep their kid, an only child, company. We let our child go with great reluctance due to COVID and made sure restrictions were in place around social distancing, activities and masks. Both families were more vigilant about outside contact for two weeks before the trip. I felt like we were doing them a favor to let our child go, TBH. So no, I didn’t send a thank you note or drop off a bottle of wine afterward. I did say thank you over text, but that was it.

You honored them with your child’s presence? Wow, the level of self centeredness is astounding. Your kid had a fun vacation with his/her friend,no? You got a childcare FREE weekend, no? All the extra hours you got because you didn’t have to do it doing childcare is not valuable to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, we had a friend recently ask and take our child on a week long vacation to keep their kid, an only child, company. We let our child go with great reluctance due to COVID and made sure restrictions were in place around social distancing, activities and masks. Both families were more vigilant about outside contact for two weeks before the trip. I felt like we were doing them a favor to let our child go, TBH. So no, I didn’t send a thank you note or drop off a bottle of wine afterward. I did say thank you over text, but that was it.

You honored them with your child’s presence? Wow, the level of self centeredness is astounding. Your kid had a fun vacation with his/her friend,no? You got a childcare FREE weekend, no? All the extra hours you got because you didn’t have to do it doing childcare is not valuable to you?

Yep, she sounds like my cousin who has 4 kids, claims she “never even notices” when I take my oldest child’s peer for play dates, then makes much of how fun it is for my child/must have been easier for me. Umm...

This is after entire weekends/sleepovers, daylong play dates, taking child to the movies, out to dinner, etc.

BUT I have the grace to let it go beca, over a lifetime of love and friendship, my cousin is a great person and friend. She gives me friendship and joy. The mom part of her I can forgive because you have to be kind of crazy to have 4/when you have 4 kids.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes those trips aren’t as much fun as you think. Being the third wheel may not have been the best trip. My DC has taken some pretty bad trips with friends. It’s not always wonderful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, we had a friend recently ask and take our child on a week long vacation to keep their kid, an only child, company. We let our child go with great reluctance due to COVID and made sure restrictions were in place around social distancing, activities and masks. Both families were more vigilant about outside contact for two weeks before the trip. I felt like we were doing them a favor to let our child go, TBH. So no, I didn’t send a thank you note or drop off a bottle of wine afterward. I did say thank you over text, but that was it.

Amazingly rude. I think they will likely do you the favor of forgetting you and your child exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread shows a lot of what’s wrong in America right now. No basic manners and plain rudeness.

It also shows that people hold grudges and assume the worst.

I would only trust my very closest friends and family to take my oldest during a pandemic. So if they weren’t available for the final greeting and forgot to thank me, I could chalk it up to one busy night and move on. I have a lot of grace, goodwill, love and trust built up with my nearest and dearest.

That said, it sounds like maybe OP was content to send her child up with an acquaintance or a friend of convenience. If she had no goodwill and trust built up with this woman, I can’t imagine why she would send a young child traveling with her during a pandemic.

If it’s truly a good friend; where’s the grace? If it’s not a good friend, why are you entrusting a young child with her during a pandemic?!

This.