Took a friend's kid on vacation, no acknowledgement or thank you?

[Anonymous]

OP, your friend is poorly bred. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did he really come along with no money? WTF

Money for what? Its COVID. They should not be going out to eat or doing much. Really, how much does a 7 year old eat? If you cannot afford food, don't invite the kid. I'd never take money.

PP here. I wouldn't either, but it's still weird. I would never send my kid anywhere with no money.

[Anonymous]

Was your kid entertained and less of a trouble to manage? Wether she thanks you or not, from now on you decide what's more important: thank you from the other parent or fun your child had with his friend. You did it for your child not for the other family.

I agree with the above poster, a thank you card or, maybe cookies, or something along those lines expressing gratitude is coming. Just be patient.

[Anonymous]

I am never surprised by the amount of excuses people have to permit themselves to behave badly.

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Work call or not, I would have made sure to convey my gratitude at this point! So yes, I understand how you're feeling. However, everyone is different, and perhaps she's going to thank you later. Wait a few days before getting really resentful. Also check your messages...

This. She might be waiting to thank you until she can give you a full, detailed thanks, and then that got derailed because of being busy. I’m always making this mistake, instead of a quick “Thank you SO MUCH for taking Larlo! I will write a more complete thanks shortly but wanted to say a quick thanks now.”

[Anonymous]

Who said the kid was 7? I don't see that here. Also, the OP came back to say that the kid wasn't just there to entertain her kid as they have siblings. So no, NOT a favor to the OP to bring someone else along.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did he really come along with no money? WTF

Money for what? Its COVID. They should not be going out to eat or doing much. Really, how much does a 7 year old eat? If you cannot afford food, don't invite the kid. I'd never take money.

PP here. I wouldn't either, but it's still weird. I would never send my kid anywhere with no money.

Same here. That is just poor form.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird that her 7 year old had been gone for 3 nights (so 4 days) and she couldn’t be bothered to get off her work call to receive him and talk to you directly about how it went.

I feel sorry for the kid-he was probably excited to see his mom.

If I hadn’t seen my 7 year old in 4 days, I’d be watching the window and standing outside the moment he pulled up.

I work too, btw.

Calm your tits.

PP, you really need to pull up your sagging balls or tug your wrinkled crusted foreskin. Otherwise you end up writing rude things.
- just a friendly advice.

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Anonymous wrote:I took my son's BF with us on a 3 night trip to our vacation property (kids are in our quarantine bubble and we wore masks whenever we left the condo). Mom and I are good friends, we socialize without the kids, etc. Yesterday before we left to head home I texted her with our return time ETA. She texted back with a thumbs-up emoji. When we got to the house, I walked in with her son and his bags. Son said "mom is on a work call" so I left (I also work full time so I totally understood she may have been on a work call). I texted her "He's home!" and left. She has not answered me at all, not even a thumbs up. No thank you, no "Hey when he went to sleep tonight he told us all about the great time he had", etc. I am feeling hurt and a bit used. I also have a pile of his stuff that I washed (it was in the wet bag) like his pool towel, bathing suit, water bottle, etc. It is all clean and I am tempted to just leave it on their steps without a word.

Am I overreacting? I took her son for three nights, paid for everything (take out, ice cream, etc) -she didn't even send him with $5. This is a family who regularly vacations in Europe, etc so they know how to travel and they have means. I am not looking for much, just one text of thanks. I will let it go because I am not one to start issues, but I wanted to vent and also do a sanity check... my expectations are not out of line, correct?

You brought the child for your needs to play with your child so you wouldn't have to play with your child. I don't think she should send money. I also don't think you should be bringing another kid or doing a quarantine bubble as that's a bunch of BS and why we cannot return to schools and life because of selfish people like you. I don't send money with my kid when parents take them out. Your invite you pay. When I invite I pay. If you cannot afford to feed the kid, don't invite him. You are complaining about what was your choice. You are exhausting. Stop inviting the kid.

I totally missed the part about you expecting the kid to bring money. What in the world? I never send my young kids out with money. We have plenty of money, but so do all our friends. No one that is inviting another child out expects that child to pay his way separately. The only scenario I could see sending money with a child on a play date is if older college sibling of other kid was the one taking them out or something similar. .

[Anonymous]

Don't do it for the glory. Do it out of the goodness of your heart. Let it go and be free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I took my son's BF with us on a 3 night trip to our vacation property (kids are in our quarantine bubble and we wore masks whenever we left the condo). Mom and I are good friends, we socialize without the kids, etc. Yesterday before we left to head home I texted her with our return time ETA. She texted back with a thumbs-up emoji. When we got to the house, I walked in with her son and his bags. Son said "mom is on a work call" so I left (I also work full time so I totally understood she may have been on a work call). I texted her "He's home!" and left. She has not answered me at all, not even a thumbs up. No thank you, no "Hey when he went to sleep tonight he told us all about the great time he had", etc. I am feeling hurt and a bit used. I also have a pile of his stuff that I washed (it was in the wet bag) like his pool towel, bathing suit, water bottle, etc. It is all clean and I am tempted to just leave it on their steps without a word.

Am I overreacting? I took her son for three nights, paid for everything (take out, ice cream, etc) -she didn't even send him with $5. This is a family who regularly vacations in Europe, etc so they know how to travel and they have means. I am not looking for much, just one text of thanks. I will let it go because I am not one to start issues, but I wanted to vent and also do a sanity check... my expectations are not out of line, correct?

You brought the child for your needs to play with your child so you wouldn't have to play with your child. I don't think she should send money. I also don't think you should be bringing another kid or doing a quarantine bubble as that's a bunch of BS and why we cannot return to schools and life because of selfish people like you. I don't send money with my kid when parents take them out. Your invite you pay. When I invite I pay. If you cannot afford to feed the kid, don't invite him. You are complaining about what was your choice. You are exhausting. Stop inviting the kid.

I totally missed the part about you expecting the kid to bring money. What in the world? I never send my young kids out with money. We have plenty of money, but so do all our friends. No one that is inviting another child out expects that child to pay his way separately. The only scenario I could see sending money with a child on a play date is if older college sibling of other kid was the one taking them out or something similar. .

No way, and you aren't teaching your children good manners, although so few do these days. The child should bring some money and offer to pay. The host will respond that it is not necessary but thank you for offering. That's how it goes, and your children should learn that it is polite to offer. It also helps kids understand that they are not little princes/princesses to be catered to all the time, and to be aware that someone else is footing the bill.

[Anonymous]

OP, this would bug me too and probably defer me from inviting the kid again or initiating social activities with the mom. If she asks me to do something I would do it though. ie don't blow up the friendship but I would probably take a step back. It bugs me when people don't say thank you and frankly if I look back at people I may have not said thank you to for something it is because I take them for granted.

[Anonymous]

deter not defer.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird that her 7 year old had been gone for 3 nights (so 4 days) and she couldn’t be bothered to get off her work call to receive him and talk to you directly about how it went.

I feel sorry for the kid-he was probably excited to see his mom.

If I hadn’t seen my 7 year old in 4 days, I’d be watching the window and standing outside the moment he pulled up.

I work too, btw.

Calm your tits.

Wow – you are a really unpleasant person.

Right?? I’m the PP. 7 is really young. Wouldn’t you miss your 7 year old after 4 days? Even if you didn’t, wouldn’t you want your 7 yo to feel missed and like you are excited to see him?

Of course, but if your boss is a university president or a publisher, you can’t exactly call them back in 5. Or maybe the mom was pooping. Have you ever pooped? My 7yo knows she is beloved and missed and cherished. She is secure in that; we have a relationship solid enough that if I am on the phone with Nana who has dementia, she can say hi to her brother and knows I’ll be out in a minute. Clearly, your relationships are too fragile for poop windows.

Well, you do you but Maya Angelou and Oprah disagree with you. The way you react when they walk into the room does matter, a lot.

The university president can wait, when you have prior notice your Kid is almost home and they are 7 and haven’t seen you in 4 days. Block 30 freaking minutes on your calendar or tell Nana you’ll call her later.

My house is in order and I know my priorities.

[Anonymous]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jw0Fu8nhOc

Maya Angelou and Oprah on greeting your children