Took a friend's kid on vacation, no acknowledgement or thank you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM consensus!! A thank you is not necessary, for things big or small. Good to know! I must have been living in a different era, or an alternate universe. No more nagging my kids to be gracious or polite, phew.

It is polite to say thank you. Of course.

But when someone doesn’t offer one, there is nothing gracious or polite about thinking ill of them, assuming the worst, and holding a grudge. Especially if it is a true, proven friend who might have truly been busy and overwhelmed for one work day during a pandemic.

[Anonymous]

It's beyond rude not to say thank you in this situation. You people are nuts acting like it's not conventional social graces. Give me a break with the "you sound like a nut, we don't do things for the thanks" people. Of course you DO them for the thanks, when it's not there, as it should be out of basic courtesy, the silence is deafening. I'd be pissed OP.

[Anonymous]

**of course you DON"T DO them for the thanks**

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you do everything in life because you expect to be thanked for it?

Thanking someone is common courtesy. Everyone should do it when someone does something nice for them, or their kids. Bet you don’t write thank you notes, either.

So “bet you don’t-ing” someone and waving your virtue like a flag is...polite and well-mannered? Huh. -np




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[Anonymous]

I think it’s weird that her 7 year old had been gone for 3 nights (so 4 days) and she couldn’t be bothered to get off her work call to receive him and talk to you directly about how it went.

I feel sorry for the kid-he was probably excited to see his mom.

If I hadn’t seen my 7 year old in 4 days, I’d be watching the window and standing outside the moment he pulled up.

I work too, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird that her 7 year old had been gone for 3 nights (so 4 days) and she couldn’t be bothered to get off her work call to receive him and talk to you directly about how it went.

I feel sorry for the kid-he was probably excited to see his mom.

If I hadn’t seen my 7 year old in 4 days, I’d be watching the window and standing outside the moment he pulled up.

I work too, btw.

Calm your tits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took my son's BF with us on a 3 night trip to our vacation property (kids are in our quarantine bubble and we wore masks whenever we left the condo). Mom and I are good friends, we socialize without the kids, etc. Yesterday before we left to head home I texted her with our return time ETA. She texted back with a thumbs-up emoji. When we got to the house, I walked in with her son and his bags. Son said "mom is on a work call" so I left (I also work full time so I totally understood she may have been on a work call). I texted her "He's home!" and left. She has not answered me at all, not even a thumbs up. No thank you, no "Hey when he went to sleep tonight he told us all about the great time he had", etc. I am feeling hurt and a bit used. I also have a pile of his stuff that I washed (it was in the wet bag) like his pool towel, bathing suit, water bottle, etc. It is all clean and I am tempted to just leave it on their steps without a word.

Am I overreacting? I took her son for three nights, paid for everything (take out, ice cream, etc) -she didn't even send him with $5. This is a family who regularly vacations in Europe, etc so they know how to travel and they have means. I am not looking for much, just one text of thanks. I will let it go because I am not one to start issues, but I wanted to vent and also do a sanity check... my expectations are not out of line, correct?

You brought the child for your needs to play with your child so you wouldn't have to play with your child. I don't think she should send money. I also don't think you should be bringing another kid or doing a quarantine bubble as that's a bunch of BS and why we cannot return to schools and life because of selfish people like you. I don't send money with my kid when parents take them out. Your invite you pay. When I invite I pay. If you cannot afford to feed the kid, don't invite him. You are complaining about what was your choice. You are exhausting. Stop inviting the kid.

[Anonymous]

Here's a snafu I once had:

My son was inited on a weekend trip which included an amusement park, hotel, meals, etc.
Son comes home while I have a crying, puking baby and I say "Did you say thank you to Zack's family?"
Son confirms he did.

An entire week goes by. Day Four I come up for air after the baby is no longer sick. I smile at the mom when I see her at school, and she glares at me. I go home and say "You DID thank Zack's parents right?"
Son: "Um, I mean I think i told Zack it was really cool his parents let him bring a friend? when we were pulling up at home?"

Oh shit. I called and sent her flowers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you feel the need to overexplain to us about your bubble and mask wearing practices? No one cares. That was REALLY weird.

Nah. Not weird because we all know someone would make a big deal about taking a non-relative on vacation and spreading viruses....and you know that.

[Anonymous]

OP, it sucks that she didn't say thank you (yet...I'm sure she will eventually). However, it's not worthy of you making a big deal about it, unless you are hoping that she will read this thread. In that case, you will seem petty to her.

[Anonymous]

I bet a box of donuts that the mom said, “Really? Are you sure that wouldn’t be too much trouble? Thank you SO much” when plans were made, then OP said, “No, Bobby is an angel. He will keep Billy occupied. You’re doing ME” the favor. And now OP is holding a grudge against a good friend who had one busy evening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you feel the need to overexplain to us about your bubble and mask wearing practices? No one cares. That was REALLY weird.

Actually everyone does care and had she not, someone would have jumped down her throat for being negligent.

[Anonymous]

Who sends their kid on vacation with another family with no money And then doesn’t even say thank you? Yep it’s rude as hell and being “too busy” to say 2 words is lazy and selfish. . We are all busy and you took someone’s kid for 3 days giving them kid-free time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I took my son's BF with us on a 3 night trip to our vacation property (kids are in our quarantine bubble and we wore masks whenever we left the condo). Mom and I are good friends, we socialize without the kids, etc. Yesterday before we left to head home I texted her with our return time ETA. She texted back with a thumbs-up emoji. When we got to the house, I walked in with her son and his bags. Son said "mom is on a work call" so I left (I also work full time so I totally understood she may have been on a work call). I texted her "He's home!" and left. She has not answered me at all, not even a thumbs up. No thank you, no "Hey when he went to sleep tonight he told us all about the great time he had", etc. I am feeling hurt and a bit used. I also have a pile of his stuff that I washed (it was in the wet bag) like his pool towel, bathing suit, water bottle, etc. It is all clean and I am tempted to just leave it on their steps without a word.

Am I overreacting? I took her son for three nights, paid for everything (take out, ice cream, etc) -she didn't even send him with $5. This is a family who regularly vacations in Europe, etc so they know how to travel and they have means. I am not looking for much, just one text of thanks. I will let it go because I am not one to start issues, but I wanted to vent and also do a sanity check... my expectations are not out of line, correct?

You brought the child for your needs to play with your child so you wouldn't have to play with your child. I don't think she should send money. I also don't think you should be bringing another kid or doing a quarantine bubble as that's a bunch of BS and why we cannot return to schools and life because of selfish people like you. I don't send money with my kid when parents take them out. Your invite you pay. When I invite I pay. If you cannot afford to feed the kid, don't invite him. You are complaining about what was your choice. You are exhausting. Stop inviting the kid.

PP, I think you definitely need a vacation to calm yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a very tiresome friend.

No, but it sounds like she stuck a nerve in you. Sounds like you have a list of unwritten thank you notes