Took a friend's kid on vacation, no acknowledgement or thank you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:JFC. You took your child's friend on a trip, that kept your child occupied. You're upset that you didn't get a thank you? Get over yourself. We take friends children on various trips with us, and if one tried to offer special thanks or give me a gift, I would laugh and tell them to keep it.

How unattractive...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jw0Fu8nhOc

Maya Angelou and Oprah on greeting your children

That's Toni Morrison not Maya Angelou.

Omg. I am the PP who posted this. Am mortified!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh dear. I must have really bad manners. Of course I thanked the mom but I never sent flowers or a gift basket. But OP your friend is very weird not even acknowledging this. Unless something awful happened (like seriously illness in family emergency) she should have said something. You didn’t send $ which is weird. Are you BOTH weird?

My older teenager has gone with friends twice this summer to the beach. I did give him money (enough to buy dinner one night for the family and some extra) and his offer was declined. I thanked the family before they left on the first trip but literally haven’t had any contact with them since. The kids set it up (my sons invite).

And on the flip side I took another teenager with us to the beach. His mom thanked me before we left and let us borrow some beach stuff but I haven’t heard from her upon my return and honestly have no expectation to.

Are we rude? Does it matter that the kids are older? Or is my social group just more laid back and less formal?

Yes, rude. You say thanks before and after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jw0Fu8nhOc

Maya Angelou and Oprah on greeting your children

That's Toni Morrison not Maya Angelou.

Omg. I am the PP who posted this. Am mortified!

Woowwwwww nice try schooling others on etiquette and treating others well and you assume there’s only, like, one well-known and wise Black female author. Do “they” all look the same to your self-righteous eyes? That was too rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op I would also be miffed.

If someone took one of our kids on a three day trip, he woud have spending money, I would have immediately and fulsomely thanked and dropped of a nice gift basket with wine or some nice flowers.

Seriously people, the Op did not do this for thanks but the lack of acknowledgement is weird and disappointing. Poor manners. And those who think.perhaps she's so busy barely treading water can't text? Well, she just offloaded her kid for 3 days so you would think there's some recognition...

But would they be fulsomely thanked? Just making sure it would be fulsome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:JFC. You took your child's friend on a trip, that kept your child occupied. You're upset that you didn't get a thank you? Get over yourself. We take friends children on various trips with us, and if one tried to offer special thanks or give me a gift, I would laugh and tell them to keep it.

She should thank the parent for allowing their kid to come as entertainment or otherwise she would have had to spend time with her own kid,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give her some time. Sounds like she was busy yesterday.

Too busy to say thank you? OP, I don't blame you. The very least she should have done is thank you and it is too late now. She would be out of my life and if the son doesn't write you a thank you then that wod be the last time I ever took him any where.

[Anonymous]

Welcome to Bethesda.

Did something happen during those 3 days that the kid may have complained to his mom about, however minor it seemed at the time?

She could be pissed with you.

[Anonymous]

So, we had a friend recently ask and take our child on a week long vacation to keep their kid, an only child, company. We let our child go with great reluctance due to COVID and made sure restrictions were in place around social distancing, activities and masks. Both families were more vigilant about outside contact for two weeks before the trip. I felt like we were doing them a favor to let our child go, TBH. So no, I didn’t send a thank you note or drop off a bottle of wine afterward. I did say thank you over text, but that was it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:JFC. You took your child's friend on a trip, that kept your child occupied. You're upset that you didn't get a thank you? Get over yourself. We take friends children on various trips with us, and if one tried to offer special thanks or give me a gift, I would laugh and tell them to keep it.

Really? That would be very ungracious of you, to laugh at someone who was trying to show their appreciation, or not to accept a gift that they took the time to pick out for you. Anything other than, “that’s so nice, thank you” is incredibly rude!! Are you for real?

If my kid were traveling with a friend, i would send them with money, because it’s polite to offer to pay for an outing, even if it’s declined. One should never assume that others will pay. It’s teaching a kid basic manners.

I would also enthusiastically thank the host. I don’t take for granted the responsibility that they are assuming in caring for my child. It is deserving of thanks! I tend to be a people-pleaser, but I don’t think texting a thank you or greeting the host at the door to thank them is in that category. It’s just basic decency.

[Anonymous]

Whenever we have taken kids ' friends with us movies museum.beach etc)their parents have always thanked must.
And vice versa. What strange people on here to defend the lack of such basic, normal.manners and even turn it on the OP.
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If you're still here ,OP, any update?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, we had a friend recently ask and take our child on a week long vacation to keep their kid, an only child, company. We let our child go with great reluctance due to COVID and made sure restrictions were in place around social distancing, activities and masks. Both families were more vigilant about outside contact for two weeks before the trip. I felt like we were doing them a favor to let our child go, TBH. So no, I didn’t send a thank you note or drop off a bottle of wine afterward. I did say thank you over text, but that was it.

Good lord. We sent wine and restaurant gift cards and thanked before and after because, sure, it was easier for their only to have a friend but our child was also very happy to spend a week at the beach with her friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever we have taken kids ' friends with us movies museum.beach etc)their parents have always thanked must.
And vice versa. What strange people on here to defend the lack of such basic, normal.manners and even turn it on the OP.
.

If you're still here ,OP, any update?

I feel like this site has gotten meaner lately.

But the pattern is always for everyone to turn on the OP, in every thread.

[Anonymous]

Wow this thread shows a lot of what’s wrong in America right now. No basic manners and plain rudeness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread shows a lot of what’s wrong in America right now. No basic manners and plain rudeness.