Took a friend's kid on vacation, no acknowledgement or thank you?

[Anonymous]

She may be figuring out what to send as a thank you gift/sending a note. Also, is there a similar expectation of fathers when families do something nice for their child? I know she's a friend, but i see a lot of these expectations on the mother, and often the dad gets a free pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is dysfunction in the family that has now become visible to you.

The mother is lacking in social graces as well as basic decency. You can only imagine what kind of mother she is when no one is looking. Don't expect anything from her.

The woman was on a work call. No one would say this about a man.

And after the work call? Not even a quick text saying " Thank you so much, Larla, for taking my Larlandrew on this trip. He said he had a fantastic time. I will catch up with you later."

How does this woman even work IRL if she cannot send a quick text? This woman is a taker.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps she is about to send you a gift basket or a thank you note?

[Anonymous]

OP, pick a date on your calendar. One month from now, think about it again. Not before. Likely the situation will have fixed itself by then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a very tiresome friend.

NP here. You are unkind.

[Anonymous]

Wow, is this dcum community really filled with so many thoughtless people? Defending their right not to text two words - “thank you.” This is dismaying.

OP, I totally get it. I wouldn’t necessarily tank the friendship (especially if this isn’t typical of your friend) but it would impact my perception of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you feel the need to overexplain to us about your bubble and mask wearing practices? No one cares. That was REALLY weird.

Bc this is DCUM, and people on here certainly do care!

[Anonymous]

OP, was this out of character for your friend? Did it surprise you? Or is it par for the course? Need a bit more more context.

[Anonymous]

I am dropping balls left and right because everything in our current situation is stressful and overwhelming. I'm sure your friend is grateful, just treading water!

[Anonymous]

I echo what others have said. She is your friend! I find it odd to be so hung up on this little thing. If she is a habitual taker and ungrateful person generally, maybe you shouldn’t be friends. But if she just had a brain fart and forget to text you, I’d just let it go. When you invited her son, I assume she said something like ‘Larlo would love that! Thanks so much!’ And I bet if you hang out next week she’ll say ‘Thanks again for having Larlo, he had a blast!’ The lack of text at the moment of drop off when she was in the middle of something, shouldn’t be a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you feel the need to overexplain to us about your bubble and mask wearing practices? No one cares. That was REALLY weird.

Because if she didn't, all of DCUM was going to jump on her for not social distancing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is dysfunction in the family that has now become visible to you.

The mother is lacking in social graces as well as basic decency. You can only imagine what kind of mother she is when no one is looking. Don't expect anything from her.

The woman was on a work call. No one would say this about a man.

And as a matter of fact they aren't. OP didn't complain that the child's father didn't say thank you or send a thank you gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, is this dcum community really filled with so many thoughtless people? Defending their right not to text two words - “thank you.” This is dismaying.

OP, I totally get it. I wouldn’t necessarily tank the friendship (especially if this isn’t typical of your friend) but it would impact my perception of her.

Not defending the right not to text two words. Instead, encouraging OP to give her friend the benefit of the doubt for the lapse.

OP, any chance the child didn't have a good time or told his mom something that could be perceived as negative?

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you thank her for basically providing your child something to do so you could relax.

I own a beach house, we have tons of kids come down during the summer. I could not imagine bean counting like this.

[Anonymous]

Did you son enjoy it? Is her son a good boy and was he appreciative? I try to think of that instead of the parents. I am not close to any of my DDs friends parents, and find some of them quite aloof, but I am thankful for their children being in my child's life. What is important here? Also, corona is causing stress that may have caused her to forget. If this is an anomoly, forgettaboutit! Even if not, do you want your child to lose this friend.