Single moms and dating

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you're just looking for a FWB, that is surely easy to find. LTR is going to be hard because no man in his right mind likes to deal with baggage.

Even when I was pretty young (20s...) I never wanted a FWB. I need to have a good relationship to have good sex. Doesn't have to be the whole catastrophe of living together, more kids, financial messes, but the person needs to be someone I can get to know over time. Otherwise, no thanks.

Is the FWB status merely like scratching an itch? Or is it a way of saying to you want affection and dating but not marriage and all of the baggage?

I know women like that. Because they have their kids and aren't looking for a spouse. It's quite unrealistic to expect someone to be accepting of a woman with kids if he doesn't already have at least one of his own. Stepdads get talked about by other dudes behind their backs for being cuckolds.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All: don't give up. Once you meet someone, be upfront. Share that your kids come first, and that if they aren't up for the journey, then they can hit the road. As a single father in his 30's, I'd understand. With my career, 50% custody, and all the other intricacies of my life, I'd totally understand. Out time is limited.

Can I ask you something?
I am a single mom of 3, work fulltime and have full custody. So my plate is really full. Only thing I miss is physical intimacy.
With my stats, I only expect to find a few times a month NSA type of arrangement with a guy. What decent man would go for that? And if so, why?

Before I answer, would you be open to a real relationship? Or are you only interested in a fwb because of your "full plate?"

Back to answer your question. Would love a partner who truly loves me but I can also accept that such may not happen for me.
FWB may be all I can hope for. I have not tested if I am made for such arrangement because deep down I am a relationship person.

Now I don't know if I even answered your question ...

You answered it, sorta. I wouldn't say "such may not happen to me" because you never know. You seem to have a lot going for you, with the kiddos, the full time gig, and all your other responsibilities. Men like independent women.

If you have a FWB, stick with him long term. Some FWB relationships have great potential for LTR's. Just make sure you select a FWB that has personality, is employed, and is a great lay.

As I mentioned previously, women that have been married and have children, have a different take on life. They are more mature, bold, and don't beat around the bush. Some men love this in the women they date.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All: don't give up. Once you meet someone, be upfront. Share that your kids come first, and that if they aren't up for the journey, then they can hit the road. As a single father in his 30's, I'd understand. With my career, 50% custody, and all the other intricacies of my life, I'd totally understand. Out time is limited.

Can I ask you something?
I am a single mom of 3, work fulltime and have full custody. So my plate is really full. Only thing I miss is physical intimacy.
With my stats, I only expect to find a few times a month NSA type of arrangement with a guy. What decent man would go for that? And if so, why?

Before I answer, would you be open to a real relationship? Or are you only interested in a fwb because of your "full plate?"

Back to answer your question. Would love a partner who truly loves me but I can also accept that such may not happen for me.
FWB may be all I can hope for. I have not tested if I am made for such arrangement because deep down I am a relationship person.

Now I don't know if I even answered your question ...

You answered it, sorta. I wouldn't say "such may not happen to me" because you never know. You seem to have a lot going for you, with the kiddos, the full time gig, and all your other responsibilities. Men like independent women.

If you have a FWB, stick with him long term. Some FWB relationships have great potential for LTR's. Just make sure you select a FWB that has personality, is employed, and is a great lay.

As I mentioned previously, women that have been married and have children, have a different take on life. They are more mature, bold, and don't beat around the bush. Some men love this in the women they date.

Ha, I like what you wrote, thanks!
And thanks for helping me make a list for what to look for in a fwb

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All: don't give up. Once you meet someone, be upfront. Share that your kids come first, and that if they aren't up for the journey, then they can hit the road. As a single father in his 30's, I'd understand. With my career, 50% custody, and all the other intricacies of my life, I'd totally understand. Out time is limited.

Can I ask you something?
I am a single mom of 3, work fulltime and have full custody. So my plate is really full. Only thing I miss is physical intimacy.
With my stats, I only expect to find a few times a month NSA type of arrangement with a guy. What decent man would go for that? And if so, why?

Before I answer, would you be open to a real relationship? Or are you only interested in a fwb because of your "full plate?"

Back to answer your question. Would love a partner who truly loves me but I can also accept that such may not happen for me.
FWB may be all I can hope for. I have not tested if I am made for such arrangement because deep down I am a relationship person.

Now I don't know if I even answered your question ...

You answered it, sorta. I wouldn't say "such may not happen to me" because you never know. You seem to have a lot going for you, with the kiddos, the full time gig, and all your other responsibilities. Men like independent women.

If you have a FWB, stick with him long term. Some FWB relationships have great potential for LTR's. Just make sure you select a FWB that has personality, is employed, and is a great lay.

As I mentioned previously, women that have been married and have children, have a different take on life. They are more mature, bold, and don't beat around the bush. Some men love this in the women they date.

Ha, I like what you wrote, thanks!
And thanks for helping me make a list for what to look for in a fwb

You're welcome, hot stuff!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All: don't give up. Once you meet someone, be upfront. Share that your kids come first, and that if they aren't up for the journey, then they can hit the road. As a single father in his 30's, I'd understand. With my career, 50% custody, and all the other intricacies of my life, I'd totally understand. Out time is limited.

Can I ask you something?
I am a single mom of 3, work fulltime and have full custody. So my plate is really full. Only thing I miss is physical intimacy.
With my stats, I only expect to find a few times a month NSA type of arrangement with a guy. What decent man would go for that? And if so, why?

Before I answer, would you be open to a real relationship? Or are you only interested in a fwb because of your "full plate?"

Back to answer your question. Would love a partner who truly loves me but I can also accept that such may not happen for me.
FWB may be all I can hope for. I have not tested if I am made for such arrangement because deep down I am a relationship person.

Now I don't know if I even answered your question ...

You answered it, sorta. I wouldn't say "such may not happen to me" because you never know. You seem to have a lot going for you, with the kiddos, the full time gig, and all your other responsibilities. Men like independent women.

If you have a FWB, stick with him long term. Some FWB relationships have great potential for LTR's. Just make sure you select a FWB that has personality, is employed, and is a great lay.

As I mentioned previously, women that have been married and have children, have a different take on life. They are more mature, bold, and don't beat around the bush. Some men love this in the women they date.

I just got home from visiting my FWB. He has become LTR, over the last several years. We caught up about our week apart, went straight to his giant beautiful bed, he made love to me in the best most delicious and fun way. The only kind of love making you can do when you haven’t seen one another in a while and miss each other. Something to be said for that. Then we laughed and talked, went out for burgers downtown, and I dropped him of at his house. Now I’m home, very happy, kids are asleep in bed, and it’s back to usual life. It can be done, people. I highly recommend something similar to single parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All: don't give up. Once you meet someone, be upfront. Share that your kids come first, and that if they aren't up for the journey, then they can hit the road. As a single father in his 30's, I'd understand. With my career, 50% custody, and all the other intricacies of my life, I'd totally understand. Out time is limited.

Can I ask you something?
I am a single mom of 3, work fulltime and have full custody. So my plate is really full. Only thing I miss is physical intimacy.
With my stats, I only expect to find a few times a month NSA type of arrangement with a guy. What decent man would go for that? And if so, why?

Before I answer, would you be open to a real relationship? Or are you only interested in a fwb because of your "full plate?"

Back to answer your question. Would love a partner who truly loves me but I can also accept that such may not happen for me.
FWB may be all I can hope for. I have not tested if I am made for such arrangement because deep down I am a relationship person.

Now I don't know if I even answered your question ...

You answered it, sorta. I wouldn't say "such may not happen to me" because you never know. You seem to have a lot going for you, with the kiddos, the full time gig, and all your other responsibilities. Men like independent women.

If you have a FWB, stick with him long term. Some FWB relationships have great potential for LTR's. Just make sure you select a FWB that has personality, is employed, and is a great lay.

As I mentioned previously, women that have been married and have children, have a different take on life. They are more mature, bold, and don't beat around the bush. Some men love this in the women they date.

I just got home from visiting my FWB. He has become LTR, over the last several years. We caught up about our week apart, went straight to his giant beautiful bed, he made love to me in the best most delicious and fun way. The only kind of love making you can do when you haven’t seen one another in a while and miss each other. Something to be said for that. Then we laughed and talked, went out for burgers downtown, and I dropped him of at his house. Now I’m home, very happy, kids are asleep in bed, and it’s back to usual life. It can be done, people. I highly recommend something similar to single parents.

FWB is not LTR if all you guys are doing are having sex and eating burgers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All: don't give up. Once you meet someone, be upfront. Share that your kids come first, and that if they aren't up for the journey, then they can hit the road. As a single father in his 30's, I'd understand. With my career, 50% custody, and all the other intricacies of my life, I'd totally understand. Out time is limited.

Can I ask you something?
I am a single mom of 3, work fulltime and have full custody. So my plate is really full. Only thing I miss is physical intimacy.
With my stats, I only expect to find a few times a month NSA type of arrangement with a guy. What decent man would go for that? And if so, why?

Before I answer, would you be open to a real relationship? Or are you only interested in a fwb because of your "full plate?"

Back to answer your question. Would love a partner who truly loves me but I can also accept that such may not happen for me.
FWB may be all I can hope for. I have not tested if I am made for such arrangement because deep down I am a relationship person.

Now I don't know if I even answered your question ...

You answered it, sorta. I wouldn't say "such may not happen to me" because you never know. You seem to have a lot going for you, with the kiddos, the full time gig, and all your other responsibilities. Men like independent women.

If you have a FWB, stick with him long term. Some FWB relationships have great potential for LTR's. Just make sure you select a FWB that has personality, is employed, and is a great lay.

As I mentioned previously, women that have been married and have children, have a different take on life. They are more mature, bold, and don't beat around the bush. Some men love this in the women they date.

I just got home from visiting my FWB. He has become LTR, over the last several years. We caught up about our week apart, went straight to his giant beautiful bed, he made love to me in the best most delicious and fun way. The only kind of love making you can do when you haven’t seen one another in a while and miss each other. Something to be said for that. Then we laughed and talked, went out for burgers downtown, and I dropped him of at his house. Now I’m home, very happy, kids are asleep in bed, and it’s back to usual life. It can be done, people. I highly recommend something similar to single parents.

FWB is not LTR if all you guys are doing are having sex and eating burgers.

Arbitrary 3 letter acronyms not withstanding, I’d like this kinda do relationship too.

[Anonymous]

I'm available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
As I mentioned previously, women that have been married and have children, have a different take on life. They are more mature, bold, and don't beat around the bush. Some men love this in the women they date.

Are you referring to sex?

[Anonymous]

I just got home from visiting my FWB. He has become LTR, over the last several years. We caught up about our week apart, went straight to his giant beautiful bed, he made love to me in the best most delicious and fun way. The only kind of love making you can do when you haven’t seen one another in a while and miss each other. Something to be said for that. Then we laughed and talked, went out for burgers downtown, and I dropped him of at his house. Now I’m home, very happy, kids are asleep in bed, and it’s back to usual life. It can be done, people. I highly recommend something similar to single parents.

FWB is not LTR if all you guys are doing are having sex and eating burgers.

Dinner and shag was just one evening. He’s also attending a family wedding with me, and we host Thanksgiving this year for both sides of family. It’s a LTR, just with fewer things to argue over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
As I mentioned previously, women that have been married and have children, have a different take on life. They are more mature, bold, and don't beat around the bush. Some men love this in the women they date.

Are you referring to sex?

Sure, among other areas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I just got home from visiting my FWB. He has become LTR, over the last several years. We caught up about our week apart, went straight to his giant beautiful bed, he made love to me in the best most delicious and fun way. The only kind of love making you can do when you haven’t seen one another in a while and miss each other. Something to be said for that. Then we laughed and talked, went out for burgers downtown, and I dropped him of at his house. Now I’m home, very happy, kids are asleep in bed, and it’s back to usual life. It can be done, people. I highly recommend something similar to single parents.

FWB is not LTR if all you guys are doing are having sex and eating burgers.

Dinner and shag was just one evening. He’s also attending a family wedding with me, and we host Thanksgiving this year for both sides of family. It’s a LTR, just with fewer things to argue over.

This is what I was referring to! They can become LTRs in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Kind of O/T but what do people think of single moms priorities other things (dating, career etc) over their children? Do we think that's great they're also focusing on themselves? Or do we judge and think they're a bad parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kind of O/T but what do people think of single moms priorities other things (dating, career etc) over their children? Do we think that's great they're also focusing on themselves? Or do we judge and think they're a bad parent?

Being a single parent doens't need to be a martyrdom. Parents, both married and single, need to tend to themselves the same as anyone else. A taken care of parent is better for the kids, too. I applaud all parents who work at their own careers and health. Everyone should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kind of O/T but what do people think of single moms priorities other things (dating, career etc) over their children? Do we think that's great they're also focusing on themselves? Or do we judge and think they're a bad parent?

It isn't either/or. A good person can do all of the above.