Single moms and dating

[Anonymous]

Very few single moms are hot in the conventional sense.

Very unlikely you could bag the ones that are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All: don't give up. Once you meet someone, be upfront. Share that your kids come first, and that if they aren't up for the journey, then they can hit the road. As a single father in his 30's, I'd understand. With my career, 50% custody, and all the other intricacies of my life, I'd totally understand. Out time is limited.

This is encouraging. I think other single parents understand without needing explanation. But kidless Dads, don't you want to find someone who will focus on YOU, and maybe want to have kids with you? Or if you have chosen to not have kids intentionally, then why would you want hang around with a parent who will always sort you to a second or third tier priority.
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dating.....?

This is getting silly. People date what they like/need and why does it need to make sense to anyone? I am a widow with no kids. Currently dating a man with teens. I am perfectly happy with the situation because I am independent and know I have a lot of nights to myself to do nothing or see my friends. I am not a baby person and didn't want to be pregnant for various reasons, but I like kids. This is like the best of both worlds.

[Anonymous]

Single dating mom here. What many guys that I meet online don't understand . . . I am not interested in endless chatting or talking on the phone before making a date. I give it a week with the chatting back and forth.. If you haven't asked for a date by then, I am out. I don't have time to waste texting, chatting and talking on the phone to people that are not prepared to date.

We should be able to schedule a date to meet each other within a week, at least a quick coffee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single dating mom here. What many guys that I meet online don't understand . . . I am not interested in endless chatting or talking on the phone before making a date. I give it a week with the chatting back and forth.. If you haven't asked for a date by then, I am out. I don't have time to waste texting, chatting and talking on the phone to people that are not prepared to date.

We should be able to schedule a date to meet each other within a week, at least a quick coffee.

Man here. Is this really a thing? I don't online date but if I did and you gave me your phone number, I would ask you for coffee with the first phone call.

Good Grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single dating mom here. What many guys that I meet online don't understand . . . I am not interested in endless chatting or talking on the phone before making a date. I give it a week with the chatting back and forth.. If you haven't asked for a date by then, I am out. I don't have time to waste texting, chatting and talking on the phone to people that are not prepared to date.

We should be able to schedule a date to meet each other within a week, at least a quick coffee.

Man here. Is this really a thing? I don't online date but if I did and you gave me your phone number, I would ask you for coffee with the first phone call.

Good Grief.

And no, I am not inter in chanting and calling with a man endlessly before we can arrange a quick meet up. Good grief.

[Anonymous]

If you are sufficiently sexually available you can have any man you want. He will wait until you are available to see him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All: don't give up. Once you meet someone, be upfront. Share that your kids come first, and that if they aren't up for the journey, then they can hit the road. As a single father in his 30's, I'd understand. With my career, 50% custody, and all the other intricacies of my life, I'd totally understand. Out time is limited.

This is encouraging. I think other single parents understand without needing explanation. But kidless Dads, don't you want to find someone who will focus on YOU, and maybe want to have kids with you? Or if you have chosen to not have kids intentionally, then why would you want hang around with a parent who will always sort you to a second or third tier priority.
Kids
Family
Work
Friends
Exercise
Home stuff
.
.
.
.
.
.
dating.....?

This is getting silly. People date what they like/need and why does it need to make sense to anyone? I am a widow with no kids. Currently dating a man with teens. I am perfectly happy with the situation because I am independent and know I have a lot of nights to myself to do nothing or see my friends. I am not a baby person and didn't want to be pregnant for various reasons, but I like kids. This is like the best of both worlds.

Then this question doesn't apply to you, no need to answer.

That was funny- baby person. Haha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single dating mom here. What many guys that I meet online don't understand . . . I am not interested in endless chatting or talking on the phone before making a date. I give it a week with the chatting back and forth.. If you haven't asked for a date by then, I am out. I don't have time to waste texting, chatting and talking on the phone to people that are not prepared to date.

We should be able to schedule a date to meet each other within a week, at least a quick coffee.

Man here. Is this really a thing? I don't online date but if I did and you gave me your phone number, I would ask you for coffee with the first phone call.

Good Grief.

Guy : I think a couple of weeks is now my max. Any longer and it’s clear you’re being held in reserve. A woman can set any limit she likes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single dating mom here. What many guys that I meet online don't understand . . . I am not interested in endless chatting or talking on the phone before making a date. I give it a week with the chatting back and forth.. If you haven't asked for a date by then, I am out. I don't have time to waste texting, chatting and talking on the phone to people that are not prepared to date.

We should be able to schedule a date to meet each other within a week, at least a quick coffee.

Man here. Is this really a thing? I don't online date but if I did and you gave me your phone number, I would ask you for coffee with the first phone call.

Good Grief.

Guy : I think a couple of weeks is now my max. Any longer and it’s clear you’re being held in reserve. A woman can set any limit she likes

Don't knock it. Wars are won on the backs of the reserves.

[Anonymous]

I'm dating a single dad with two kids and for the first few months it was very difficult and frustrating to find time to get together. We were lucky if it was once a week. But now that I've met his children I spend a good amount of time with all of them and though our one on one time is limited it's working out pretty well. His children are very nice which makes a world of difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm dating a single dad with two kids and for the first few months it was very difficult and frustrating to find time to get together. We were lucky if it was once a week. But now that I've met his children I spend a good amount of time with all of them and though our one on one time is limited it's working out pretty well. His children are very nice which makes a world of difference.

FYI the mother of those "very nice" kids probably despises this, by the way. They are indeed very nice, so they won't be rude to you, but you are getting in the way of their limited time with their Dad. They DNGAF about you, pleasant as you may be. Not that you would understand since you don't have children. Back off. Date that Dad when he has down time. Don't dilute his time with his children by your distracting presence. The kids don't like it, either. Beat it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm dating a single dad with two kids and for the first few months it was very difficult and frustrating to find time to get together. We were lucky if it was once a week. But now that I've met his children I spend a good amount of time with all of them and though our one on one time is limited it's working out pretty well. His children are very nice which makes a world of difference.

FYI the mother of those "very nice" kids probably despises this, by the way. They are indeed very nice, so they won't be rude to you, but you are getting in the way of their limited time with their Dad. They DNGAF about you, pleasant as you may be. Not that you would understand since you don't have children. Back off. Date that Dad when he has down time. Don't dilute his time with his children by your distracting presence. The kids don't like it, either. Beat it.

Wow, you're nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm dating a single dad with two kids and for the first few months it was very difficult and frustrating to find time to get together. We were lucky if it was once a week. But now that I've met his children I spend a good amount of time with all of them and though our one on one time is limited it's working out pretty well. His children are very nice which makes a world of difference.

FYI the mother of those "very nice" kids probably despises this, by the way. They are indeed very nice, so they won't be rude to you, but you are getting in the way of their limited time with their Dad. They DNGAF about you, pleasant as you may be. Not that you would understand since you don't have children. Back off. Date that Dad when he has down time. Don't dilute his time with his children by your distracting presence. The kids don't like it, either. Beat it.

You are obviously an angry ex wife who despises that her ex has moved on with someone your children like. Time for a chill pill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm dating a single dad with two kids and for the first few months it was very difficult and frustrating to find time to get together. We were lucky if it was once a week. But now that I've met his children I spend a good amount of time with all of them and though our one on one time is limited it's working out pretty well. His children are very nice which makes a world of difference.

FYI the mother of those "very nice" kids probably despises this, by the way. They are indeed very nice, so they won't be rude to you, but you are getting in the way of their limited time with their Dad. They DNGAF about you, pleasant as you may be. Not that you would understand since you don't have children. Back off. Date that Dad when he has down time. Don't dilute his time with his children by your distracting presence. The kids don't like it, either. Beat it.

You are obviously an angry ex wife who despises that her ex has moved on with someone your children like. Time for a chill pill.

Mothers do not "take chill pills" if they think their children are demoted to make way for fun new GF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm dating a single dad with two kids and for the first few months it was very difficult and frustrating to find time to get together. We were lucky if it was once a week. But now that I've met his children I spend a good amount of time with all of them and though our one on one time is limited it's working out pretty well. His children are very nice which makes a world of difference.

FYI the mother of those "very nice" kids probably despises this, by the way. They are indeed very nice, so they won't be rude to you, but you are getting in the way of their limited time with their Dad. They DNGAF about you, pleasant as you may be. Not that you would understand since you don't have children. Back off. Date that Dad when he has down time. Don't dilute his time with his children by your distracting presence. The kids don't like it, either. Beat it.

You are obviously an angry ex wife who despises that her ex has moved on with someone your children like. Time for a chill pill.

Mothers do not "take chill pills" if they think their children are demoted to make way for fun new GF.

Children demoted? Sounds like dad was demoted to every-other-weekend. Why shouldn't he start a new family with someone else? I know many men who have, and the kids or step-kids from the second marriage always turn out better.