Single moms and dating

[Anonymous]

I'd be surprised if you find anyone! Especially given that there are many other childless women your age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me give you a single dad perspective; I am in a similar situation. Two kids, 50/50 custody. I understand your situation perfectly. My kids come first, too. If you can only see me infrequently, when our mutual parenting schedules permit, that's totally fine with me. If your current guy doesn't work out, find someone like me.

Single mom with two kids here. Date single dads. Boom. Nobody will understand your situation better or have more respect for you. I'll date men without children, but I don't see myself craving something long term from somebody who doesn't completely get my situation.

I've been dating with for about 2 yrs now. Or I should say, trying to date. My kids are now 9 and 12. I have one night a week without them and they are usually with me on the weekends. For my one night of alone time, I want to be alone. I don't want to share my time or be obligated to go out on a date with someone. I want to sit on the couch, drink my wine, watch netflix and fall asleep until I wake up at 2am and crawl into bed..

I'd like to have a partner, but I want the end result without having to go through the work of getting there. So for now, I don't really date.

Very similar

[Anonymous]

I do not prioritize dating. Separated/divorced for 3 years now. Youngest is 13. My kids come first and I have them 80-90% of the time. I screen on the phone and then go on coffee or lunch dates when kids are in school to see if there is chemistry. So far, nothing amazing. But, I also have a FWB so sex when I am free and want it.

[Anonymous]

Definitely date other parents. Find one that has the same commitment to their kids that you do to yours. Be flexible around their kids schedules and you should get the same in return.

This is great advice.

I am a single dad (now an empty nester) and I had primary custody of my DD until she went to college. Stick with men who valued the same things you did (like being a parent) and you should be happier than dating: 1) single dads who are not involved with their kids and want you to be there for them on their terms; 2) single men who did not have kids/are not going have kids because it was not important to them.

If their kids (or kids in general) were not important to them, then your kids will never be. Please remember, you have be open to their needs a parents as well. While dating, I met a number of single moms who believed that scheduling was all about them (and they were normally the worst to date because they were awful at just about everything else as well.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not prioritize dating. Separated/divorced for 3 years now. Youngest is 13. My kids come first and I have them 80-90% of the time. I screen on the phone and then go on coffee or lunch dates when kids are in school to see if there is chemistry. So far, nothing amazing. But, I also have a FWB so sex when I am free and want it.

Who is the FWB? It’s not your ex is it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Definitely date other parents. Find one that has the same commitment to their kids that you do to yours. Be flexible around their kids schedules and you should get the same in return.

This is great advice.

I am a single dad (now an empty nester) and I had primary custody of my DD until she went to college. Stick with men who valued the same things you did (like being a parent) and you should be happier than dating: 1) single dads who are not involved with their kids and want you to be there for them on their terms; 2) single men who did not have kids/are not going have kids because it was not important to them.

If their kids (or kids in general) were not important to them, then your kids will never be. Please remember, you have be open to their needs a parents as well. While dating, I met a number of single moms who believed that scheduling was all about them (and they were normally the worst to date because they were awful at just about everything else as well.)

Funny, I find that the recently divorced parents are the worst to date. Since the divorce is rather new, the need for companionship is not strong, thereby not pushing them to look for alternatives for childcare. Most of these people tend to be solely focused on getting their sexual needs and venting about their lack of options in life after a divorce.

I do a quick hard pass on anyone divorced under 2 years. Been there, rearranged my life, jumped at the idea of a spontaneous date night, listened to their complaining about the lack of sex in their marriage, the alimony and childcare payments, and so forth. No, not ever again.

[Anonymous]

Get an au-pair. It will free up a lot of time and expense wise it isn't horrible.

[Anonymous]

I date single dads only as they understand the complications but matching up calendars is very difficult. At this point in my life I'm not interested in a LTR which seems to be a blessing to single dads. It's all about adult companionship, having some fun and great sex. It may only be once every week or two but we make the most of it.

[Anonymous]

I got really lucky and found a man my age who has never been married, but who also wasn’t afraid of my commitment to my son. He loves both of us, and in the early months of dating came over for a late dinner after bedtime, and we spent time together on weekends my son was away.

I had no interest in dating dads because I have no interest in raising anyone else’s kids, so they got screened out immediately. In the end, I didn’t meet my SO online, I met him in my real life circle, so it worked out even better because we got to know each other easier in a more laid back setting without the pressure of online dating.

[Anonymous]

The right man doesn't care. My now husband knew my one night off a week and that was always our date night.

[Lonely_Sojourner]

Anonymous wrote:The right man doesn't care. My now husband knew my one night off a week and that was always our date night. [/quote

Completely agree... Widowed man (4+ years) sans kids here... Most of the ladies I've been out with have kids as is quite common in the DC area. My experience is if you enjoy each other and want to spend time together, you find a way to do it. I dated a lady for 9+ months and spent a lot of time with her and the kids (movies, ballgames, water parks, etc). She was a blast to be around and her kids were a pleasure to be around as well. I hated to end it on many fronts as she is a great lady... My goal is to find a partner/teammate and odds are she will have kids. BL- they're package and I am more than prepared to accept such, knowing full well that her kids are first and I'm second...

PS - The reason we broke up was over finances (hers)...

L_S

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2 to 3 times a month? You cannot expect one guy to be ok with that type of schedule. Maybe you are not ready to date?

I am a single mom and I have more time available than you but I am not ready to date. Trying to find an arrangement for some companionship only but so far only married men have indicated interest and that doesn't work for me.

As a single dad, where do I sign up for this? How do I get a hold of you?

[Anonymous]

I wish I were single.

It sounds like I could bang a milf 7 nights a week.
Just slide on over to the fwb of the day and service her.

Who knew there was so many moms that needed di@k with no strings.

God to be single again. I’d hit the moms ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I were single.

It sounds like I could bang a milf 7 nights a week.
Just slide on over to the fwb of the day and service her.

Who knew there was so many moms that needed di@k with no strings.

God to be single again. I’d hit the moms ASAP.

I'm about to be a single dad. I'll report back to you if things are as good as you describe them here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish I were single.

It sounds like I could bang a milf 7 nights a week.
Just slide on over to the fwb of the day and service her.

Who knew there was so many moms that needed di@k with no strings.

God to be single again. I’d hit the moms ASAP.

I'm about to be a single dad. I'll report back to you if things are as good as you describe them here.

The grass is not greener on the other side....