Single moms and dating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 to 3 times a month? You cannot expect one guy to be ok with that type of schedule. Maybe you are not ready to date?

I am a single mom and I have more time available than you but I am not ready to date. Trying to find an arrangement for some companionship only but so far only married men have indicated interest and that doesn't work for me.

As a single dad, where do I sign up for this? How do I get a hold of you?

Why, in the Single Moms Store; top shelf to the left

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 to 3 times a month? You cannot expect one guy to be ok with that type of schedule. Maybe you are not ready to date?

I am a single mom and I have more time available than you but I am not ready to date. Trying to find an arrangement for some companionship only but so far only married men have indicated interest and that doesn't work for me.

As a single dad, where do I sign up for this? How do I get a hold of you?

Why, in the Single Moms Store; top shelf to the left

Another single mom here. If you are looking to fill that void in a women's life, you will need to have a lot to offer. This area is constantly being inundated with traveling men looking for NSA relationships. Top that off with the sheer number of twice-shy divorced guys, the market is flooded.

[Anonymous]

I have two sons and found dating men with no kids to be much less complicated for obvious reasons (scheduling being primary among them).

After two years of screening for single dads, I took a chance on guy with no kids who looked great "on paper." He is fantastic - including being extremely kid friendly and understanding - flexible and available, and we've been happily together for three years. You never know.

[Lonely_Sojourner]

Anonymous wrote:I have two sons and found dating men with no kids to be much less complicated for obvious reasons (scheduling being primary among them).

After two years of screening for single dads, I took a chance on guy with no kids who looked great "on paper." He is fantastic - including being extremely kid friendly and understanding - flexible and available, and we've been happily together for three years. You never know.

We ARE less complicated and more understanding than many would like to think or give us credit for... Again, single moms and their kids come as a package. You have to be patient and learn balance as getting frustrated helps nothing... If you can’t work it out in the short-term, you have NO chance long-term...

L_S

[Anonymous]

Single mom here, who doesn't date much. That part is mainly my fault. I have more custody, my daughter has a lot of activities and I'm involved in several of them. I also have a decent social life, so it's not like I'm sitting around at home, wishing I was out - I'm out with people, getting my social fix.

I would like to date, but I feel like at my age (46) I don't really meet eligible guys organically - most folks I meet are much younger or are married. And going online seems to involve a lot of time for maybe little payoff.

When I have dated, I've had some luck with (a) single dads who have a similar custody schedule, (b) guys who have fairly busy jobs and have limited free time, but are happy to see me once or twice a week, and (c) guys who are somewhat independent and like that I'm busy too and not hounding them to spend 100% of their time with me.

[Anonymous]

It's best for divorced parents to date people without kids. That way you don't have to deal with competing custody schedules, step siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's best for divorced parents to date people without kids. That way you don't have to deal with competing custody schedules, step siblings.

Gee, what if the people without kids had the "it's best to date people without kids" attitude? Which would, in fact, be more reasonable for them to have than for a person who has kids to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's best for divorced parents to date people without kids. That way you don't have to deal with competing custody schedules, step siblings.

Gee, what if the people without kids had the "it's best to date people without kids" attitude? Which would, in fact, be more reasonable for them to have than for a person who has kids to have.

PP has it right. No saved games!

[Anonymous]

When I started dating it wasn't difficult at all explaining the parenting dynamic. Most people I was dating were also divorced parents. I was 37 with 2 kids, 6 and 3. I had them all the time except every other weekend.

So I dated on those "every other weekends" and sometimes found time to go out for lunch or for coffee during a weekday. Phone calls.

As some PPs pointed out, just having every other weekend was more freedom than I'd had. I'm the first to say that my kids came in as most important. But part of being a good parent is having some boundaries and self-care. Ultimately I found dating (in my personal time) very rewarding.

I wasn't looking to remarry but fastforward and I'm very happily remarried. We dated for several years. The most challenging part was the years of not seeing each other as much as we wanted due to our respective parenting schedules. Also, we did not introduce our kids to our partners for a year after dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 to 3 times a month? You cannot expect one guy to be ok with that type of schedule. Maybe you are not ready to date?

I am a single mom and I have more time available than you but I am not ready to date. Trying to find an arrangement for some companionship only but so far only married men have indicated interest and that doesn't work for me.

As a single dad, where do I sign up for this? How do I get a hold of you?

Why, in the Single Moms Store; top shelf to the left

Another single mom here. If you are looking to fill that void in a women's life, you will need to have a lot to offer. This area is constantly being inundated with traveling men looking for NSA relationships. Top that off with the sheer number of twice-shy divorced guys, the market is flooded.

lol.

Yeah, men are just dying to find a divorced 43 year old woman with kids! That's what every guy wants!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 to 3 times a month? You cannot expect one guy to be ok with that type of schedule. Maybe you are not ready to date?

I am a single mom and I have more time available than you but I am not ready to date. Trying to find an arrangement for some companionship only but so far only married men have indicated interest and that doesn't work for me.

As a single dad, where do I sign up for this? How do I get a hold of you?

Why, in the Single Moms Store; top shelf to the left

Another single mom here. If you are looking to fill that void in a women's life, you will need to have a lot to offer. This area is constantly being inundated with traveling men looking for NSA relationships. Top that off with the sheer number of twice-shy divorced guys, the market is flooded.

Are you "single dad" from above. Did we hurt your feelings. Don't be sad - here is a cookie


lol.

Yeah, men are just dying to find a divorced 43 year old woman with kids! That's what every guy wants!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Yeah, men are just dying to find a divorced 43 year old woman with kids! That's what every guy wants!

A divorced guy with kids in his 50s would probably say yes to that.

(And then all the DCUM women scream, "No way, I'm in my 40s and ewwww 50-something men are too old!")

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish I were single.

It sounds like I could bang a milf 7 nights a week.
Just slide on over to the fwb of the day and service her.

Who knew there was so many moms that needed di@k with no strings.

God to be single again. I’d hit the moms ASAP.

I'm about to be a single dad. I'll report back to you if things are as good as you describe them here.

The grass is not greener on the other side....

There isn't even any grass on my current side of the fence. It brown and dead as Death Valley in July. Whatever is on the other side of the fence is certain to be greener.

[Anonymous]

Gee, what if the people without kids had the "it's best to date people without kids" attitude? Which would, in fact, be more reasonable for them to have than for a person who has kids to have.

This statement makes sense. You do not have look any further than the nut poster at 18:05. In the first part of her post, talks about finding a man who "understands" how important her son is to her. However, later in her post she states that she would not date single dads because she did not want to "raise someone else's kids." The translation is that she wants a man to help her raise her kid knowing she would never do the same for him. And knowing that the man who knew her best, and who had the most to gain from helping her raise the kid (her ex-husband), did not want to be with her.

There is treasure everywhere in the land of dating. However, knowing a woman is crazy enough to believe you should help her raise her kid know she would never help you raise yours should be all you need to identfy her as a nut to be avoided at all cost.

[Anonymous]

As a single mom we’re i to say that I’d mean that I don’t want to step into a role of mom. That’s what I would mean by “raise his kids”- a man who sees his kids every other weekend isn’t raising his kids.