Frustrated with preferential treatment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I may, I'm a member of a PTA at what would be considered a well regarded school. I've never been, or applied to be, a room parent, so I can't speak to how that process works. What I can tell you is that if you want to get involved, the PTA is a great avenue to do so. After the first meeting, it ends up being the same handful of people, and they always need an extra set of hands for various events.

I don't think there are any benefits to it that I can see, not what's been described. I had one instance where I requested my child be placed in the same class as another child because they were friends and worked well together. I didn't request a specific teacher. The kids got placed in the same class. But that form is sent to everyone at the end of the year, I didn't specifically request it, nor did I say that I was making the request as an involved member of the PTA or anything of the sort. My child is in one of those academic competitions that has limited spaces available. Again, I didn't advertise that I volunteer for the school, my kid got picked but I wasn't pulling any strings that I was aware of. No secretive phone calls from the administration, nothing like that.

Point is, if you want to be involved, get involved with the PTA. Just about every PTA could use more help. If you wind up getting picked to be a room parent later, you can tell yourself that it was because of joining. And who knows, there might be something to being a known commodity. Even if you don't get chosen, at least you'll be helping the school.

I don't think OP is someone who doesn't know how to get involved. I think OP's just frustrated with the poor behavior of some at the school. Just because there are other opportunities, doesn't make this behavior ok.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I may, I'm a member of a PTA at what would be considered a well regarded school. I've never been, or applied to be, a room parent, so I can't speak to how that process works. What I can tell you is that if you want to get involved, the PTA is a great avenue to do so. After the first meeting, it ends up being the same handful of people, and they always need an extra set of hands for various events.

I don't think there are any benefits to it that I can see, not what's been described. I had one instance where I requested my child be placed in the same class as another child because they were friends and worked well together. I didn't request a specific teacher. The kids got placed in the same class. But that form is sent to everyone at the end of the year, I didn't specifically request it, nor did I say that I was making the request as an involved member of the PTA or anything of the sort. My child is in one of those academic competitions that has limited spaces available. Again, I didn't advertise that I volunteer for the school, my kid got picked but I wasn't pulling any strings that I was aware of. No secretive phone calls from the administration, nothing like that.

Point is, if you want to be involved, get involved with the PTA. Just about every PTA could use more help. If you wind up getting picked to be a room parent later, you can tell yourself that it was because of joining. And who knows, there might be something to being a known commodity. Even if you don't get chosen, at least you'll be helping the school.

I don't think OP is someone who doesn't know how to get involved. I think OP's just frustrated with the poor behavior of some at the school. Just because there are other opportunities, doesn't make this behavior ok.

No, OP is frustrated she’s not getting exactly what she wants at exactly the moment she wants it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I may, I'm a member of a PTA at what would be considered a well regarded school. I've never been, or applied to be, a room parent, so I can't speak to how that process works. What I can tell you is that if you want to get involved, the PTA is a great avenue to do so. After the first meeting, it ends up being the same handful of people, and they always need an extra set of hands for various events.

I don't think there are any benefits to it that I can see, not what's been described. I had one instance where I requested my child be placed in the same class as another child because they were friends and worked well together. I didn't request a specific teacher. The kids got placed in the same class. But that form is sent to everyone at the end of the year, I didn't specifically request it, nor did I say that I was making the request as an involved member of the PTA or anything of the sort. My child is in one of those academic competitions that has limited spaces available. Again, I didn't advertise that I volunteer for the school, my kid got picked but I wasn't pulling any strings that I was aware of. No secretive phone calls from the administration, nothing like that.

Point is, if you want to be involved, get involved with the PTA. Just about every PTA could use more help. If you wind up getting picked to be a room parent later, you can tell yourself that it was because of joining. And who knows, there might be something to being a known commodity. Even if you don't get chosen, at least you'll be helping the school.

I don't think OP is someone who doesn't know how to get involved. I think OP's just frustrated with the poor behavior of some at the school. Just because there are other opportunities, doesn't make this behavior ok.

No, OP is frustrated she’s not getting exactly what she wants at exactly the moment she wants it.

No, she's saying people aren't playing fairly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I may, I'm a member of a PTA at what would be considered a well regarded school. I've never been, or applied to be, a room parent, so I can't speak to how that process works. What I can tell you is that if you want to get involved, the PTA is a great avenue to do so. After the first meeting, it ends up being the same handful of people, and they always need an extra set of hands for various events.

I don't think there are any benefits to it that I can see, not what's been described. I had one instance where I requested my child be placed in the same class as another child because they were friends and worked well together. I didn't request a specific teacher. The kids got placed in the same class. But that form is sent to everyone at the end of the year, I didn't specifically request it, nor did I say that I was making the request as an involved member of the PTA or anything of the sort. My child is in one of those academic competitions that has limited spaces available. Again, I didn't advertise that I volunteer for the school, my kid got picked but I wasn't pulling any strings that I was aware of. No secretive phone calls from the administration, nothing like that.

Point is, if you want to be involved, get involved with the PTA. Just about every PTA could use more help. If you wind up getting picked to be a room parent later, you can tell yourself that it was because of joining. And who knows, there might be something to being a known commodity. Even if you don't get chosen, at least you'll be helping the school.

I don't think OP is someone who doesn't know how to get involved. I think OP's just frustrated with the poor behavior of some at the school. Just because there are other opportunities, doesn't make this behavior ok.

No, OP is frustrated she’s not getting exactly what she wants at exactly the moment she wants it.

No, she's saying people aren't playing fairly.

She’s making that assumption because she refuses to believe it’s possible for her to not get what she wants unless someone else is cheating.

[Anonymous]

I think you are making an assumption as well. Where's the evidence to that statement?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I may, I'm a member of a PTA at what would be considered a well regarded school. I've never been, or applied to be, a room parent, so I can't speak to how that process works. What I can tell you is that if you want to get involved, the PTA is a great avenue to do so. After the first meeting, it ends up being the same handful of people, and they always need an extra set of hands for various events.

I don't think there are any benefits to it that I can see, not what's been described. I had one instance where I requested my child be placed in the same class as another child because they were friends and worked well together. I didn't request a specific teacher. The kids got placed in the same class. But that form is sent to everyone at the end of the year, I didn't specifically request it, nor did I say that I was making the request as an involved member of the PTA or anything of the sort. My child is in one of those academic competitions that has limited spaces available. Again, I didn't advertise that I volunteer for the school, my kid got picked but I wasn't pulling any strings that I was aware of. No secretive phone calls from the administration, nothing like that.

Point is, if you want to be involved, get involved with the PTA. Just about every PTA could use more help. If you wind up getting picked to be a room parent later, you can tell yourself that it was because of joining. And who knows, there might be something to being a known commodity. Even if you don't get chosen, at least you'll be helping the school.

I don't think OP is someone who doesn't know how to get involved. I think OP's just frustrated with the poor behavior of some at the school. Just because there are other opportunities, doesn't make this behavior ok.

No, OP is frustrated she’s not getting exactly what she wants at exactly the moment she wants it.

No, she's saying people aren't playing fairly.

She’s making that assumption because she refuses to believe it’s possible for her to not get what she wants unless someone else is cheating.

This statement below is an example that shows directly the teacher and this other parent not playing fairly, not OP making an assumption. Both because the parent was not the first to sign up and because the parent is already room parent in another class and was the year before. That shows preferential treatment, not some assumption on OP's part.

OP here. To give an example last year I was the first parent to fill in the sheet for a Room parent position (while signing up you see how many slots of each position are available and filled). After waiting for any intimation/email and not receiving anything back from the teacher, got to know from my DD that another parent was already made the room parent. This individual signed up after I did, but apparently is always the room parent in all her kids classes. I would definitely consider this preferential treatment. How is it not so? What are the odds the same parent gets to be the room parent for all of her kids' classes - all 3 classes, year after year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I may, I'm a member of a PTA at what would be considered a well regarded school. I've never been, or applied to be, a room parent, so I can't speak to how that process works. What I can tell you is that if you want to get involved, the PTA is a great avenue to do so. After the first meeting, it ends up being the same handful of people, and they always need an extra set of hands for various events.

I don't think there are any benefits to it that I can see, not what's been described. I had one instance where I requested my child be placed in the same class as another child because they were friends and worked well together. I didn't request a specific teacher. The kids got placed in the same class. But that form is sent to everyone at the end of the year, I didn't specifically request it, nor did I say that I was making the request as an involved member of the PTA or anything of the sort. My child is in one of those academic competitions that has limited spaces available. Again, I didn't advertise that I volunteer for the school, my kid got picked but I wasn't pulling any strings that I was aware of. No secretive phone calls from the administration, nothing like that.

Point is, if you want to be involved, get involved with the PTA. Just about every PTA could use more help. If you wind up getting picked to be a room parent later, you can tell yourself that it was because of joining. And who knows, there might be something to being a known commodity. Even if you don't get chosen, at least you'll be helping the school.

I don't think OP is someone who doesn't know how to get involved. I think OP's just frustrated with the poor behavior of some at the school. Just because there are other opportunities, doesn't make this behavior ok.

No, OP is frustrated she’s not getting exactly what she wants at exactly the moment she wants it.

No, she's saying people aren't playing fairly.

She’s making that assumption because she refuses to believe it’s possible for her to not get what she wants unless someone else is cheating.

This statement below is an example that shows directly the teacher and this other parent not playing fairly, not OP making an assumption. Both because the parent was not the first to sign up and because the parent is already room parent in another class and was the year before. That shows preferential treatment, not some assumption on OP's part.

OP here. To give an example last year I was the first parent to fill in the sheet for a Room parent position (while signing up you see how many slots of each position are available and filled). After waiting for any intimation/email and not receiving anything back from the teacher, got to know from my DD that another parent was already made the room parent. This individual signed up after I did, but apparently is always the room parent in all her kids classes. I would definitely consider this preferential treatment. How is it not so? What are the odds the same parent gets to be the room parent for all of her kids' classes - all 3 classes, year after year.

My goodness OP.

Just ask if you can help with the parties. It really is not a big deal if you get to sort the bingo cards or make the sign ip genius for the cookie decorating ingredients.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I may, I'm a member of a PTA at what would be considered a well regarded school. I've never been, or applied to be, a room parent, so I can't speak to how that process works. What I can tell you is that if you want to get involved, the PTA is a great avenue to do so. After the first meeting, it ends up being the same handful of people, and they always need an extra set of hands for various events.

I don't think there are any benefits to it that I can see, not what's been described. I had one instance where I requested my child be placed in the same class as another child because they were friends and worked well together. I didn't request a specific teacher. The kids got placed in the same class. But that form is sent to everyone at the end of the year, I didn't specifically request it, nor did I say that I was making the request as an involved member of the PTA or anything of the sort. My child is in one of those academic competitions that has limited spaces available. Again, I didn't advertise that I volunteer for the school, my kid got picked but I wasn't pulling any strings that I was aware of. No secretive phone calls from the administration, nothing like that.

Point is, if you want to be involved, get involved with the PTA. Just about every PTA could use more help. If you wind up getting picked to be a room parent later, you can tell yourself that it was because of joining. And who knows, there might be something to being a known commodity. Even if you don't get chosen, at least you'll be helping the school.

I don't think OP is someone who doesn't know how to get involved. I think OP's just frustrated with the poor behavior of some at the school. Just because there are other opportunities, doesn't make this behavior ok.

No, OP is frustrated she’s not getting exactly what she wants at exactly the moment she wants it.

No, she's saying people aren't playing fairly.

She’s making that assumption because she refuses to believe it’s possible for her to not get what she wants unless someone else is cheating.

This statement below is an example that shows directly the teacher and this other parent not playing fairly, not OP making an assumption. Both because the parent was not the first to sign up and because the parent is already room parent in another class and was the year before. That shows preferential treatment, not some assumption on OP's part.

OP here. To give an example last year I was the first parent to fill in the sheet for a Room parent position (while signing up you see how many slots of each position are available and filled). After waiting for any intimation/email and not receiving anything back from the teacher, got to know from my DD that another parent was already made the room parent. This individual signed up after I did, but apparently is always the room parent in all her kids classes. I would definitely consider this preferential treatment. How is it not so? What are the odds the same parent gets to be the room parent for all of her kids' classes - all 3 classes, year after year.

Did you read OP and then skip to the last page? Your assertion has already been addressed. Repeatedly. You are adding nothing to he discussion.

[Anonymous]

OP, you aren't missing anything by not being room parent. I spend a lot of money doing the parties as parents are too cheap to donate (not the ones who cannot afford it, the ones who can afford it). There is no preferential treatment. My kid and we have been treated by crap like the administration.

[Anonymous]

OP has been at the school for one year. She has no idea what happens “year after year.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I may, I'm a member of a PTA at what would be considered a well regarded school. I've never been, or applied to be, a room parent, so I can't speak to how that process works. What I can tell you is that if you want to get involved, the PTA is a great avenue to do so. After the first meeting, it ends up being the same handful of people, and they always need an extra set of hands for various events.

I don't think there are any benefits to it that I can see, not what's been described. I had one instance where I requested my child be placed in the same class as another child because they were friends and worked well together. I didn't request a specific teacher. The kids got placed in the same class. But that form is sent to everyone at the end of the year, I didn't specifically request it, nor did I say that I was making the request as an involved member of the PTA or anything of the sort. My child is in one of those academic competitions that has limited spaces available. Again, I didn't advertise that I volunteer for the school, my kid got picked but I wasn't pulling any strings that I was aware of. No secretive phone calls from the administration, nothing like that.

Point is, if you want to be involved, get involved with the PTA. Just about every PTA could use more help. If you wind up getting picked to be a room parent later, you can tell yourself that it was because of joining. And who knows, there might be something to being a known commodity. Even if you don't get chosen, at least you'll be helping the school.

I don't think OP is someone who doesn't know how to get involved. I think OP's just frustrated with the poor behavior of some at the school. Just because there are other opportunities, doesn't make this behavior ok.

No, OP is frustrated she’s not getting exactly what she wants at exactly the moment she wants it.

No, she's saying people aren't playing fairly.

She’s making that assumption because she refuses to believe it’s possible for her to not get what she wants unless someone else is cheating.

This statement below is an example that shows directly the teacher and this other parent not playing fairly, not OP making an assumption. Both because the parent was not the first to sign up and because the parent is already room parent in another class and was the year before. That shows preferential treatment, not some assumption on OP's part.

OP here. To give an example last year I was the first parent to fill in the sheet for a Room parent position (while signing up you see how many slots of each position are available and filled). After waiting for any intimation/email and not receiving anything back from the teacher, got to know from my DD that another parent was already made the room parent. This individual signed up after I did, but apparently is always the room parent in all her kids classes. I would definitely consider this preferential treatment. How is it not so? What are the odds the same parent gets to be the room parent for all of her kids' classes - all 3 classes, year after year.

Did you read OP and then skip to the last page? Your assertion has already been addressed. Repeatedly. You are adding nothing to he discussion.

No, I read through the entire thread. Where does it explain that this parent and teacher we're acting fairly? I'm not buying the argument that the teacher needs the same person year after year. It's a sign up. That was the only explanation I saw.

[Anonymous]

I find it interesting that there is such a demand to be room parent. I had all but a small number attend our BTSN. We had a brief explanation about the room parent role (we don’t expect much) and the fact that co-room parents are welcome. I have 20 forms returned and not one has checked off the volunteer spot for RP. The past few years I have had to ask people directly and I can usually get a couple after a little bit of coaxing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I may, I'm a member of a PTA at what would be considered a well regarded school. I've never been, or applied to be, a room parent, so I can't speak to how that process works. What I can tell you is that if you want to get involved, the PTA is a great avenue to do so. After the first meeting, it ends up being the same handful of people, and they always need an extra set of hands for various events.

I don't think there are any benefits to it that I can see, not what's been described. I had one instance where I requested my child be placed in the same class as another child because they were friends and worked well together. I didn't request a specific teacher. The kids got placed in the same class. But that form is sent to everyone at the end of the year, I didn't specifically request it, nor did I say that I was making the request as an involved member of the PTA or anything of the sort. My child is in one of those academic competitions that has limited spaces available. Again, I didn't advertise that I volunteer for the school, my kid got picked but I wasn't pulling any strings that I was aware of. No secretive phone calls from the administration, nothing like that.

Point is, if you want to be involved, get involved with the PTA. Just about every PTA could use more help. If you wind up getting picked to be a room parent later, you can tell yourself that it was because of joining. And who knows, there might be something to being a known commodity. Even if you don't get chosen, at least you'll be helping the school.

I don't think OP is someone who doesn't know how to get involved. I think OP's just frustrated with the poor behavior of some at the school. Just because there are other opportunities, doesn't make this behavior ok.

No, OP is frustrated she’s not getting exactly what she wants at exactly the moment she wants it.

No, she's saying people aren't playing fairly.

She’s making that assumption because she refuses to believe it’s possible for her to not get what she wants unless someone else is cheating.

This statement below is an example that shows directly the teacher and this other parent not playing fairly, not OP making an assumption. Both because the parent was not the first to sign up and because the parent is already room parent in another class and was the year before. That shows preferential treatment, not some assumption on OP's part.

OP here. To give an example last year I was the first parent to fill in the sheet for a Room parent position (while signing up you see how many slots of each position are available and filled). After waiting for any intimation/email and not receiving anything back from the teacher, got to know from my DD that another parent was already made the room parent. This individual signed up after I did, but apparently is always the room parent in all her kids classes. I would definitely consider this preferential treatment. How is it not so? What are the odds the same parent gets to be the room parent for all of her kids' classes - all 3 classes, year after year.

Did you read OP and then skip to the last page? Your assertion has already been addressed. Repeatedly. You are adding nothing to he discussion.

No, I read through the entire thread. Where does it explain that this parent and teacher we're acting fairly? I'm not buying the argument that the teacher needs the same person year after year. It's a sign up. That was the only explanation I saw.

Fine, this week you get to be line leader, but next week is Larla's turn and you have to be the caboose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that there is such a demand to be room parent. I had all but a small number attend our BTSN. We had a brief explanation about the room parent role (we don’t expect much) and the fact that co-room parents are welcome. I have 20 forms returned and not one has checked off the volunteer spot for RP. The past few years I have had to ask people directly and I can usually get a couple after a little bit of coaxing.

I guess you could consider it a compliment that people like OP don't believe you can be bribed with some party organizing.

[Anonymous]

Mama llama, too much snake PTA drama.