GF broke up with me because of money problems

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

$90k isn't gold-digger territory. And OP has dated this girl for 3 years and never said she asking for money before. She was in a financial bind and asked for help, he didn't want to (or have to -- certainly his choice!) give it. But someone who won't help you out after 3 years together doesn't think highly of you, and she got the message. As a 35 y/o making 5 figures in DC, OP definitely outkicked his coverage dating a 24 y/o grad student if she was even halfway attractive, and he apparently didn't realize that. It is hilarious, regardless of how strongly you identify with him.

Yeah, it is hilarious, given how 1) I'm not a man and 2) I don't date women, or gold diggers. It's actually more hilarious how you seem to identify so strongly to OP's ex given that she wants someone else to pay her CC payments. Mooch much yourself?

If this was a boyfriend who made $24k vs. my $90k, wanted me to *make monthly payments on CC debt he picked up* and subsequently *broke up with me* when I said I'd think about it, then yeah, I'd say I dodged a freakin' bullet. Reversing the genders make no difference to me as it obviously does for you, which says way more about you.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

$90k isn't gold-digger territory. And OP has dated this girl for 3 years and never said she asking for money before. She was in a financial bind and asked for help, he didn't want to (or have to -- certainly his choice!) give it. But someone who won't help you out after 3 years together doesn't think highly of you, and she got the message. As a 35 y/o making 5 figures in DC, OP definitely outkicked his coverage dating a 24 y/o grad student if she was even halfway attractive, and he apparently didn't realize that. It is hilarious, regardless of how strongly you identify with him.

Yeah, it is hilarious, given how 1) I'm not a man and 2) I don't date women, or gold diggers. It's actually more hilarious how you seem to identify so strongly to OP's ex given that she wants someone else to pay her CC payments. Mooch much yourself?

If this was a boyfriend who made $24k vs. my $90k, wanted me to *make monthly payments on CC debt he picked up* and subsequently *broke up with me* when I said I'd think about it, then yeah, I'd say I dodged a freakin' bullet. Reversing the genders make no difference to me as it obviously does for you, which says way more about you.

Your assumptions are off -- I said very early in the thread that when there's a big income discrepancy either the couple lives to the broke one's standards or the rich one treats. He was making her pay for airfare to take trips she couldn't afford and now he's single. They didn't have to travel, they could have dated a lot more cheaply -- that's what I did when I met my DH! But you think that your internalized misogyny makes you a neutral arbiter -- except in your world a grad student in CC debt asking the boyfriend of three years who's been breaking her bank account to help her with minimums until her next stipend is a "mooch" and a "gold digger"? Mkay.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

$90k isn't gold-digger territory. And OP has dated this girl for 3 years and never said she asking for money before. She was in a financial bind and asked for help, he didn't want to (or have to -- certainly his choice!) give it. But someone who won't help you out after 3 years together doesn't think highly of you, and she got the message. As a 35 y/o making 5 figures in DC, OP definitely outkicked his coverage dating a 24 y/o grad student if she was even halfway attractive, and he apparently didn't realize that. It is hilarious, regardless of how strongly you identify with him.

Yeah, it is hilarious, given how 1) I'm not a man and 2) I don't date women, or gold diggers. It's actually more hilarious how you seem to identify so strongly to OP's ex given that she wants someone else to pay her CC payments. Mooch much yourself?

If this was a boyfriend who made $24k vs. my $90k, wanted me to *make monthly payments on CC debt he picked up* and subsequently *broke up with me* when I said I'd think about it, then yeah, I'd say I dodged a freakin' bullet. Reversing the genders make no difference to me as it obviously does for you, which says way more about you.

I'm another pp defending the girl. Reversing the genders doesn't matter to me. Older woman dating grad school guy, same thing

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

A 24 year old asking a 35 year old making 90k a year for 600 dollars to pay a specific bill is a pretty bad gold digger.

I think the quote in bold is what makes the PP a gold digger, and she's inferring the same mentality to OP's ex, true or not.

I'm saying he's old, not particularly successful, and based on this thread not emotionally or financially generous with his stressed out, much younger, broke GF. In Dan Savage terms he violated the Campsite Rule. What do you think OP brought to the table, if I'm wrong?

You don't get it do you? You're proving my point for me and you think you've got the winning point? It doesn't matter how much of a loser you think OP is, how you think $90k is "not particularly successful" and how you think 35 is "old," you're just proving that OP's ex was with him for the money, and when that didn't pan out, she dropped him like a hot rock. Ergo, he dodged a bullet.

Jesus, you are dim.

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If they’ve been dating for three years, she was 21 and he was 32 when they started.

32/2 + 7 = 23

This age difference fails the Formula. There’s a reason why this formula has been around for generations.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

$90k isn't gold-digger territory. And OP has dated this girl for 3 years and never said she asking for money before. She was in a financial bind and asked for help, he didn't want to (or have to -- certainly his choice!) give it. But someone who won't help you out after 3 years together doesn't think highly of you, and she got the message. As a 35 y/o making 5 figures in DC, OP definitely outkicked his coverage dating a 24 y/o grad student if she was even halfway attractive, and he apparently didn't realize that. It is hilarious, regardless of how strongly you identify with him.

Yeah, it is hilarious, given how 1) I'm not a man and 2) I don't date women, or gold diggers. It's actually more hilarious how you seem to identify so strongly to OP's ex given that she wants someone else to pay her CC payments. Mooch much yourself?

If this was a boyfriend who made $24k vs. my $90k, wanted me to *make monthly payments on CC debt he picked up* and subsequently *broke up with me* when I said I'd think about it, then yeah, I'd say I dodged a freakin' bullet. Reversing the genders make no difference to me as it obviously does for you, which says way more about you.

Your assumptions are off -- I said very early in the thread that when there's a big income discrepancy either the couple lives to the broke one's standards or the rich one treats. He was making her pay for airfare to take trips she couldn't afford and now he's single. They didn't have to travel, they could have dated a lot more cheaply -- that's what I did when I met my DH! But you think that your internalized misogyny makes you a neutral arbiter -- except in your world a grad student in CC debt asking the boyfriend of three years who's been breaking her bank account to help her with minimums until her next stipend is a "mooch" and a "gold digger"? Mkay.

That's not why they broke up. For all you know she wanted to travel and have OP pay for everything but the plane tickets. Now you're just making crap up.

Also, saying that women should pay for their own credit card debt and not expect a man to swoop in a save her makes me a misogynist now? Take a hike!

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

A 24 year old asking a 35 year old making 90k a year for 600 dollars to pay a specific bill is a pretty bad gold digger.

I think the quote in bold is what makes the PP a gold digger, and she's inferring the same mentality to OP's ex, true or not.

I'm saying he's old, not particularly successful, and based on this thread not emotionally or financially generous with his stressed out, much younger, broke GF. In Dan Savage terms he violated the Campsite Rule. What do you think OP brought to the table, if I'm wrong?

You don't get it do you? You're proving my point for me and you think you've got the winning point? It doesn't matter how much of a loser you think OP is, how you think $90k is "not particularly successful" and how you think 35 is "old," you're just proving that OP's ex was with him for the money, and when that didn't pan out, she dropped him like a hot rock. Ergo, he dodged a bullet.

Jesus, you are dim.

No we're saying that she must have really loved him to have stuck it out with someone 11 years older than her who was clearly not on track to become super rich.

She left him when he showed he didn't really love her and definitely was not generous.

You're completely ignoring the fact that they've been dating for three years. She's really playing the long gold digger game if she's asking for 600 bucks after 3 years.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

A 24 year old asking a 35 year old making 90k a year for 600 dollars to pay a specific bill is a pretty bad gold digger.

I think the quote in bold is what makes the PP a gold digger, and she's inferring the same mentality to OP's ex, true or not.

I'm saying he's old, not particularly successful, and based on this thread not emotionally or financially generous with his stressed out, much younger, broke GF. In Dan Savage terms he violated the Campsite Rule. What do you think OP brought to the table, if I'm wrong?

You don't get it do you? You're proving my point for me and you think you've got the winning point? It doesn't matter how much of a loser you think OP is, how you think $90k is "not particularly successful" and how you think 35 is "old," you're just proving that OP's ex was with him for the money, and when that didn't pan out, she dropped him like a hot rock. Ergo, he dodged a bullet.

Jesus, you are dim.

He's ELEVEN YEARS OLDER THAN HER. He started dating her when she was 21 and he was 32. He's old compared to his ex. He violated the campsite rule, admits that he wasn't emotionally supportive of her, and wouldn't help her out the one time she asked for it. I'm not dim, kiddo. I'm just not deluded.

And you're the one trying to paint her as a femme fatale targeting his wealth, which is why the fact that he makes $90k at 35 matters. That's not gold digging. That's a basic "I have a college degree" salary in DC, and the fact that she's still in school is not because she's vamping for time to find her meal ticket, it's because he was dating someone ELEVEN YEARS YOUNGER THAN HIM.

If you think he dodged a bullet, why are you so very, very mad? Celebrate! I'm sure another lovely young woman will come his way in no time flat.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve been dating for three years, she was 21 and he was 32 when they started.

32/2 + 7 = 23

This age difference fails the Formula. There’s a reason why this formula has been around for generations.

But it's currently in compliance with the formula.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

$90k isn't gold-digger territory. And OP has dated this girl for 3 years and never said she asking for money before. She was in a financial bind and asked for help, he didn't want to (or have to -- certainly his choice!) give it. But someone who won't help you out after 3 years together doesn't think highly of you, and she got the message. As a 35 y/o making 5 figures in DC, OP definitely outkicked his coverage dating a 24 y/o grad student if she was even halfway attractive, and he apparently didn't realize that. It is hilarious, regardless of how strongly you identify with him.

Yeah, it is hilarious, given how 1) I'm not a man and 2) I don't date women, or gold diggers. It's actually more hilarious how you seem to identify so strongly to OP's ex given that she wants someone else to pay her CC payments. Mooch much yourself?

If this was a boyfriend who made $24k vs. my $90k, wanted me to *make monthly payments on CC debt he picked up* and subsequently *broke up with me* when I said I'd think about it, then yeah, I'd say I dodged a freakin' bullet. Reversing the genders make no difference to me as it obviously does for you, which says way more about you.

I'm another pp defending the girl. Reversing the genders doesn't matter to me. Older woman dating grad school guy, same thing

I call complete BS on you actually believing this, but okay, sure, whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve been dating for three years, she was 21 and he was 32 when they started.

32/2 + 7 = 23

This age difference fails the Formula. There’s a reason why this formula has been around for generations.

But it's currently in compliance with the formula.

Once she was in compliance she was old enough to see OP for what he is

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

$90k isn't gold-digger territory. And OP has dated this girl for 3 years and never said she asking for money before. She was in a financial bind and asked for help, he didn't want to (or have to -- certainly his choice!) give it. But someone who won't help you out after 3 years together doesn't think highly of you, and she got the message. As a 35 y/o making 5 figures in DC, OP definitely outkicked his coverage dating a 24 y/o grad student if she was even halfway attractive, and he apparently didn't realize that. It is hilarious, regardless of how strongly you identify with him.

Yeah, it is hilarious, given how 1) I'm not a man and 2) I don't date women, or gold diggers. It's actually more hilarious how you seem to identify so strongly to OP's ex given that she wants someone else to pay her CC payments. Mooch much yourself?

If this was a boyfriend who made $24k vs. my $90k, wanted me to *make monthly payments on CC debt he picked up* and subsequently *broke up with me* when I said I'd think about it, then yeah, I'd say I dodged a freakin' bullet. Reversing the genders make no difference to me as it obviously does for you, which says way more about you.

Your assumptions are off -- I said very early in the thread that when there's a big income discrepancy either the couple lives to the broke one's standards or the rich one treats. He was making her pay for airfare to take trips she couldn't afford and now he's single. They didn't have to travel, they could have dated a lot more cheaply -- that's what I did when I met my DH! But you think that your internalized misogyny makes you a neutral arbiter -- except in your world a grad student in CC debt asking the boyfriend of three years who's been breaking her bank account to help her with minimums until her next stipend is a "mooch" and a "gold digger"? Mkay.

That's not why they broke up. For all you know she wanted to travel and have OP pay for everything but the plane tickets. Now you're just making crap up.

Also, saying that women should pay for their own credit card debt and not expect a man to swoop in a save her makes me a misogynist now? Take a hike!

Read the thread. He said she canceled the trip and broke up with him. She couldn't afford to travel like he can. And no, what makes PP a misogynist is all the name calling -- calling a person a gold digger on the flimsiest of evidence (like the other PP said, waiting 3 years to ask for $600 is a very long con) and then doubling, tripling, quadrupling down on a gendered slur is misogynist.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

$90k isn't gold-digger territory. And OP has dated this girl for 3 years and never said she asking for money before. She was in a financial bind and asked for help, he didn't want to (or have to -- certainly his choice!) give it. But someone who won't help you out after 3 years together doesn't think highly of you, and she got the message. As a 35 y/o making 5 figures in DC, OP definitely outkicked his coverage dating a 24 y/o grad student if she was even halfway attractive, and he apparently didn't realize that. It is hilarious, regardless of how strongly you identify with him.

Yeah, it is hilarious, given how 1) I'm not a man and 2) I don't date women, or gold diggers. It's actually more hilarious how you seem to identify so strongly to OP's ex given that she wants someone else to pay her CC payments. Mooch much yourself?

If this was a boyfriend who made $24k vs. my $90k, wanted me to *make monthly payments on CC debt he picked up* and subsequently *broke up with me* when I said I'd think about it, then yeah, I'd say I dodged a freakin' bullet. Reversing the genders make no difference to me as it obviously does for you, which says way more about you.

I'm another pp defending the girl. Reversing the genders doesn't matter to me. Older woman dating grad school guy, same thing

I call complete BS on you actually believing this, but okay, sure, whatever.

Sorry it's so shocking to know that some people believe that when there is inequality in a relationship the person on top should step up.

FWIW I think both ops girl and this guy should abandon that relationship. 11years at that age is a very very significant imbalance. I know because I was in a relationship like that.

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I think the quote in bold is what makes the PP a gold digger, and she's inferring the same mentality to OP's ex, true or not.

I'm saying he's old, not particularly successful, and based on this thread not emotionally or financially generous with his stressed out, much younger, broke GF. In Dan Savage terms he violated the Campsite Rule. What do you think OP brought to the table, if I'm wrong?

You don't get it do you? You're proving my point for me and you think you've got the winning point? It doesn't matter how much of a loser you think OP is, how you think $90k is "not particularly successful" and how you think 35 is "old," you're just proving that OP's ex was with him for the money, and when that didn't pan out, she dropped him like a hot rock. Ergo, he dodged a bullet.

Jesus, you are dim.

He's ELEVEN YEARS OLDER THAN HER. He started dating her when she was 21 and he was 32. He's old compared to his ex. He violated the campsite rule, admits that he wasn't emotionally supportive of her, and wouldn't help her out the one time she asked for it. I'm not dim, kiddo. I'm just not deluded.

And you're the one trying to paint her as a femme fatale targeting his wealth, which is why the fact that he makes $90k at 35 matters. That's not gold digging. That's a basic "I have a college degree" salary in DC, and the fact that she's still in school is not because she's vamping for time to find her meal ticket, it's because he was dating someone ELEVEN YEARS YOUNGER THAN HIM.

If you think he dodged a bullet, why are you so very, very mad? Celebrate! I'm sure another lovely young woman will come his way in no time flat.

Um, you're the one using all caps, you think I'm mad? I'm not, I promise, just really surprised at times by how much stupid there is out there. I mean you're literally trying to say this GF *wasn't* gold digging but you keep talking about how OLD (comparatively, whatever!) and "unsuccessful" OP is and how he should have just paid for the CC so she wouldn't leave him.

I can't even.

And um, I call BS on the you "making 3x more than your DH" nonsense, with reasoning skills like that. Unless your DH makes $5,000 a year or something like that

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Pp is a troll other sane pp... don't feed her