GF broke up with me because of money problems

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I read it as $200/month originally. However, OP sucks. You both dodged a bullet because you obviously don't care about her if $600 was going to break the 3 year relationship.

But I think she dodged a bigger one because you do seem emotionally stunted and distant. She's better off without you and your budget-busting vacations.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like after 3 years you should know whether you want to marry her or not.

I feel like he did know: his answer to her asking to borrow (not very much) money was to laugh it off and assume she's a mooch. If he wanted to marry her his response would have been different. So now he knows he doesn't want to be with her long-term, and she clearly knows too. And thanks to the internet; we also get to know!

We all know it's not "borrowing," she asked to be given money for CC debt. Give me a break. At least be up front.

I asked him to clarify what "$200 until next summer" meant on page one and he didn't until after this post, so no breaks will be given. The OP was in no way clear.

Doesn't change my point -- he did know he didn't want to be with her long-term. And now he doesn't have to.

Yeah no, you just had sh*tty reading comprehension and gave the GF way too much credit based on your own biases. We got it.

You seem angry. Deep breaths buddy, you'll get through.

He didn't say monthly, he said she asked for $200 until next summer, and it took until the about the 30th comment to even clarify that she had broken up with him, he initially only said she was acting distant since they got back. He did not communicate his story clearly. Don't take it so personally.

Yeah, no. This was on you, dummy.

Deep breathing didn't work?

You made a reading comprehension error and now you seem unhinged and cray cray. Do you always dig in when you've clearly made a mistake? How unpleasant.

This is a lot of name calling for someone calling another person unhinged. The internet doesn't have to affect you this strongly. It's ephemera. OP is free!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like after 3 years you should know whether you want to marry her or not.

I feel like he did know: his answer to her asking to borrow (not very much) money was to laugh it off and assume she's a mooch. If he wanted to marry her his response would have been different. So now he knows he doesn't want to be with her long-term, and she clearly knows too. And thanks to the internet; we also get to know!

We all know it's not "borrowing," she asked to be given money for CC debt. Give me a break. At least be up front.

I asked him to clarify what "$200 until next summer" meant on page one and he didn't until after this post, so no breaks will be given. The OP was in no way clear.

Doesn't change my point -- he did know he didn't want to be with her long-term. And now he doesn't have to.

Yeah no, you just had sh*tty reading comprehension and gave the GF way too much credit based on your own biases. We got it.

You seem angry. Deep breaths buddy, you'll get through.

He didn't say monthly, he said she asked for $200 until next summer, and it took until the about the 30th comment to even clarify that she had broken up with him, he initially only said she was acting distant since they got back. He did not communicate his story clearly. Don't take it so personally.

Yeah, no. This was on you, dummy.

Deep breathing didn't work?

You made a reading comprehension error and now you seem unhinged and cray cray. Do you always dig in when you've clearly made a mistake? How unpleasant.

This is a lot of name calling for someone calling another person unhinged. The internet doesn't have to affect you this strongly. It's ephemera. OP is free!

...says the crazy woman who just can't let it go. Take a look in the mirror and try some of that deep breathing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

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Normally I would say asking for financial help in a relationship is a nono but you've been dating for 3 years. I'd you were thinking about marrying her you would have done it and if you weren't then she should have dumped you. 3years is sh$# or get off the pot time.

And your seeming complete lack of concern or empathy for her very limited salary makes it worse.

Bottom line if you're dating a graduate student enjoys making 24k a year and three years in they ask for some money for the first time they aren't a gold digger they justneed help. And if it was gonna be as forever relationship you would have wanted to give it.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Omg everything I just said times 10. You're 35!!!! She is the one dodging a bullet!

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Anonymous wrote:I read it as $200/month originally. However, OP sucks. You both dodged a bullet because you obviously don't care about her if $600 was going to break the 3 year relationship.

But I think she dodged a bigger one because you do seem emotionally stunted and distant. She's better off without you and your budget-busting vacations.

Some of you PPs have got this backwards and are clearly biased in favor of the GF.

The GF broke up with OP over $600, not the other way around. It's not even like he was given an ultimatum - he even said he would think about it. He absolutely should not have paid her debts given how easily she walked away from him over $600.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

[Anonymous]

Poor girl.... dating an older guy for three years who is too greedy to give $200. I would have dumped you too.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

A 24 year old asking a 35 year old making 90k a year for 600 dollars to pay a specific bill is a pretty bad gold digger.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

A 24 year old asking a 35 year old making 90k a year for 600 dollars to pay a specific bill is a pretty bad gold digger.

I think the quote in bold is what makes the PP a gold digger, and she's inferring the same mentality to OP's ex, true or not.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

$90k isn't gold-digger territory. And OP has dated this girl for 3 years and never said she asking for money before. She was in a financial bind and asked for help, he didn't want to (or have to -- certainly his choice!) give it. But someone who won't help you out after 3 years together doesn't think highly of you, and she got the message. As a 35 y/o making 5 figures in DC, OP definitely outkicked his coverage dating a 24 y/o grad student if she was even halfway attractive, and he apparently didn't realize that. It is hilarious, regardless of how strongly you identify with him.

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

A 24 year old asking a 35 year old making 90k a year for 600 dollars to pay a specific bill is a pretty bad gold digger.

I think the quote in bold is what makes the PP a gold digger, and she's inferring the same mentality to OP's ex, true or not.

I'm saying he's old, not particularly successful, and based on this thread not emotionally or financially generous with his stressed out, much younger, broke GF. In Dan Savage terms he violated the Campsite Rule. What do you think OP brought to the table, if I'm wrong?

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Anonymous wrote:What are your ages? Are you a lot older than your GF?

OP here. I am 35 and and she's 24.

Oh wow I am dying laughing at this. You need to date someone closer to your own age or realize that you don't bring that much to the table for a 24 year old. Why did you think she was with you?

I guess the gold diggers are out in force defending their kind...

A 24 year old asking a 35 year old making 90k a year for 600 dollars to pay a specific bill is a pretty bad gold digger.

I think the quote in bold is what makes the PP a gold digger, and she's inferring the same mentality to OP's ex, true or not.

I'm saying he's old, not particularly successful, and based on this thread not emotionally or financially generous with his stressed out, much younger, broke GF. In Dan Savage terms he violated the Campsite Rule. What do you think OP brought to the table, if I'm wrong?

And as to the "makes me a gold digger" nonsense -- I made twice what my DH made when we met, and verrrrry close to three times what he makes now. I'm not a gold digger I'm just not a clueless entitled middle-aged man. The fact that he's not a catch doesn't make me money hungry.