GF broke up with me because of money problems

[Anonymous]

I am appalled that some people are defending OP and saying he dodged a bullet. Jesus. He was the exploitative one in this relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she broke up with you for lots of reasons. This was the last straw. You sound really insensitive. A a hot 24 year old has tons of options.

Better for her. OP will find his match - in not a good way. Very petty of you truly thought she could be the one,

[Anonymous]

Op here. I sent her an apology and money tonight. She texted me back saying she did not want me to send anything. She told me she's been depressed. I told her I have been feeling the same way. She would not agree to talk on the phone.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound emotionally stunted. Have you considered seeing a therapist? It sounds like you need one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I sent her an apology and money tonight. She texted me back saying she did not want me to send anything. She told me she's been depressed. I told her I have been feeling the same way. She would not agree to talk on the phone.

Oh god, leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why you guys are coming down on OP so hard. OP, ignore half of these posts, especially the mean-spirited name calling ones.

How old are you? 90 k really isn't a lot of money for this area. It would've been nice of you to help out your gf if you were comfortable with doing so but you were not. So there's that. How in the world did she run up 8 k in credit card debt alone? If she's fiscally irresponsible, you really did dodge a bullet. Helping her out wouldn't have done much. You could've paid off her entire bill and she could've found herself in even more debt just weeks later. Also, finances are the #1 cause of divorce. So if she's going to be a financial drain, it's good to cut ties now...On the other hand, she's a student who could have great future earning potential. Then again, even with a great income, if she's financially irresponsible it's a waste. Better to end it now than later. Between her financial irresponsibility and depression, maybe you're better off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I sent her an apology and money tonight. She texted me back saying she did not want me to send anything. She told me she's been depressed. I told her I have been feeling the same way. She would not agree to talk on the phone.

OP, you cannot do this. You effectively just tried to buy her, using the lure of payment to get her back into your bed and your life. That is incredibly disrespectful and inappropriate. You have to accept the fact that this relationship is over. If you can’t do that on your own, you need to seek mental health counseling.

[Anonymous]

Don't send her money. Too late - learn and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you guys are coming down on OP so hard. OP, ignore half of these posts, especially the mean-spirited name calling ones.

How old are you? 90 k really isn't a lot of money for this area. It would've been nice of you to help out your gf if you were comfortable with doing so but you were not. So there's that. How in the world did she run up 8 k in credit card debt alone? If she's fiscally irresponsible, you really did dodge a bullet. Helping her out wouldn't have done much. You could've paid off her entire bill and she could've found herself in even more debt just weeks later. Also, finances are the #1 cause of divorce. So if she's going to be a financial drain, it's good to cut ties now...On the other hand, she's a student who could have great future earning potential. Then again, even with a great income, if she's financially irresponsible it's a waste. Better to end it now than later. Between her financial irresponsibility and depression, maybe you're better off.

You're so weird. We're talking about 2 people who have been together for 3 years. 8k really isn't that bad.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you guys are coming down on OP so hard. OP, ignore half of these posts, especially the mean-spirited name calling ones.

How old are you? 90 k really isn't a lot of money for this area. It would've been nice of you to help out your gf if you were comfortable with doing so but you were not. So there's that. How in the world did she run up 8 k in credit card debt alone? If she's fiscally irresponsible, you really did dodge a bullet. Helping her out wouldn't have done much. You could've paid off her entire bill and she could've found herself in even more debt just weeks later. Also, finances are the #1 cause of divorce. So if she's going to be a financial drain, it's good to cut ties now...On the other hand, she's a student who could have great future earning potential. Then again, even with a great income, if she's financially irresponsible it's a waste. Better to end it now than later. Between her financial irresponsibility and depression, maybe you're better off.

You're so weird. We're talking about 2 people who have been together for 3 years. 8k really isn't that bad.

+1 She clearly ran up credit card debt trying to have a life with back-to-back vacations to keep up with OP. People on 26k grad student salary don't do that, can't do that. OP obviously did not respect that fact and just lived the grad student life with her if he really loved her, but nope. Instead he patted himself on the back for paying for parts of her trips and food, and felt it was fair and reasonable to expect her to contribute some of the money when clearly she had NO disposable income. He wanted to sleep with a young woman, but he didn't want to live the lifestyle of young woman. He is exploitative.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you guys are coming down on OP so hard. OP, ignore half of these posts, especially the mean-spirited name calling ones.

How old are you? 90 k really isn't a lot of money for this area. It would've been nice of you to help out your gf if you were comfortable with doing so but you were not. So there's that. How in the world did she run up 8 k in credit card debt alone? If she's fiscally irresponsible, you really did dodge a bullet. Helping her out wouldn't have done much. You could've paid off her entire bill and she could've found herself in even more debt just weeks later. Also, finances are the #1 cause of divorce. So if she's going to be a financial drain, it's good to cut ties now...On the other hand, she's a student who could have great future earning potential. Then again, even with a great income, if she's financially irresponsible it's a waste. Better to end it now than later. Between her financial irresponsibility and depression, maybe you're better off.

You're so weird. We're talking about 2 people who have been together for 3 years. 8k really isn't that bad.

Ahh...Name calling. Of course. When you're unintelligent, resort to namecalling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you guys are coming down on OP so hard. OP, ignore half of these posts, especially the mean-spirited name calling ones.

How old are you? 90 k really isn't a lot of money for this area. It would've been nice of you to help out your gf if you were comfortable with doing so but you were not. So there's that. How in the world did she run up 8 k in credit card debt alone? If she's fiscally irresponsible, you really did dodge a bullet. Helping her out wouldn't have done much. You could've paid off her entire bill and she could've found herself in even more debt just weeks later. Also, finances are the #1 cause of divorce. So if she's going to be a financial drain, it's good to cut ties now...On the other hand, she's a student who could have great future earning potential. Then again, even with a great income, if she's financially irresponsible it's a waste. Better to end it now than later. Between her financial irresponsibility and depression, maybe you're better off.

You're so weird. We're talking about 2 people who have been together for 3 years. 8k really isn't that bad.

Ahh...Name calling. Of course. When you're unintelligent, resort to namecalling.

Telling someone they're weird isn't "name calling." WTH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds smart! Good for her. You're clueless op. Hot women won't put up with your crap.

Yeah, you tell him! Men are ATMs and women shouldn't be held responsible for reckless spending.

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Anonymous wrote:
And “hot women” don’t stay hot forever. When time catches up with them they get replaced by a younger model.
That’s why I laugh at my friends with daughters.

Yep! Men age like fine wine while women age like milk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you were an awful human being. Your gf of three years was on a very limited salary while in grad school and OBVIOUSLY got into debt keeping up your lifestyle.

You may have paid for some things, but did you ever stop to think about the fact that someone making 24k per year has ZERO disposable income? No, you didn't. You didn't care, you just wanted to sleep with a 21-24 year old.

Your only two decent options were to pay for everything or live like a grad student while dating her. What you did was put her under constant stress and you probably barely even noticed. That is why she hates you now. You have no empathy and you suck.

Who put a gun to her head and forced her to spend this money?