GF broke up with me because of money problems

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's not like she was asking you to pay off the bill yourself. She was asking for help. It was completely reasonable OP. Most likely she already has another boyfriend by now. A hot 24 year old doesn't stay single for long.

I bet her new boyfriend is 50 plus and has already taken care of her money needs. Let’s face it, if you have to have sex with some guy make sure he will pay for everything you want. Men are disposable. I laugh at my friends who have had sons.

She doesn't need to date a 50 year old and it doesn't sound like she's desperate for money. Asking a boyfriend after 3 years of dating to help with a CC bill does not make his ex a gold digger.

[Anonymous]

why does she only make 24k? is she s student? does she have a college degree. Marry someone at your level OP. trust me.

[Anonymous]

She sounds smart! Good for her. You're clueless op. Hot women won't put up with your crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why does she only make 24k? is she s student? does she have a college degree. Marry someone at your level OP. trust me.

Op is middle aged. Most likely he can't find anyone else interested in his 90k salary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds smart! Good for her. You're clueless op. Hot women won't put up with your crap.

And “hot women” don’t stay hot forever. When time catches up with them they get replaced by a younger model.
That’s why I laugh at my friends with daughters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds smart! Good for her. You're clueless op. Hot women won't put up with your crap.

And “hot women” don’t stay hot forever. When time catches up with them they get replaced by a younger model.
That’s why I laugh at my friends with daughters.

You're a weirdo. I have a feeling you don't actually have friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why does she only make 24k? is she s student? does she have a college degree. Marry someone at your level OP. trust me.

yes, she's a student. maybe read the thread before commenting. trust me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: It's been over a month and she won't communicate with me. She deleted her email and won't respond to text messages or phone calls. I feel like crap.

I'm sorry you're hurting, OP. Sometimes all we can do is accept it and try to learn from the experience so the next one is better.

[Anonymous]

I think she broke up with you for lots of reasons. This was the last straw. You sound really insensitive. A a hot 24 year old has tons of options.

[Anonymous]

$10 bucks says already banging a new guy. She's basically been with you for all of her 20s. She finally got smart and dumped your old saggy balls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not like she was asking you to pay off the bill yourself. She was asking for help. It was completely reasonable OP. Most likely she already has another boyfriend by now. A hot 24 year old doesn't stay single for long.

I bet her new boyfriend is 50 plus and has already taken care of her money needs. Let’s face it, if you have to have sex with some guy make sure he will pay for everything you want. Men are disposable. I laugh at my friends who have had sons.

She doesn't need to date a 50 year old and it doesn't sound like she's desperate for money. Asking a boyfriend after 3 years of dating to help with a CC bill does not make his ex a gold digger.

+1
She's well rid of OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Op here. I really thought she was the one. When she broke up with me she told me to find someone else to fu** because she's done. I really did not see this coming. We rarely fight.

OP, she did not break up with you because of money problems. She broke up with you because you have different expectations. She thought that after three years together, you two were in a partnership where the mutual good of the couple took precedence over the individual--or at leas you were working toward that. That her being in grad school and living on a stipend was a temporary situation that you were fine with putting up with because you were in it for the long term.

By laughing at her for her request for 200 dollars to help stave off her debt you demonstrated that you did not think she was the one and you were not in it for the long term. Nothing wrong with that--and if you are not interested in the long term, you should not be supporting her at all (or dating for three years). But if you did think she was the one and you saw this as potential for marriage, then it makes no sense that you would not freaking pay the 200$ (in lieu of a vacation, or dinner or whatever) because you would not be thinking in terms of her vs me but in terms of us. So that's why she broke up. She feels like she can't count on you now, after 3 years, why should she in the future?

Op here. She wanted me to pay $200 monthly until NEXT summer so she can make $750 in monthly payments until the 8k is paid off. Summer 2019 is when her interest free promotion expires. I gave her $200 for her birthday. We also went on vacation to celebrate her birthday.

Moving this up for those who didn't read through all the comments. OP is 35, his gf was 24. They had been together for 3 years. She's a student with student debt and wanted help paying her credit card off before the interest free promotion was up, and she would naturally be paying the lion's share of the bill. Separate and apart from this she also complained OP was emotionally supportive.

[Anonymous]

Op have you tried apologizing?

[Anonymous]

Move on, OP. Your girlfriend clearly has.

[Anonymous]

OP, you were an awful human being. Your gf of three years was on a very limited salary while in grad school and OBVIOUSLY got into debt keeping up your lifestyle.

You may have paid for some things, but did you ever stop to think about the fact that someone making 24k per year has ZERO disposable income? No, you didn't. You didn't care, you just wanted to sleep with a 21-24 year old.

Your only two decent options were to pay for everything or live like a grad student while dating her. What you did was put her under constant stress and you probably barely even noticed. That is why she hates you now. You have no empathy and you suck.