I like how everyone shares incidents that have caused them either pain or anger, and is then negated— no biggie! Gotta love DCUM! |
We should get your DW together with my DH. They sound made for each other. |
I didn't have my babies in hospitals but didn't you read her post? She was exhausted from labor, in pain, and what I have heard from friends is that post partum is like some kind of survival of the fittest hospital jungle. HE WAS UNBELIEVABLY SELFISH. |
Approaching this from a purely logical standpoint (which I realize our human emotions are not always logical, and this is not necessarily a justification for your DH staying or going home), but assuming you were breastfeeding/attempting to breastfeed... what would DH have been able to do? If your baby was screaming, you both would be awake... so you wouldn't be getting any sleep anyway. And he would be unable to feed the baby, so pretty much practically useless (although he could have provided emotional support.) I'd hedge a bet that by him getting some decent rest, he was able to be more alert and therefore helpful/supportive the next day. To be clear, I'm not addressing the above poster who says she couldn't get the baby out of the bassinet on her own, etc (although wtf kind of hospital were you in where nurses were not available to help you use the bathroom, get out of bed, didn't have call buttons, etc.?) |
Hardly the universal opinion among parents. |
He ate all the ice cream that I bought and I didn’t have ANY of it. |
It's a public forum. And some of these examples are pretty lame. |
Yes. But not as selfish as the husband that had a love child. No? |
While we were dating, he told me he didn't have enough money to buy me a present - I was understanding. We both had low paying jobs and were trying to save money. After we were married, I was cleaning out a drawer and found several porn videos (this was pre-internet) and a receipt dated the day before my birthday. I was pissed and laid into him - you didn't have enough money to do something for my birthday but you had enough money for your porn habit!?
That was just the tip of the iceberg on his porn habit, depression and ADHD. I got nothing against porn but, like anything, if you can't do without it, you've got a problem. Thankfully, he's not my problem any more. |
Left me at Walmart when I was 8 months pregnant. I didn't even have any shoes. I guess he was afraid of becoming a dad. |
Husband F'd up, but what he did isn't really all that bad. You can get past it. One time mistake compared to the love child. |
A lot of women have been raised to believe that the man's role is to cater to the mother / wife's needs / wants and to not have any needs or wants of their own. It led to the whole - treat her like a Princess / Queen mentality or the Happy Wife Happy Life slogan / syndrome. I think it was feminist backlash to the men have power so it was switched around to women are royalty and men are their wives servants attitude. So for people with that mindset - a man sleeping when exhausted rather than being in 'yes, dear, whatever you want dear' mode is the ultimate betrayal because that isn't how you as a lowly employee would ever treat royalty. It is a power imbalance dynamic issue that leads to hurt and anger when the man doesn't below his 'role'. |
Well, yeah. The love child is worse on the Sliding Scale of Assholes, but this dude is not winning any Dh of the Year Awards. |
There's got to be more to the story. What happened to your shoes? |
Our child was very ill, and he unilaterally quit his job to care for this child without discussing it - leaving me working two jobs to support us and with responsibility to care for two older children. There were no winners here. no good choices. Our child passed. We never got over it. |