Yep. It turns out my DH does way better sleep deprived than I do, so he did everything put breast-feed at night in the beginning--and got really talented at shushing our newborns to sleep too. DH was enamored of our babies--I was glad he didn't leave, but he couldn't think of leaving either. These men who step back and let their wives down postpartum are doing something pretty darned awful. |
It's common among many women, but it would suck to have to sleep with him. On the other hand I've known some women that really struggle after divorce. Not many decent guys out there, but some get lucky and end up younger widows. |
i think we've found the angry man in the room. |
My (ex) husband changed my bridal registry behind my back. Instead of receiving the china & silver I had put on it, I received a bunch of leather animals which you put your feet on. |
I came home from surgery an was recovering in bed and my (ex) husband met with his drug dealer to get more drugs.
Ironically, my ex died of a drug overdose 10 years later. By that time I was happily married to a good guy. |
This wins as the funniest post in this thread. We must have more details. |
so cool. still laughing. come here for bs, and this gave me a smile ![]() |
Oh my gd. That is the next serial killer. Where does he live? I would like to move elsewhere. |
OMG.
Most of you guys have the BEST spouses in the world. Seriously. He left you at a hospital for a couple hours to sleep? What? He went to a football game on your birthday so celebrated it a different day. You guys are crazy! I wouldn't even know where to start with DH -- he's great and confident and fun and loving and calm and the MOST selfish man on Earth. For instance, when I went into labor, he went into work... And we homebirth! The midwife told him that he should stay but he ignored her. I begged him between contractions to stay, but he ignored me! He came home after work and didn't miss the birth (I wish he had!). He then went to work the next day because he didn't want to use his vacation or sick days and didn't get paid paternity. And we HOME birth so I literally had no one there. Then, baby 2, he decides he's planning a trip to NYC with friends the weekend AFTER my due date. I was livid. The midwife said not to, I begged him not to -- he ignored us. Of course, I don't go into labor until he got home so he didn't miss the birth again (I wish he had!). Again, be didn't take any leave. Needless to say we didn't have any more children. But that's just him. He wanted to invite his 20 ex-girlfriends to the wedding so told me they were friends and said that "we should after not to invite exes' because he didn't want my TWO be ex-boyfriends there. I found out after (from him mom, actually) who they were. He then said that it was different because they were just dating and not girlfriends. He is a VERY good dad, surprisingly, and a stable husband, surprisingly, but he definitely has some form of learning disability. I'm not sure. I think it's autism tho and I kind of recognize the lack of ability to have logic and emotions in the same way as others since both our boys are autistic. |
I had an ex who, after I was injured and needed to be taken to the hospital, decided it would be a better idea for him to go out and get drunk. He was an alcoholic and "couldn't handle" the emotional distress my being injured caused him. I had to drive myself with a messed up leg.
My current DH hoards his money away. He never wanted to combine finances, and tries to make me pay more than my fair share so he can stash more away. I let it go because I know if we divorce it'll have to be split anyway. He's done some other crappy things- such as telling me to suck it up when I had a miscarriage and later when I had PPD- but I wouldn't classify that as selfish. |
Why are you accepting this kind of treatment? Allowing men to treat women like this hurts all of us. Please don’t have anymore children with someone who can’t even be bothered with the birth of his child. Please see a therapist to determine why you don’t demand more |
Insist that her annual girl's weekend take precedent over my birthday (they coincide) every year of our 14 years of marriage.
Her rationale is that I'm not that into bdays (sorta true) and that these weekends had been occurring for 5 years before we met. Still, kinda sucked to spend my 40th by myself while she was with her gfs partying in NYC. |
Mostly, my DH is so so not selfish. I feel very lucky. I never dated these ass-holy men. Where do they come from? |
I'll go with the deadliest - he was annoyed because I had snapped at him that morning because I was so incredibly ill and worried. My doctor had just called to tell me I had an acute thyroid condition that needed immediate heart medication to control my heart rate. So he refused to go and get it, even though I needed to take it right away. I couldn't walk or drive to the nearest pharmacy. I had to call my friend's husband, who lived further away, to get the meds on his way to work and drop them off at my house. That very night I went into thyroid storm, which can be fatal, and had to be rushed to the ER. And get this. My husband is a DOCTOR, and internist. He should have known not to do this. |
I had a similar situation. I ended up pumping the milk and telling my DH that if he wanted to have sex he would need to wake up with the baby. He accepted gladly! Since then he slept with the baby and rarely wake me up and we had sex every other day ![]() |