What's the most selfish thing your spouse has done?
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Anonymous
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Got drunk (like falling over drunk) the night of the Super Bowl because his favorite team won it...I was due the following Tuesday. Stumbled into the house at midnight, puked in the toilet, fell asleep. I gave birth 36 hours later.
He’s never done anything like that since (or before the incident, really) so I’m over it but damn if I wasn’t seeing red. |
Anonymous
Given the atrocious rate of maternal death in this country, I think it’s absolutely necessary for women to have an advocate by their side to help monitor and speak up for them — especially important in hospitals without nurseries where these women are expected to provide care while recovering. Hospitals are too understaffed and focused solely on the baby’s well-being. This is how women are dying from postpartum preeclampsia, etc. It’s not being needy — it’s being smart. |
Anonymous
You must be a nightmare to be married to. Get over yourself. |
Anonymous
No its needy to criticize someone for falling asleep or taking a nap at that point. The increased rate of maternal death is insanely stupid, almost beyond idiotic idf you look at graphically it is mind-boggling. No one seems to want to address the sources: increasing age during pregnancy, being fat, induced labors, c-sections and idiots to dumb to sign up for Obama care. |
Anonymous
1. you are depriving yourself of a great series because he watched it when he was sick. F that, watch dont punish yoursef for something so silly. 2. How is that selfish? You sound pretty selfish your self "I sent him", and going to get preemie clothes is selfish? |
Anonymous
You wish you had aborted your kids? You are gem, must have been a great mother. |
Anonymous
I did not say I wished to have an abortion. I said I wished the father had been honest about his committment, or lack thereof, to all that fatherhood requires. I am a terrific mom, and I have terrific kids. But, had I known that their father was uninterested in doing the work of fatherhood, I would have chosen to have an abortion. BTW, at that point, IMO, they were not "kids;" they were a fetus that could not survive outside my womb and may or may not have developed on their own to full term birth. Had I had an abortion, I would have had some other kids, with an involved father. I would have been a great mother to those kids to and those kids would have been just as great and loved as my kids that I have now. I think it is dishonest to put women in the position of having to bear children in all circumstances or else they are labelled "bad moms" who "don't love their kids." Women who have abortions are often demanding to have the chance to raise children in the better circumstances. I have no problem with parents who choose to have kids out of wedlock, but what is truly selfish is convincing a partner to continue an unplanned pregnancy when you have no ability and/or no intention to be a fully involved co-parent. |
Anonymous
I am a terrific mom, and I have terrific kids.............but i would have aborted them. Nice, tell them that. " I think it is dishonest to put women in the position of having to bear children in all circumstances or else they are labelled "bad moms" who "don't love their kids." Women who have abortions are often demanding to have the chance to raise children in the better circumstances. --People have a right to make decisions on what they do with tier body but that was a bunch of touchy feely crap. No one is "put women in the position" (she and the loser she let stick his dick in her got in that position) and a I dont hear calling them bad mothers for being in a bad spot. Anyone that does needs to take a hard look at themselves and the reality is they may be in a tough spot to someday. "Women who have abortions are often demanding to have the chance to raise children in the better circumstances. " Demanding, what are you talking about? Do you mean aborting when they are in a bad position? Thats not demanding, |
Anonymous
That quote could have been mine and no, there isn't much more to the story if it were. Sometimes I thought about dressing up the gallon jugs of cheap wine she kept as me, or our kids. For that wine was her first love and after that, there wasn't anything left. It really is the most selfish choice. |
Anonymous
| He applied for jobs without keeping me updated about every single job he applied for. |
Anonymous
| i am home on medical leave after an extensive surgery, today is DH’s telework day, school is cancelled, it’s 340PM and he is still sleeping, I am with the kids while on Percocet. |
Anonymous
This always amazes me. Honestly don't you really hate him? I get it that many have to stay married because of health, money, kids etc. issues. However there is no way I'd ever love that person let alone like them. Hope you have money he doesn't know about.. |
Anonymous
Not only that. So what forget the idiot guy, you had the treasure. He could slip on a banana peel, why care. Have fun with your kids and if you are a good parent you will be close. She makes zero sense. My kids come before anyone else. I wonder if she kept rubbing it in her kids face or bring up how lame the dad is. |
Anonymous
Yuck! I hope you got rid of him right away. Unforgivable. No coming back after that... |
Anonymous
No I don't hate him. I do have much better boundaries now, though. Love doesn't really come into it. We have a big house and young children, and I don't wish to carry the load with two hands when four are available. Since there is no divorce in the works, it makes little sense to continue the hostilities. We are amiable coworkers. Our money has always been separate and he will inherit nothing if I go before him. |