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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My STBX went home after the birth of our son - home was fifteen minutes away - to pick up some things, including food. He ended up falling asleep and came back five hours later. :roll:[/quote]

And you hold this against him???  Good grief.[/quote]

If this is the most selfish thing he has ever done, he's fine.[/quote]

Um okay. I'm in a foreign hospital alone with a newborn and dad goes and takes a multi-hour nap? Yes, that's selfish. [/quote]

I stand by my statement - if this is the MOST SELFISH thing he has ever done, you should be ok.  You were in a hospital being cared for by nurses and doctors and he went home and took a nap.  Not what you wanted, right? Not what you dreamed about during pregnancy?  I get it, I really do. But...if this is truly the best thing you can come up with...read some of this other stuff.  [/quote]

A lot of women have been raised to believe that the man's role is to cater to the mother / wife's needs / wants and to not have any needs or wants of their own. It led to the whole - treat her like a Princess / Queen mentality or the Happy Wife Happy Life slogan / syndrome. I think it was feminist backlash to the men have power so it was switched around to women are royalty and men are their wives servants attitude. So for people with that mindset - a man sleeping when exhausted rather than being in 'yes, dear, whatever you want dear' mode is the ultimate betrayal because that isn't how you as a lowly employee would ever treat royalty. It is a power imbalance dynamic issue that leads to hurt and anger when the man doesn't below his 'role'.[/quote]

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