What's the most selfish thing your spouse has done?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a major surgery and was in the hospital for five days. When I got home, he was pissed, and I mean really angry, that I asked him to bring food upstairs (one flight) to the bedroom for me. And I'm talking a popsicle one time and a pudding cup another time. I called my mom and she came and got me and I stayed with her for three weeks. We had been married two years at the time. Oh, and prior to marriage I had nursed him through a broken leg and then later a general health ailment.

What was he mad about? What was he doing when you asked him to bring you the food? Did he have to take off work? What would he say happened?

[Anonymous]

Literally take money from our daughter. His parents sent her money to buy herself something for Christmas, and he got the card first. He took the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When DD was 3 weeks old he decided to stay in a hotel for two nights so he could get enough sleep for a recreational softball tournament. He’s really into softball...so I said it was ok, but I still think it’s ridiculous.

Oh honey that's really what you think? Love is truly blind

[Anonymous]

One night many years ago I developed excruciating headache and could not turn my head, and neck was really hurting. I asked my exH to take me to the hospital, he refused. Headache continued through the night and the next morning he made me go to his family gathering which was really important to him. It was easier to go than to listen to his screaming. Just about everyone at the party said that I look really bad and have to see the doctor, my ex said that he is not going to pay for the headache. On the way back he yelled at me in the car because he had to bring me beverages (I could not eat and could barely move), and when I said I can't take any yelling right now he turned the car radio all the way up. I felt like my head is just about to explode. Headache and neck ache did not go away and late that evening. I watched few first minutes of the movie with the sound turned off, blinked, opened my eyes and the movie was over, it was really strange. I realized that I am loosing consciousness, got up and called an ambulance. When it came he yelled at the paramedic that he is not going to pay for the headache (I had health insurance and paid for it myself). They took me anyway. I had bacterial meningitis.
In the presence of my ex I was been told by the doctor to remain on the bed rest for at least 10 days after I get home. I had to go back to work after 5 because I was paying for the household groceries, did not have any savings and that's why ''did not get to eat''. He was not poor at all, in fact, he made very good money.
He was also told by veterinarian that he is starving his dog, she was seriously under weight, I fed her secretly in small portions (he was watching the consistency and color of her poop every time).
I don't think that he is selfish, I think that he is evil.
It's over, I am with a wonderful, caring and protective man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When DD was 3 weeks old he decided to stay in a hotel for two nights so he could get enough sleep for a recreational softball tournament. He’s really into softball...so I said it was ok, but I still think it’s ridiculous.

Oh honey that's really what you think? Love is truly blind

I knew someone would say that. DCUM is so ridiculous and predictable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marry and then deny sex for years.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One night many years ago I developed excruciating headache and could not turn my head, and neck was really hurting. I asked my exH to take me to the hospital, he refused. Headache continued through the night and the next morning he made me go to his family gathering which was really important to him. It was easier to go than to listen to his screaming. Just about everyone at the party said that I look really bad and have to see the doctor, my ex said that he is not going to pay for the headache. On the way back he yelled at me in the car because he had to bring me beverages (I could not eat and could barely move), and when I said I can't take any yelling right now he turned the car radio all the way up. I felt like my head is just about to explode. Headache and neck ache did not go away and late that evening. I watched few first minutes of the movie with the sound turned off, blinked, opened my eyes and the movie was over, it was really strange. I realized that I am loosing consciousness, got up and called an ambulance. When it came he yelled at the paramedic that he is not going to pay for the headache (I had health insurance and paid for it myself). They took me anyway. I had bacterial meningitis.
In the presence of my ex I was been told by the doctor to remain on the bed rest for at least 10 days after I get home. I had to go back to work after 5 because I was paying for the household groceries, did not have any savings and that's why ''did not get to eat''. He was not poor at all, in fact, he made very good money.
He was also told by veterinarian that he is starving his dog, she was seriously under weight, I fed her secretly in small portions (he was watching the consistency and color of her poop every time).
I don't think that he is selfish, I think that he is evil.
It's over, I am with a wonderful, caring and protective man.

I am so glad you are out of that hell, I can't even imagine living like that. Hope your mental health is intact.

[Anonymous]

Generally not selfish so I can't pinpoint one thing but I really think spouse did not get the level of exhaustion I was experiencing with our reflux baby who was up all night and screamed all day and could have tried to be more understanding about why it was impacting our sex life. Pitched a full on fit one night about 5 months in when I couldn't make myself do it because I knew the baby would be awake again in 2 hours and I just needed sleep. Like really??

[Anonymous]

Bought and installed a very high end cooktop without discussing or even telling me ahead of time. He does most of the cooking and knew I wouldn't want to spend four figures on it.

Spent the majority of my inheritance on terrible real estate transactions. I blame myself (partially) for that; I brought that money into the marriage and should never have let him anywhere near it.

He's also terrible in bed and the biggest prude imaginable. Fortunately, he never wants sex so I don't have to put up with mediocre, one-sided sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My STBX went home after the birth of our son - home was fifteen minutes away - to pick up some things, including food. He ended up falling asleep and came back five hours later.

And you hold this against him??? Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Had an affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My STBX went home after the birth of our son - home was fifteen minutes away - to pick up some things, including food. He ended up falling asleep and came back five hours later.

And you hold this against him??? Good grief.

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If this is the most selfish thing he has ever done, he's fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One night many years ago I developed excruciating headache and could not turn my head, and neck was really hurting. I asked my exH to take me to the hospital, he refused. Headache continued through the night and the next morning he made me go to his family gathering which was really important to him. It was easier to go than to listen to his screaming. Just about everyone at the party said that I look really bad and have to see the doctor, my ex said that he is not going to pay for the headache. On the way back he yelled at me in the car because he had to bring me beverages (I could not eat and could barely move), and when I said I can't take any yelling right now he turned the car radio all the way up. I felt like my head is just about to explode. Headache and neck ache did not go away and late that evening. I watched few first minutes of the movie with the sound turned off, blinked, opened my eyes and the movie was over, it was really strange. I realized that I am loosing consciousness, got up and called an ambulance. When it came he yelled at the paramedic that he is not going to pay for the headache (I had health insurance and paid for it myself). They took me anyway. I had bacterial meningitis.
In the presence of my ex I was been told by the doctor to remain on the bed rest for at least 10 days after I get home. I had to go back to work after 5 because I was paying for the household groceries, did not have any savings and that's why ''did not get to eat''. He was not poor at all, in fact, he made very good money.
He was also told by veterinarian that he is starving his dog, she was seriously under weight, I fed her secretly in small portions (he was watching the consistency and color of her poop every time).
I don't think that he is selfish, I think that he is evil.
It's over, I am with a wonderful, caring and protective man.

wow, that is more than just selfish. I'm glad you got away from that horrible person.

[Anonymous]

My ex went to a BBQ the day I got home from the hospital and c-section with our newborn. And didn't even bring me a plate back. That was the beginning of the end.

[Anonymous]

Our first child was born three weeks before the wedding of one of his best friends so I told him to go alone and I would stay home with the baby. The wedding was about 45 minutes away. He said he would leave after the wedding was over and at around 11pm, he called to say he was going out for a beer with his buddies and would come right home. At around 12:30/1:00, he called me to say that as he was pulling off to a rest stop to use the restroom, he crashed into the metal guardrail (almost totaled my car) and needed me to come pick him up. On a cold, rainy night with a newborn. Nope. I told him to call his parents and they could help him. Neither his mother nor I spoke to him for quite a few days.