Why do men like good girls?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love sex and would happily have it every day (multiple times), but I'm also completely capable of waiting a few weeks or even a couple of months before I sleep with someone new. I've dated a fair amount, and once you sleep with someone, you can't take it back. It's out there. I'd rather not sleep with someone who is just after sex - I'm after a relationship. I don't see the problem in waiting a bit for that first time, just to make sure you're actually really interested in the person. Plus I wouldn't be interested in any guy who couldn't wait a couple of months to have sex with someone. Why the hell does everything have to be so rushed? I'm not interested in dating someone who sleeps with every chick he meets on Tinder/Bumble/Match. I'd like someone who is a little more choosy than that.

Once I'm exclusive with someone, game on.

Why should any man who is capable of dating other people want to wait "months" for you when he can be having sex with other women?

There are lots and lots of attractive women in DC. You are not special.

If he's on a hunt to bang and run, rinse and repeat, then sure. But if he wants a relationship, why would he?

You're joking. Sex is a prerequisite for a relationship. If you are avoiding that, you're playing games, there won't be no relationship, you're not going to be taken seriously, I should really stop calling relatively quickly.

I doubt women are lining around the block to have settle down with a man who can barely speak English.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I was single, my magic number was 12 dates before sex. And they have to be actual dates.

Any many who put up with your ridiculous demands is a loser.

He doesn't care what you think.

I'm sure he was banging other women while waiting for me. I'm the one he married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men like women who show some degree of discrimination. If a 27 year old woman hops in bed with a guy on the first date, how many first dates has she had? On the other hand sometimes having a date with a bad girl is just fine.

Sorry, hon, wishful thinking. We're looking for good enough and willing.

To screw, yes. If that's your standard for marriage, then no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was single, my magic number was 12 dates before sex. And they have to be actual dates.

Any many who put up with your ridiculous demands is a loser.

He doesn't care what you think.

I'm sure he was banging other women while waiting for me. I'm the one he married.

Boom. And that's what it is

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Female here (married, so not asking for myself, just curious). In my circle of friends, a guy has just started dating a woman. While talking about her with us, the guys agreed that it's a bit concerning that she has invited him over to her place because that's slutty, but she hasn't yet slept with (or even kissed) him which is a very good sign. General consensus is that any girl who would sleep with a guy within the first few dates isn't dating material, and that ideally they should wait anywhere form a few weeks to a few months.

Now, maybe my logic is flawed, but to me it seems like if you will only date women who can go without sex for several weeks, you end up with a girlfriend or wife who can go without sex for several weeks. And surprise, most of these guys I know who are with "good girls" are also unhappy in sexless LTR/marriages.

So I'm trying to understand the appeal of a woman who really isn't that into sex. To me, if you want an exciting sex life while married, you should go for women who are eager for it, rather than the mythical Madonna-like woman who has zero interest in men until you come along. Not saying that women who are sleeping around with multiple people are ideal (I wouldn't date a man like that), but if the chemistry and attraction are there, what's wrong with a woman who wants to enjoy sex early on? Why does that automatically exclude a woman from being taken seriously?

As usual, a woman is over-analyzing something very simple.

Men (who are looking for something quote/unquote serious eventually) don't necessarily want a woman who would screw them the first night, but we sure as hell aren't waiting any longer than the third date. If you're not putting out by the third date, men with options are moving on to greener pastures.

Myself personally, I'm not looking to get married, so I want to have sex as fast as possible so I can evaluate if you are worth my time and attention. If we don't work out, that's fine, but I'm not sticking around past the third date so know that up front.

In other words, you have no idea what men who want marriage to a good girl really like, because you are interested only in sex and never a relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men like good girls to marry and pass on their DNA (have kids with them). This is biological conditioning because they do not want to raise other men's kids. As for plain hooking up? They want girls who are willing to have sex with them sooner rather than later.

If a man finds a suitable woman to marry he will appreciate her being a good girl. Most men are not looking to get married though before they are settled in their career and in finances so they will not continue to date someone who will not have sex with them after a few dates.

+1 for both paragraphs.

Have you actually met any of us? A suitable girl is any fun non-fat chick who wants me in the bathtub with her.

To screw, yes. To be the mother of your children, that's not enough for most quality men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men like women who show some degree of discrimination. If a 27 year old woman hops in bed with a guy on the first date, how many first dates has she had? On the other hand sometimes having a date with a bad girl is just fine.

Sorry, hon, wishful thinking. We're looking for good enough and willing.

No, you are looking for that because you're desperate. Not exactly husband material anyway. But I suspect you know this and that's why you come on here to try to pressure women to have sex with men

[Anonymous]

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"Special"? Are you fcking stupid? Guys want to get laid, or they want a girlfriend with whom they can do that. As long as she isn't a sex worker, previous history isn't that important. What is she up for doing now? That's important.

Stop hating other women so much, and stop thinking in terms of what men should want, instead of what we do want.

GETS IT. I 100% agree.

So why was my husband the one who wanted to wait a couple more dates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Female here (married, so not asking for myself, just curious). In my circle of friends, a guy has just started dating a woman. While talking about her with us, the guys agreed that it's a bit concerning that she has invited him over to her place because that's slutty, but she hasn't yet slept with (or even kissed) him which is a very good sign. General consensus is that any girl who would sleep with a guy within the first few dates isn't dating material, and that ideally they should wait anywhere form a few weeks to a few months.

Now, maybe my logic is flawed, but to me it seems like if you will only date women who can go without sex for several weeks, you end up with a girlfriend or wife who can go without sex for several weeks. And surprise, most of these guys I know who are with "good girls" are also unhappy in sexless LTR/marriages.

So I'm trying to understand the appeal of a woman who really isn't that into sex. To me, if you want an exciting sex life while married, you should go for women who are eager for it, rather than the mythical Madonna-like woman who has zero interest in men until you come along. Not saying that women who are sleeping around with multiple people are ideal (I wouldn't date a man like that), but if the chemistry and attraction are there, what's wrong with a woman who wants to enjoy sex early on? Why does that automatically exclude a woman from being taken seriously?

As usual, a woman is over-analyzing something very simple.

Men (who are looking for something quote/unquote serious eventually) don't necessarily want a woman who would screw them the first night, but we sure as hell aren't waiting any longer than the third date. If you're not putting out by the third date, men with options are moving on to greener pastures.

Myself personally, I'm not looking to get married, so I want to have sex as fast as possible so I can evaluate if you are worth my time and attention. If we don't work out, that's fine, but I'm not sticking around past the third date so know that up front.

If you don't want to get married, you are not of interest to women who want to get married.

Men with options are perfectly capable of sleeping with easy girls while waiting out the one they want to marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Female here (married, so not asking for myself, just curious). In my circle of friends, a guy has just started dating a woman. While talking about her with us, the guys agreed that it's a bit concerning that she has invited him over to her place because that's slutty, but she hasn't yet slept with (or even kissed) him which is a very good sign. General consensus is that any girl who would sleep with a guy within the first few dates isn't dating material, and that ideally they should wait anywhere form a few weeks to a few months.

Now, maybe my logic is flawed, but to me it seems like if you will only date women who can go without sex for several weeks, you end up with a girlfriend or wife who can go without sex for several weeks. And surprise, most of these guys I know who are with "good girls" are also unhappy in sexless LTR/marriages.

So I'm trying to understand the appeal of a woman who really isn't that into sex. To me, if you want an exciting sex life while married, you should go for women who are eager for it, rather than the mythical Madonna-like woman who has zero interest in men until you come along. Not saying that women who are sleeping around with multiple people are ideal (I wouldn't date a man like that), but if the chemistry and attraction are there, what's wrong with a woman who wants to enjoy sex early on? Why does that automatically exclude a woman from being taken seriously?

As usual, a woman is over-analyzing something very simple.

Men (who are looking for something quote/unquote serious eventually) don't necessarily want a woman who would screw them the first night, but we sure as hell aren't waiting any longer than the third date. If you're not putting out by the third date, men with options are moving on to greener pastures.

Myself personally, I'm not looking to get married, so I want to have sex as fast as possible so I can evaluate if you are worth my time and attention. If we don't work out, that's fine, but I'm not sticking around past the third date so know that up front.

Wow! Ladies, please form an orderly queue for this entitled douche who has no intention of a future with you but really wants casual sex (Which is, you know, not something you as a female could easily get from a ripped 21 year old off Tinder...)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love sex and would happily have it every day (multiple times), but I'm also completely capable of waiting a few weeks or even a couple of months before I sleep with someone new. I've dated a fair amount, and once you sleep with someone, you can't take it back. It's out there. I'd rather not sleep with someone who is just after sex - I'm after a relationship. I don't see the problem in waiting a bit for that first time, just to make sure you're actually really interested in the person. Plus I wouldn't be interested in any guy who couldn't wait a couple of months to have sex with someone. Why the hell does everything have to be so rushed? I'm not interested in dating someone who sleeps with every chick he meets on Tinder/Bumble/Match. I'd like someone who is a little more choosy than that.

Once I'm exclusive with someone, game on.

Why should any man who is capable of dating other people want to wait "months" for you when he can be having sex with other women?

There are lots and lots of attractive women in DC. You are not special.

I am a woman, but I agree with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was single, my magic number was 12 dates before sex. And they have to be actual dates.

Any many who put up with your ridiculous demands is a loser.

He doesn't care what you think.

I'm sure he was banging other women while waiting for me. I'm the one he married.

Interesting. You don't care that he was sleeping with other women while courting you. Did you have a guy on the side, or are you just low drive (or were you self servicing)?

[Anonymous]

Because a woman who will sleep with you on the first date has a much higher likelihood of sleeping with her hot coworker on their first business conference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was single, my magic number was 12 dates before sex. And they have to be actual dates.

Any many who put up with your ridiculous demands is a loser.

He doesn't care what you think.

I'm sure he was banging other women while waiting for me. I'm the one he married.

Interesting. You don't care that he was sleeping with other women while courting you. Did you have a guy on the side, or are you just low drive (or were you self servicing)?

Why would I care? I was looking to marry, not to date ad nauseam. We run on parallel lines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love sex and would happily have it every day (multiple times), but I'm also completely capable of waiting a few weeks or even a couple of months before I sleep with someone new. I've dated a fair amount, and once you sleep with someone, you can't take it back. It's out there. I'd rather not sleep with someone who is just after sex - I'm after a relationship. I don't see the problem in waiting a bit for that first time, just to make sure you're actually really interested in the person. Plus I wouldn't be interested in any guy who couldn't wait a couple of months to have sex with someone. Why the hell does everything have to be so rushed? I'm not interested in dating someone who sleeps with every chick he meets on Tinder/Bumble/Match. I'd like someone who is a little more choosy than that.

Once I'm exclusive with someone, game on.

Why should any man who is capable of dating other people want to wait "months" for you when he can be having sex with other women?

There are lots and lots of attractive women in DC. You are not special.

If all a woman has to offer is sex, then she's not special. You don't win a man's heart by sleeping with him. Sex is the least special thing humans have to offer. Everyone has the same equipment.