Why do men like good girls?

[Anonymous]

Over time men move from "any girl" to "good girl". When you're under 25 your looking to have fun and get laid and "any girl" will do obviously with certain parameters. When you hit 25 or so you see friends getting married and settling down and you begin to think about it. That's when your specs change. If they come from a happy home "marrying a girl just like the girl who married dear old dad" comes into play. I don't think there is a clear definition of "good girl" but you know one when you see one. I don't think women are any different. What turns them on when they are 20 can change a lot when they hit 25+.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over time men move from "any girl" to "good girl". When you're under 25 your looking to have fun and get laid and "any girl" will do obviously with certain parameters. When you hit 25 or so you see friends getting married and settling down and you begin to think about it. That's when your specs change. If they come from a happy home "marrying a girl just like the girl who married dear old dad" comes into play. I don't think there is a clear definition of "good girl" but you know one when you see one. I don't think women are any different. What turns them on when they are 20 can change a lot when they hit 25+.

Only if mom enjoyed sex pretty frequently while dating, which is TMI. Oh thanks for that thought, eww.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over time men move from "any girl" to "good girl". When you're under 25 your looking to have fun and get laid and "any girl" will do obviously with certain parameters. When you hit 25 or so you see friends getting married and settling down and you begin to think about it. That's when your specs change. If they come from a happy home "marrying a girl just like the girl who married dear old dad" comes into play. I don't think there is a clear definition of "good girl" but you know one when you see one. I don't think women are any different. What turns them on when they are 20 can change a lot when they hit 25+.

I think what turns them on stays the same - but the exciting, bad-boy stuff that's sexy is not very compatible with the boring stuff that contributes to a long term relationship.

[Anonymous]

She is hardly "playing princess in a high tower". She wants someone with good social skills who has the capability of drawing her out. I'm sure there are many men who prefer extroverted women who can make them open up. It's called a preference. Get the hell over it and stop applying misogynistic caricatures ("princess in a high tower- WTF?) to a perfectly fine and good situation.

This is exactly right. Introversion and reserve/shyness are personal characteristics with good and bad facets like any other characteristic, and I don't see them as things I have to address in the name of self-improvement. I'm not interested in anyone who sees them as problems to be solved, although I do tend to warn people up front that I can be slow to warm up. Perhaps more than social skills, empathy is VERY important to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
She is hardly "playing princess in a high tower". She wants someone with good social skills who has the capability of drawing her out. I'm sure there are many men who prefer extroverted women who can make them open up. It's called a preference. Get the hell over it and stop applying misogynistic caricatures ("princess in a high tower- WTF?) to a perfectly fine and good situation.

This is exactly right. Introversion and reserve/shyness are personal characteristics with good and bad facets like any other characteristic, and I don't see them as things I have to address in the name of self-improvement. I'm not interested in anyone who sees them as problems to be solved, although I do tend to warn people up front that I can be slow to warm up. Perhaps more than social skills, empathy is VERY important to me.

I'm the same exact way. Good social skills, extroversion, and as you said, empathy, is extremely important to me. I am like you, I don't open u immediately because I want someone who has the capability of handling that. It also sorts out the people who might have the capability, but not like me enough to do so. It sorts the wheat from the chaff and lets me see which guys have the characteristics I'm after. Simple as that, and I'm extremely happy with the kind of men that I have met/gotten serious with because of that technique.

[Anonymous]

Must depend on where the guy is from and how conservative and/or religious he is. My expat DH from UK doesn't feel this way at all. He's a pretty liberal guy. Been married over 10 years. I am waay more conservative than he is.

[Anonymous]

I know a lot of lesbians who are completely grossed out by straight women who want to go gay but have been with a lot of men. Like... totally disgusted.

Let's face it... how do I put this- the liquids involved in how men have sex is just gross. Men know it, women know it. So subconsciously a man who hears a woman has been with a ton of different guys is thinking about... that.

I dont blame them, tbh.

-Bi woman

[Anonymous]

Men want to feel special. If you can convince the guy you think he is unique and amazing to the point that you just couldn't keep your panties on due to his singular and overpowering sex appeal, you're golden. It doesn't matter how many (or how few) dates you've been on.