Why do men like good girls?

[Anonymous]

I don't know anyone who would take a girl out more than three times without sex. Many no more than two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To men, dating a good girl is a lot like fishing. There is nothing better than getting one on the line, having it put up a good fight and then brining it on board. Where's the sport in instantly landing one unless you have an immediate need to eat.

I'm a man, and hell no to this. If I want a game, I'll just fire up my Xbox. If I'm with a woman, I mostly just want to hang out, laugh a little, and have sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know anyone who would take a girl out more than three times without sex. Many no more than two.

I disagree, partially. You might not have sex after the third date, but you should have a damn good idea if it will soon head in that direction. If all you get at the end of the third date is a kiss on the cheek then it's going nowhere, especially if you drop her off at her place and she lives alone. When that happens, guys will run. If she shoves her tongue down your throat and apologizes for her two roommates being home another date is worthwhile.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you're using logic to understand attraction and emotions that are not logical. People like the chase and the challenges. It's the same reason a lot of women are attracted to bad boys. Logic says they won't make stable partners, but damn they're hot and we want to "save" them.
When we start thinking more deeply about finding an actual partner, more sensible considerations enter the mix, but sometimes logic doesn't win.

This is an interesting take and makes sense to me. In both cases, it's about the chase.

people do not like the chase. Women like the chase. it is one sided and if it was gone no man would complain.

[Anonymous]

I was a "good girl" and most men hated it. Definitely not a feature and limited my dating life. On the plus side, I married a super nice guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men like good girls to marry and pass on their DNA (have kids with them). This is biological conditioning because they do not want to raise other men's kids. As for plain hooking up? They want girls who are willing to have sex with them sooner rather than later.

If a man finds a suitable woman to marry he will appreciate her being a good girl. Most men are not looking to get married though before they are settled in their career and in finances so they will not continue to date someone who will not have sex with them after a few dates.

+1 for both paragraphs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men like good girls to marry and pass on their DNA (have kids with them). This is biological conditioning because they do not want to raise other men's kids. As for plain hooking up? They want girls who are willing to have sex with them sooner rather than later.

If a man finds a suitable woman to marry he will appreciate her being a good girl. Most men are not looking to get married though before they are settled in their career and in finances so they will not continue to date someone who will not have sex with them after a few dates.

+1 for both paragraphs.

Have you actually met any of us? A suitable girl is any fun non-fat chick who wants me in the bathtub with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a "good girl" and most men hated it. Definitely not a feature and limited my dating life. On the plus side, I married a super nice guy.

How often do you have sex and is he honestly happy with it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female here (married, so not asking for myself, just curious). In my circle of friends, a guy has just started dating a woman. While talking about her with us, the guys agreed that it's a bit concerning that she has invited him over to her place because that's slutty, but she hasn't yet slept with (or even kissed) him which is a very good sign. General consensus is that any girl who would sleep with a guy within the first few dates isn't dating material, and that ideally they should wait anywhere form a few weeks to a few months.

Now, maybe my logic is flawed, but to me it seems like if you will only date women who can go without sex for several weeks, you end up with a girlfriend or wife who can go without sex for several weeks. And surprise, most of these guys I know who are with "good girls" are also unhappy in sexless LTR/marriages.

So I'm trying to understand the appeal of a woman who really isn't that into sex. To me, if you want an exciting sex life while married, you should go for women who are eager for it, rather than the mythical Madonna-like woman who has zero interest in men until you come along. Not saying that women who are sleeping around with multiple people are ideal (I wouldn't date a man like that), but if the chemistry and attraction are there, what's wrong with a woman who wants to enjoy sex early on? Why does that automatically exclude a woman from being taken seriously?

As usual, a woman is over-analyzing something very simple.

Men (who are looking for something quote/unquote serious eventually) don't necessarily want a woman who would screw them the first night, but we sure as hell aren't waiting any longer than the third date. If you're not putting out by the third date, men with options are moving on to greener pastures.

Myself personally, I'm not looking to get married, so I want to have sex as fast as possible so I can evaluate if you are worth my time and attention. If we don't work out, that's fine, but I'm not sticking around past the third date so know that up front.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It's not. Guys like the pps are pathetic man babies on some red pill B.S. I did not slip with my husband within the time frame mention, and he still pursued me. The sex is awesome, frequent, and we're very happy, and I'm 32.

Even a broken clock is right twice a day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I think both you and your friends are making a lot of assumptions, and frankly both are ignorant. When a guy is into a girl, he is into her, and doesn't give a damn about numbers, dates etc.

The length of time a woman strings out a man who wants to have sex with her is not determined by how "much he is into her." Men with means and sexual desire aren't sitting on their f4cking hands waiting for the woman they "pursuing" to be ready to have sex. He's moving on. It's ridiculously disrespectful to a man.

How would you feel if you expressly communicated to a date that you wanted to have sex with him and he kept rejecting you just because "he's not ready." You would feel terrible.

Stop legitimizing your asocial behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
"Special"? Are you fcking stupid? Guys want to get laid, or they want a girlfriend with whom they can do that. As long as she isn't a sex worker, previous history isn't that important. What is she up for doing now? That's important.

Stop hating other women so much, and stop thinking in terms of what men should want, instead of what we do want.

GETS IT. I 100% agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was single, my magic number was 12 dates before sex. And they have to be actual dates.

Any many who put up with your ridiculous demands is a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It just seems that you barely know each other on the 3rd date. Would any warm body do?

Not at the moment. News flash: attractive people date on their attraction between each other instead of playing games about "being ready."

Sure, you're absolutely entitled to act like this. Just don't be surprised when attractive men drop you like a hot potato over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It always took me a half dozen dates before I would even consider, let alone sleep with a guy. I knew my DH for three years before we ever had a date and we were good friends. On our first real date I slept with him which I'm pretty sure surprised him. We've been happily married a very long time and continue to have a great sex life.

Wow, after all those years you finally "rewarded" him. I feel sorry for him.