Ever know a couple where the DH filed for divorce because the wife would not go back to work?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was very clear before we got married that he did not want to be the sole financial support of our family. Good thing I like working.

Too bad he is a loser.

Would you marry your husband if he told you he did not want to work?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

Wow. I think you're the loser, PP. Whose DH "doesn't care" if you work or not?

What do you mean? You don't believe men don't care about money? I don't understand.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was very clear before we got married that he did not want to be the sole financial support of our family. Good thing I like working.

Too bad he is a loser.

Would you marry your husband if he told you he did not want to work?

Men and women are not the same, sorry.
When he can do the pregnancy and labor thing, maybe them....

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Anonymous wrote:My husband would divorce me if I did go back to work lol

Yeah, some men do prefer the little woman to keep house for them. But many do not.

Or some let their wife do what she wants.

Why would a grown woman needs to be "let" to do anything?

Because when one spouse holds all the financial cards, the other spouse needs permission.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

Wow. I think you're the loser, PP. Whose DH "doesn't care" if you work or not?

mine- i had a soul destroying and terrible last year of college (father killed) and had to finish a degree i was thinking of changing b/c i hated it, then worked in that field until i got married and we ended up moving b/c of his law school- i kept on looking for work but very halfheartedly since i hated my field & frankly wasn't very good. After like 3 months- he offered to let me stay home or take classes or whatever and he was happy to do it. Having that year to just live esp since he was in school was amazing. We actually lived quite well off of his summer work. I am happy to cope with his insane hours and stuff now b/c i know what he sacrificed for my sanity back then. you guys are weird- this isn't peasant life in the 19th century where marriage is based off of economic concerns. And even then that was pretty outmoded- i bet most of us are from middle class backgrounds- our grandmothers probably didn't do much other than oversee the household, write menus etc. .which was work from what i can tell but still quite luxurious. i think my mom & grandma are awesome people and their husbands certainly didn't complain that they should go work unless they wanted to- what the hell has changed? And they both had amazing relationships, in fact my FIL is always griping that MIL work and contribute and their marriage is rather sad. I feel bad for her b/c he isn't very respectful or kind and does barely any housework even though they both work the same hours.

Ok, your family knows how to do it right, but your in-laws are dysfunctional.

How original.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was very clear before we got married that he did not want to be the sole financial support of our family. Good thing I like working.

Too bad he is a loser.

Would you marry your husband if he told you he did not want to work?

Men and women are not the same, sorry.
When he can do the pregnancy and labor thing, maybe them....

+1

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Anonymous wrote:OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

What difference does his income make? Assuming he isn't an uber high, typical DCUM'er wouldn't you want a spouse who engages in the workplace and has experiences of her own?

Right, because making a home for your family has no value whatsoever.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was very clear before we got married that he did not want to be the sole financial support of our family. Good thing I like working.

Too bad he is a loser.

Would you marry your husband if he told you he did not want to work?

Taking care of children is work.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was very clear before we got married that he did not want to be the sole financial support of our family. Good thing I like working.

Too bad he is a loser.

Would you marry your husband if he told you he did not want to work?

Not the pp, but I spent most of my twenties looking for a man who was handy, intelligent, funny, and willing to give up his own career to take care of a home and any children and enthusiastically support my career from the sidelines. There aren't many out there.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband would divorce me if I did go back to work lol

Yeah, some men do prefer the little woman to keep house for them. But many do not.

Or some let their wife do what she wants.

Why would a grown woman needs to be "let" to do anything?

Because when one spouse holds all the financial cards, the other spouse needs permission.

Not in my house.
Again, that's why I love my DH so much, especially after reading this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was very clear before we got married that he did not want to be the sole financial support of our family. Good thing I like working.

Too bad he is a loser.

Would you marry your husband if he told you he did not want to work?

Men and women are not the same, sorry.
When he can do the pregnancy and labor thing, maybe them....

I went through pregnancy and labor twice. Didn't cause me to lose my job. I make slightly more money than he does, in fact. I'm superwoman - able to give birth, parent and have a full time career. Yahoo.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

What difference does his income make? Assuming he isn't an uber high, typical DCUM'er wouldn't you want a spouse who engages in the workplace and has experiences of her own?

Right, because making a home for your family has no value whatsoever.

So do you think households where both parents work full time are just missing this value?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband would divorce me if I did go back to work lol

Yeah, some men do prefer the little woman to keep house for them. But many do not.

Lots of men want the woman to keep house, , prepare meals, stay sexy care for the kids AND go to work. I'll bet you're one of those. FUBAR.

I do all that, and do it well. I understand many women can't do all that and their husbands probably accepted that they could only do the domestic stuff when they got married.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband would divorce me if I did go back to work lol

Agree. Lol.
My DH loves all that I do at home. Makes his life easier.

I third this. If I went back full time he would have to shorten his day to do dropoff or pickup, use his vacation days to care for sick kids, and not have dinner until 8 after we both get home and deal with hungry, needy kids and homework and chores. We did it for years and it was exhausting and I really didn't make enough to make it worth it. When dad makes $250k and has to take the day off so mom can go to work and make $60k, he is not appreciative of a working wife.

This mom makes 320k. My DH would be pissed if I decided to stay home and throw away this income. Over the long term having both parents work makes for a combined stronger income and better life.

Better life? That's a matter of perspective.

I don't make 320, but I do make over 200 and our lives are much better because of it. Our youngest child will be 15 this fall, and they are growing up nicely. So glad I didn't throw away my career to "keep house." I don't want to spend my days caretaking for other people.