Ever know a couple where the DH filed for divorce because the wife would not go back to work?

[Anonymous]

What eventually happened to them? Any cases where the DW realized things were in a bad stage and did get a job because the divorce went through?

[Anonymous]

Did you wife reneg on her promise, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What eventually happened to them? Any cases where the DW realized things were in a bad stage and did get a job because the divorce went through?

Sorry, meant before the divorce went through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What eventually happened to them? Any cases where the DW realized things were in a bad stage and did get a job because the divorce went through?

Sorry, meant before the divorce went through.

I'm not a lawyer, but from what I have heard it's best (from a purely $ standpoint) for the dw NOT to get a job if she hasn't had one, when divorcing after a long marriage. She is more likely to get alimony for some period of time.

[Anonymous]

No, but a friend of mine (biglaw lawyer) told me he would not have married his wife if he knew she didn't want to go back to work after having kids.

[Anonymous]

I hope your wife divorces you, gets lots of alimony and child support. You do realize divorce is expensive, you then have to maintain two households vs. one and cannot see your kids all the time.

[Anonymous]

I have never heard of that. But that husband is an inspiration to every man in this country who has been cursed with an indolent and parasitic wide.

[Anonymous]

Yes. The original plan was that she would stay at home for 3 years while finishing her BSN (needed 10 classes). Fairly easy to get back in her industry. He would stay at a job he hated and was emotionally draining but paid more than enough for her to go to school and not work. After she got a job, he would move to a different job that he enjoyed (he is also very in demand).

At the 2 year mark she hadn't gone back to school. They fought and she enrolled. At 3 years she wanted to wait to finish the program so around 3.5 years he started saying she needed to look for a job. Lots of excuses. At 4 years, she had made no progress. Husband laid out a timeline because he was miserable at his job. 1 month after the deadline and she was still not looking for aniob. He met with an attorney and was clear with her about it. Around 4.5 years she got a job. At 5.5 years he filed for divorce. He just couldn't recover from what he felt like was total disrespect with regards to his needs and mental health.

Weird part is she basically decided she wanted the single life again and only sees her kids a couple of times a year. Hr has since remarried to a wonderful person and he is leaps and bounds happier than he ever waz.

[Anonymous]

OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

What difference does his income make? Assuming he isn't an uber high, typical DCUM'er wouldn't you want a spouse who engages in the workplace and has experiences of her own?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

What difference does his income make? Assuming he isn't an uber high, typical DCUM'er wouldn't you want a spouse who engages in the workplace and has experiences of her own?

I bet he doesn't make much. Maybe he needs to fix himself first.

My DH doesn't care if I work or not or have experiences of my own, LOL. He wants me happy. I can have experiences at work or AT HOME.
Threads like this make me so appreciative of DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

Wow. I think you're the loser, PP. Whose DH "doesn't care" if you work or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

What difference does his income make? Assuming he isn't an uber high, typical DCUM'er wouldn't you want a spouse who engages in the workplace and has experiences of her own?

Yeah, I'm going to go to work for some experiences....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, You sound like a loser. What is YOUR income? My DH doesn't care if I work or not.

Wow. I think you're the loser, PP. Whose DH "doesn't care" if you work or not?

Why are you surprised that my DH wants me happy and isn't money hungry?

[Anonymous]

My husband would divorce me if I did go back to work lol