My son was molested on a school field trip. Now what?

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Anonymous wrote:Someone should ask Jeff to check this thread to see if it's one or two posters who keep minimizing the assault, and warning against reporting it to the proper authorities (the police).

I think it should not be reported to police. Do not make it a bigger deal than it is. Talk directly to the other boy's parents if you must, and make your son go to a therapist if required. Let Jeff decide who is trolling here.

- Another middle aged mom of a girl and a boy.

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If only the small crimes weren't ignored... perhaps they would not have morphed into big crimes.... Who knows?

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Anonymous wrote:No, the media doesn't ever care about this sort of thing. Sorry.

Let's not start petty arguments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, the media doesn't ever care about this sort of thing. Sorry.

Let's not start petty arguments.

You're lost.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound very confused, 20:05.

I think she songs like a mensch.

[Anonymous]

I think OP has a good handle on this now.

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Anonymous wrote:If only the small crimes weren't ignored... perhaps they would not have morphed into big crimes.... Who knows?

+ 100

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Anonymous wrote:I really don't think it's the end of the world. Especially since your DS was asleep. Calm down.

Bill Cosby posts here?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm one of the posters who said to take a breath. I only posted once. I sincerely think it's not a big deal. If it were a teacher who did it, that would be different. It's a peer. Two teenagers. Your son was asleep. It will not harm your son in any way.

Np here as well. I completely agree. It's not that big of a deal. Definitely don't call the police.

When I was in middle school I had a group of about 10 guys hold me down by sitting on me and then 1 shoved there dick in my face. Never once did I think this was assault. Yes it was awful. The worst part was that I couldn't breath because the guys were so heavy. I'm a girl by the way. So maybe guys are just more sensitive ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of the posters who said to take a breath. I only posted once. I sincerely think it's not a big deal. If it were a teacher who did it, that would be different. It's a peer. Two teenagers. Your son was asleep. It will not harm your son in any way.

Np here as well. I completely agree. It's not that big of a deal. Definitely don't call the police.

When I was in middle school I had a group of about 10 guys hold me down by sitting on me and then 1 shoved there dick in my face. Never once did I think this was assault. Yes it was awful. The worst part was that I couldn't breath because the guys were so heavy. I'm a girl by the way. So maybe guys are just more sensitive ?

The worst part is that you didn't have the knowledge or self worth to realize that that was assault and that you deserved better. I am sorry that happened to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of the posters who said to take a breath. I only posted once. I sincerely think it's not a big deal. If it were a teacher who did it, that would be different. It's a peer. Two teenagers. Your son was asleep. It will not harm your son in any way.

Np here as well. I completely agree. It's not that big of a deal. Definitely don't call the police.

When I was in middle school I had a group of about 10 guys hold me down by sitting on me and then 1 shoved there dick in my face. Never once did I think this was assault. Yes it was awful. The worst part was that I couldn't breath because the guys were so heavy. I'm a girl by the way. So maybe guys are just more sensitive ?

The worst part is that you didn't have the knowledge or self worth to realize that that was assault and that you deserved better. I am sorry that happened to you.

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So, out of curiousity, those who are advocating sweeping it under the rug, if the other kid took OP's son's wallet out of his pocket while he was sleeping, and stole A few hundred dollars out of it, or stole his iPhone, or if the other kid beat him gave him two black eyes while he was sleeping, would you still be saying not to do anything?

So all your talk about grey areas are doing NOTHING, other than perpetuating a culture that allows for sexual crimes to be culturally okay. Kid? Natural curiousity. Date? Well, they consented by being on a date. spouse? Well, he'll, they're married. Pedophiles? Well, maybe child misunderstood when adult was doing xyz.

What's sad is you'd probably be screaming to prosecute to any extent to the law if it was a beating, a theft. But, because sexual assault victims are supposed to doubt their own position in the crime, you point fingers the wrong way. A crime is still a crime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, out of curiousity, those who are advocating sweeping it under the rug, if the other kid took OP's son's wallet out of his pocket while he was sleeping, and stole A few hundred dollars out of it, or stole his iPhone, or if the other kid beat him gave him two black eyes while he was sleeping, would you still be saying not to do anything?

So all your talk about grey areas are doing NOTHING, other than perpetuating a culture that allows for sexual crimes to be culturally okay. Kid? Natural curiousity. Date? Well, they consented by being on a date. spouse? Well, he'll, they're married. Pedophiles? Well, maybe child misunderstood when adult was doing xyz.

What's sad is you'd probably be screaming to prosecute to any extent to the law if it was a beating, a theft. But, because sexual assault victims are supposed to doubt their own position in the crime, you point fingers the wrong way. A crime is still a crime.

Actually, in those cases, I would again not want to go to the police. I'd want the kid to give the stuff back, and let the school mete out some punishment.

I'm not sure why parents today want to run to the police constantly.

In the case of "sexual assault" -- I would definitely recommend keeping that away from the police and prosecutors handling it because of the draconian sex registry laws in this country. In OPs case, with zero proof and a case that an opposing attorney could rip to shreds -- and even have the alleged perpetrator accuse OP's son of something, it's simply not worth it the very, very bad things that could happen.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of the posters who said to take a breath. I only posted once. I sincerely think it's not a big deal. If it were a teacher who did it, that would be different. It's a peer. Two teenagers. Your son was asleep. It will not harm your son in any way.

Np here as well. I completely agree. It's not that big of a deal. Definitely don't call the police.

When I was in middle school I had a group of about 10 guys hold me down by sitting on me and then 1 shoved there dick in my face. Never once did I think this was assault. Yes it was awful. The worst part was that I couldn't breath because the guys were so heavy. I'm a girl by the way. So maybe guys are just more sensitive ?

The worst part is that you didn't have the knowledge or self worth to realize that that was assault and that you deserved better. I am sorry that happened to you.

Different poster here. Some individuals with plenty of knowledge and self worth recognize that there is a line between horsing around and major assault.

Some people are capable of shaking off a disorderly incident with a scolding reprimand to the hooligan.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of the posters who said to take a breath. I only posted once. I sincerely think it's not a big deal. If it were a teacher who did it, that would be different. It's a peer. Two teenagers. Your son was asleep. It will not harm your son in any way.

Np here as well. I completely agree. It's not that big of a deal. Definitely don't call the police.

When I was in middle school I had a group of about 10 guys hold me down by sitting on me and then 1 shoved there dick in my face. Never once did I think this was assault. Yes it was awful. The worst part was that I couldn't breath because the guys were so heavy. I'm a girl by the way. So maybe guys are just more sensitive ?

The worst part is that you didn't have the knowledge or self worth to realize that that was assault and that you deserved better. I am sorry that happened to you.

What did you think it was?