Puzzling "Stand Off" In Relationship (Not-Married)
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Anonymous
You let me know when you win a prize for acting on broadway, and then I will be impressed. By the way, at that point, you would be earning way more than you are. Your parents' club? So you are 33 and cant even afford the (heavily reduced) entrance fee given to legacies? That's pretty fucking sad, dont you think? Surely theyre a bit embarrassed that at your age you still have to sponge off their membership. |
Anonymous
Do you have aspergers? This is an honest question, not meant to be mean. |
Anonymous
| I think I'm getting the full picture of why this lady doesn't want to marry OP. Jesus. |
Anonymous
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You let me know when you win a prize for acting on broadway, and then I will be impressed. By the way, at that point, you would be earning way more than you are. Your parents' club? So you are 33 and cant even afford the (heavily reduced) entrance fee given to legacies? That's pretty fucking sad, dont you think? Surely theyre a bit embarrassed that at your age you still have to sponge off their membership. Pretty weak reply. Yep, I'm not Bob Putnam yet. But I'm 33. He's nearly 70. And you don't know what stage I'm at in my prestigious career. You also don't know whether I have a legacy membership. Why would I mention that. Only nouveau riche folks talk about which clubs they are members at. Seriously you very little about me other than: 1) I'm over 6 feet tall 2) I have multiple degrees from top-20 schools 3) Make 6 figures 4) Am 33 |
Anonymous
Not at all. I just am good at arguing. People try to deflect, get personal, etc. I stick on points of debate. Facts. Ruthless about it. Annoys people, who prefer to reason/argue based on emotion. |
Anonymous
You let me know when you win a prize for acting on broadway, and then I will be impressed. By the way, at that point, you would be earning way more than you are. Your parents' club? So you are 33 and cant even afford the (heavily reduced) entrance fee given to legacies? That's pretty fucking sad, dont you think? Surely theyre a bit embarrassed that at your age you still have to sponge off their membership. Pretty weak reply. Yep, I'm not Bob Putnam yet. But I'm 33. He's nearly 70. And you don't know what stage I'm at in my prestigious career. You also don't know whether I have a legacy membership. Why would I mention that. Only nouveau riche folks talk about which clubs they are members at. Seriously you very little about me other than: 1) I'm over 6 feet tall 2) I have multiple degrees from top-20 schools 3) Make 6 figures 4) Am 33 Oh and I still have 10lbs to lose! =) |
Anonymous
You let me know when you win a prize for acting on broadway, and then I will be impressed. By the way, at that point, you would be earning way more than you are. Your parents' club? So you are 33 and cant even afford the (heavily reduced) entrance fee given to legacies? That's pretty fucking sad, dont you think? Surely theyre a bit embarrassed that at your age you still have to sponge off their membership. Pretty weak reply. Yep, I'm not Bob Putnam yet. But I'm 33. He's nearly 70. And you don't know what stage I'm at in my prestigious career. You also don't know whether I have a legacy membership. Why would I mention that. Only nouveau riche folks talk about which clubs they are members at. Seriously you very little about me other than: 1) I'm over 6 feet tall 2) I have multiple degrees from top-20 schools 3) Make 6 figures 4) Am 33 I know you are still calling it your "parents club" which pretty much says it all. I dont mean to be a bitch, but you asked for it. Here's what I DO know about you: 1) You are fat and have been fatter 2) You are earning a very small amount, given the fact that you have been given the luxury and opportunity to get multiple graduate degrees 3) Make 1/4 as much as your partner 4) Are 33 5) Have serious issues with social skills, given the (quite frankly, bizarre) tone of your posts 6) Seem to have some sort of delusion that your parents' achievements will somehow be passed down to you, and give you a pass for an extremely mediocre career. |
Anonymous
| OP again here. Other than the 1 d-bag who tried, I emphasize *tried*, to have a personal argument with me in this thread, I just don't get the reaction. I'm not looking for your approval in this thread or keen relationship advice. Just looking for the main theory as to why gf continues with the status quo. Very few quality answers. A few. I think whoever said inertia made some sense. In any event, thread has been jacked, so I doubt little theorizing with actual contributions to my questions will be raised. Instead, bitter old hags who want to believe a near-40 year old woman who wants natural kids has nothing to lose by continuing in a relationship that is off course want to debate my income. |
Anonymous
Honey, I'm sorry to burst the bubble, but you havent been emotionless, or stayed on point. In fact, you managed to navigate people questioning about your self-reported under-earning to a discussion of your parents' achievements and being from "old money". That is not the point you asked about, which is why hasnt your GF dumped you yet. You also seem to be really easy to ruffle and rile up. You get *noticeably* offended when people accuse your GF of being more successful than you. It's almost sad, because you sound like a guy who went into this post hoping for some kind of validation and now you are spitting out the most irrelevant info about your parents' country club (??????) and it's just a clusterfuck. |
Anonymous
Pretty weak reply. Yep, I'm not Bob Putnam yet. But I'm 33. He's nearly 70. And you don't know what stage I'm at in my prestigious career. You also don't know whether I have a legacy membership. Why would I mention that. Only nouveau riche folks talk about which clubs they are members at. Seriously you very little about me other than: 1) I'm over 6 feet tall 2) I have multiple degrees from top-20 schools 3) Make 6 figures 4) Am 33 I know you are still calling it your "parents club" which pretty much says it all. I dont mean to be a bitch, but you asked for it. Here's what I DO know about you: 1) You are fat and have been fatter 2) You are earning a very small amount, given the fact that you have been given the luxury and opportunity to get multiple graduate degrees 3) Make 1/4 as much as your partner 4) Are 33 5) Have serious issues with social skills, given the (quite frankly, bizarre) tone of your posts 6) Seem to have some sort of delusion that your parents' achievements will somehow be passed down to you, and give you a pass for an extremely mediocre career. Again very weak. There are people who have PhD's from Stanford that make less than 100k. You do realize this. They aren't dumb. They are self-selecting a particular career. Poets, for example, aren't likely to make more than the guy who owns Papa Johns. Would you rather meet Yeats or John Schnatter at a cocktail party? Seriously, weird PP. Oh the tone of my posts? You're the one trolling me about my gf's business and my income which had ZERO to do with the main question asked in this thread. You couldn't defeat my arguments about prestige versus paystubs. You dodge and deflect every argument. And for all you know my gf could be 35 lbs overweight. You have very little info. |
Anonymous
Anyone who uses the terminology honey isn't what I'd call particularly cultured. I'm guessing you say "hubby" too =) |
Anonymous
I know you are still calling it your "parents club" which pretty much says it all. I dont mean to be a bitch, but you asked for it. Here's what I DO know about you: 1) You are fat and have been fatter 2) You are earning a very small amount, given the fact that you have been given the luxury and opportunity to get multiple graduate degrees 3) Make 1/4 as much as your partner 4) Are 33 5) Have serious issues with social skills, given the (quite frankly, bizarre) tone of your posts 6) Seem to have some sort of delusion that your parents' achievements will somehow be passed down to you, and give you a pass for an extremely mediocre career. Again very weak. There are people who have PhD's from Stanford that make less than 100k. You do realize this. They aren't dumb. They are self-selecting a particular career. Poets, for example, aren't likely to make more than the guy who owns Papa Johns. Would you rather meet Yeats or John Schnatter at a cocktail party? Seriously, weird PP. Oh the tone of my posts? You're the one trolling me about my gf's business and my income which had ZERO to do with the main question asked in this thread. You couldn't defeat my arguments about prestige versus paystubs. You dodge and deflect every argument. And for all you know my gf could be 35 lbs overweight. You have very little info. I guess there's book smarts and street smarts. If we lived in Regency England, coming from old money and going to university would be a huge achievement. But we live in the United States, where earned income, if we are "success bragging", which you seem keen to do, is the measure of a man. And you just cant compete on that level. If people, like myself, think that makes you a loser, and you dont like it, work to change it. Because droning on and on about Top 20 schools is not going to change the cold hard facts. |
Anonymous
I was trying to be kind, because you seem to be in a fragile emotional state ATM. |
Anonymous
Again very weak. There are people who have PhD's from Stanford that make less than 100k. You do realize this. They aren't dumb. They are self-selecting a particular career. Poets, for example, aren't likely to make more than the guy who owns Papa Johns. Would you rather meet Yeats or John Schnatter at a cocktail party? Seriously, weird PP. Oh the tone of my posts? You're the one trolling me about my gf's business and my income which had ZERO to do with the main question asked in this thread. You couldn't defeat my arguments about prestige versus paystubs. You dodge and deflect every argument. And for all you know my gf could be 35 lbs overweight. You have very little info. I guess there's book smarts and street smarts. If we lived in Regency England, coming from old money and going to university would be a huge achievement. But we live in the United States, where earned income, if we are "success bragging", which you seem keen to do, is the measure of a man. And you just cant compete on that level. If people, like myself, think that makes you a loser, and you dont like it, work to change it. Because droning on and on about Top 20 schools is not going to change the cold hard facts. You're killing me because you can't stay on point. I didn't start this thread to talk about my lineage, my line of degrees, my income. I did try and give some brief info about my biography for context. I.e., that gf and I are similar in attractiveness, that I have more education, she makes a bigger income FOR CONTEXT. It really doesn't bother me that she makes more, and it certainly has never hurt my dating life. Again, unless you live in a very narrow nouveau riche mindset, men with top-20 degrees, over 6 foot, who make over 6 figures at age 33 don't have a hard time getting dates. For some odd reason you decided to troll me. As PP's have pointed out, I asked a reasonable question about why my girlfriend would stay in the current situation. I don't remember me being the one to force the conversation outside of that realm of theorizing. I only got into that and got nasty when others went for personal attacks. Your comments on my income versus hers do NOTHING to theorize why she's currently in the relationship. In fact, everything you keep pointing out simply contradicts why she would stay. I.e., you're undermining a plausible theory as to why. |
Anonymous
Not fragile at all. Annoyed with trolling PPs. I can't be that upset. I'm literally stocking away 80% of a six-figure income each month into 401k since I have zero housing costs. |