Puzzling "Stand Off" In Relationship (Not-Married)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably she feels that, as a socially challenged manbaby, she fears for your mental state if she dumped you and threw you out on your ass.

but he has his own place and contributes zero to hers and while she makes considerably more money he actually has a bunch of degrees that do stuff that his parents got for him while he pursues his luxury career at her expense. He is winning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably she feels that, as a socially challenged manbaby, she fears for your mental state if she dumped you and threw you out on your ass.

but he has his own place and contributes zero to hers and while she makes considerably more money he actually has a bunch of degrees that do stuff that his parents got for him while he pursues his luxury career at her expense. He is winning.

LOL?! He is winning?! By what measure. In every regard she is winning: she makes more money, she owns the house, she isn't sleeping with him. She is the winner, this guy is just treading water at this point, with his mediocre career and dependance on his GF that wont fuck him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:33 year old, heterosexual, male. In LTR with 37 year old female. We're in a bit of a relationship stand off, of late. We will probably end up breaking up, but I want some insight into my situation from any posters who have been in a similar or somewhat similar situation. Specifically for us it's around sex. Pretty typical story here. 1st year of relationship sex was on fire. Year 2 we almost broke up over some non-sex related issues, but reconciled. However, since that time the relationship has not heated back up. We've basically been sexless for 1.5 years. Been in therapy. Tried everything. She's LD now. I'm HD. But here's where the curiosity has me going. She knows we won't take the next step in the relationship unless this improves. I've made that clear. However, I refused to end the relationship. At least now. It's almost like we're both in a stand off. Day to day the relationship is okay (we don't fight, we have fun together), but it's not passionate or on fire anymore. Literally she has no drive.

Now before everyone comes in explaining how "I don't do it for her anymore" or it's non-bedroom related, let me just say, "I agree". All that may be true. But what I can't figure out is why the stand off? She's not gaining anything from me. We're both successful, but she out-earns me by a wide margin. We've both never been married, have no kids. She says she likely wants kids, but I do not necessarily want them. It just shocks me that she doesn't move on. What am I missing? It's almost become a research project for me to figure out why she's hanging on. I'm truly not worried about myself. I know I'll land on my feet in a future relationship if this doesn't work out. Ideally we would regain the magic from year #1, but I'm not naive. Just inquisitive at this point. particularly interested in female opinions...

Becasue she's satisifed with what she's got? She cares about you. She gets as much sex as she wants. She enjoys your company. She enjoys her career.

Not every woman wants to get married... sometimes they can't admit that to themselves because we're supposed to want to get married and have kids and be a SAHM, but not all of us want it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably she feels that, as a socially challenged manbaby, she fears for your mental state if she dumped you and threw you out on your ass.

but he has his own place and contributes zero to hers and while she makes considerably more money he actually has a bunch of degrees that do stuff that his parents got for him while he pursues his luxury career at her expense. He is winning.

LOL?! He is winning?! By what measure. In every regard she is winning: she makes more money, she owns the house, she isn't sleeping with him. She is the winner, this guy is just treading water at this point, with his mediocre career and dependance on his GF that wont fuck him.

It was a joke