PSA: No one wants you

[Anonymous]

I’m just starting to realize how much pornography men watch and how much is colors the way they see the world. In porn, it could absolutely happen that you meet some woman at the grocery store and you end up in bed two minutes later.
Of course men know that it’s not real, but I think it gets stuck in their unconscious that this is something that could possibly happen.

[Anonymous]

I am in my late 40s and look about 32. Still pretty hot. Literally have not had the sense that men were after me in years. Def used to get hit on in public fairly frequently in my 20s. If OP is in her mid 40s and thinks men are all after her, she is insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m just starting to realize how much pornography men watch and how much is colors the way they see the world. In porn, it could absolutely happen that you meet some woman at the grocery store and you end up in bed two minutes later.
Of course men know that it’s not real, but I think it gets stuck in their unconscious that this is something that could possibly happen.

The pornification of all things is a plague. It really does infect literally every possible exchange between men who watch it and literally any woman, whether or not he'd say he's attracted to her. And the more they watch and deeper they go into that cesspit, the worse their mentality becomes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in my late 40s and look about 32. Still pretty hot. Literally have not had the sense that men were after me in years. Def used to get hit on in public fairly frequently in my 20s. If OP is in her mid 40s and thinks men are all after her, she is insane.

No you don’t.

[Anonymous]

I have had this experience where a woman feels threatened that I was talking to her husband in a public setting in a group activity. Lady, I got rid of a husband--I certainly don't want yours--is what I would love to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in my late 40s and look about 32. Still pretty hot. Literally have not had the sense that men were after me in years. Def used to get hit on in public fairly frequently in my 20s. If OP is in her mid 40s and thinks men are all after her, she is insane.

No you don’t.

Yes, she can. Different poster here. I get mistaken for early 30s all the time...in professional settings, especially. It can happen with some people. I am not dating now but when I am on the apps--not kidding--I get 20s men liking me ALL of the time who insist age does not matter. It's looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t think anything about a man saying that to his child at a grocery store or any where.

Seriously. I tell my kid “let’s go find dad” all the time. Because… we need to go find dad and move on to the next thing?? No one is proxy-talking to you via their kid, OP!

[Anonymous]

This is off. “Yes I will hug you but it doesn’t mean I want you”, “yes I will joke and laugh with you without my husband around but it doesn’t mean I want you”. Im curious what they say or do that makes you think they think you want them. And if it makes you so uncomfortable maybe stop hugging/flirting/waiting for men in grocery store aisles to notice you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear you OP. I introduced myself to a dad standing next to me at DD's class event, and the mom came out of nowhere and just stood between us. No hello, no smile. Dead.

No one wants you, and no one wants your husband.

This happened to me at a dinner once. The woman wedged herself between me and her husband that I was talking to and turned her back to me. It was so weird. And also - I absolutely had no interest in her husband. Just being polite and speaking to him as he was seated next to me.

[Anonymous]

It IS annoying how many men think.

I would say there are a lot of guys who think just because a woman is talking to them means she is after him.

But I do not feel this applies to ALL men.

At least I hope not.
Lol. 😝

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with you???

You're projecting. The poor man wasn't thinking about you. You have main character syndrome, poor deluded one.

+1 I’m not usually harsh on here, but I had the same reaction. How does a guy saying “let’s go find mommy” to his kid have anything to do with you?! Had you struck up a conversation or something? That’s just a bizarre train of thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No revealing clothing or tons of makeup. Just another average mom. It’s not the women that say anything it’s the dads. Well they don’t say anything but I just get the feeling all these dads are really into themselves more than they should be.

Huh? Makes no sense. This sounds thought-disordered. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve definitely experienced this one, but more so with the dads in sports team circles.

What I find works is to beat them to the punch by throwing “your wife” into the conversation a lot. Even though “the wife” and I are friends… so I know her name and could easily say “Jen told me. . . “

It really throws them off. They usually take a step or two back soon thereafter… which seems to support OPs hypothesis.

And yes the culprits are usually the less attractive Dads.

I would find offensive if a dad hit on me. Why does he think I am up To it? Guys do not hit on everyone, even if the person is very attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait till you are in your fifties and become completely invisible. Getting old is hard, but it has its perks. Try to focus on those. Like not giving sh!t what everyone thinks. They can't see you anyway

She's already invisible. Hence the delusions, and this unhinged post.

Well that isn’t true. Maybe a decade or two later. I’m 54 and don’t feel invisible. But I have never imagined that everyone is somehow attuned to me, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hear you OP. I introduced myself to a dad standing next to me at DD's class event, and the mom came out of nowhere and just stood between us. No hello, no smile. Dead.

No one wants you, and no one wants your husband.

Omg yes this. Or like if you’re sitting and talking to a guy at some event and then his wife or whatever comes over, sits next to him, puts her hand on his leg. So insecure!!! It’s always women who (obviously) don’t know me, and I’m sure I’ll get gaslit for saying this, but it has happened more with Southern women who haven’t socially been around many people with my EXOTIC looks 🙄🙄🙄 Like just calm down

So much this. I would very much like to be excluded from this narrative of cheating husband, polymarriage, whatever. I just want to watch my kid's recital ok?!