PSA: No one wants you

[Anonymous]

Mid 40s woman here and I need to say this out loud. No one wants you. I’m not sure if it’s all the views you get of yourself on Zoom all day or that your marriage is strained so everyone seems like a fresh piece of meat, but why does every 40-50 something think we want them?

I’ve been in the grocery store walking down the aisles searching for cereal and then the dad with a kid in tow needs to loudly announce “let’s go find mommy”. I’m not following you, I don’t want you. I’m finding stuff on my list. And yes, sometimes I hug a male friend who is part of a couple we have known for 15 years. It’s doesn’t mean I want him.

I can joke and be friendly, doesn’t mean I want you. I can talk to a dad at a school event without my husband, I don’t want you.

Anyone else feel relationships at this age are so hyper sexualized? I seriously don’t get it. Everyone feels so insecure. End of rant.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my 40s and have not had this experience at all. No one in the grocery story thinks I'm after them. You must be much more physically attractive than me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 40s and have not had this experience at all. No one in the grocery story thinks I'm after them. You must be much more physically attractive than me.

Same. No one thinks this after one incident. But if you are wearing very revealing clothing, a ton of makeup, and hugging Dads at school when you see them, that's gonna ring a few bells for women around you.

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with you???

You're projecting. The poor man wasn't thinking about you. You have main character syndrome, poor deluded one.

[Anonymous]

No revealing clothing or tons of makeup. Just another average mom. It’s not the women that say anything it’s the dads. Well they don’t say anything but I just get the feeling all these dads are really into themselves more than they should be.

[Anonymous]

I hear you OP. I introduced myself to a dad standing next to me at DD's class event, and the mom came out of nowhere and just stood between us. No hello, no smile. Dead.

No one wants you, and no one wants your husband.

[Anonymous]

Exactly this ^ thank you

[Anonymous]

OP, I think it has less to do with you and more to do with men feeling out of place at the grocery store. Add in a small child and the man feels even more lost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exactly this ^ thank you

Yessss. All of this!!! x10000

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t think anything about a man saying that to his child at a grocery store or any where.

[Anonymous]

No, I’ve never felt this way. I’m 44. No random dad at the grocery store thinks I’m stalking him or find him hot. My male friends don’t think I’m coming onto them because I give them a side hug. What an odd way of thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear you OP. I introduced myself to a dad standing next to me at DD's class event, and the mom came out of nowhere and just stood between us. No hello, no smile. Dead.

No one wants you, and no one wants your husband.

This is such weird behavior!

[Anonymous]

I'm 45 and pretty attractive and I hug my male friends all the time but have never found myself in a situation where anyone thought anything was going on. Not sure what it says about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hear you OP. I introduced myself to a dad standing next to me at DD's class event, and the mom came out of nowhere and just stood between us. No hello, no smile. Dead.

No one wants you, and no one wants your husband.

This is such weird behavior!

I'm friendly with all the dads of my daughters' friends and I have NEVER had a mom act like this. And no, I'm not a hag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear you OP. I introduced myself to a dad standing next to me at DD's class event, and the mom came out of nowhere and just stood between us. No hello, no smile. Dead.

No one wants you, and no one wants your husband.

Why didn’t you introduce yourself? I would’ve to put her at ease.