Yup. She may have just been awkward you realize. It might have nothing to do with you. |
Uh, what? Men do not feel out of place at grocery stores nor with their children. |
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I often get hit on by husbands of women in my social circle. Women who are my close friends and would have never thought her drunk husband called me after a party SHE organized, to suggest that I meet him in private. "Meet for coffee", "see maybe there is more we can talk about" etc. Zero interest in these bolding overweight middle aged dads! I'm amazed men are so narcissic and are of such a low opinion of female friendship that they have guts to do that.
I'm well above average looks, do very well dating single men on OLD and meeting in real life. |
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You know how in middle school the girls who loudly proclaimed they "hated drama" were all the ones who actually instigated the drama?
Hard not to think there's something similar here. |
| OP, can you find a new or different hobby? Your “rant” was off. I am not sure it’s getting the reaction you intended |
You’re kidding right? There is so much rampant learned helplessness and weaponized incompetence with men that it’s alarming. You’re lying to yourself if you think every man is sufficiently functioning. |
DP and my husband does the primary grocery shopping for our family. One of my favorite things is when he takes our kids so he can teach them his skills. But then again he would never loudly be proclaiming that he needed to find mommy, because I'm not at the store with him, I'm home getting other stuff done. |
You have incredibly low standards. |
| Op may have inflated sense of self worth |
| You think the guy said we need to find mommy loudly to his child so you would back off? Uh, you think a lot of yourself. |
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The shoe is on the other foot, OP. |
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I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.
OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations? |
No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives |
| I don’t think the “let’s go find mommy” thing was anything weird and I think you’re reading into it. HOWEVER, I have definitely been hit on by my friends’ husbands - sometimes they were drunk other times sober. No, it wasn’t just being nice/friendly and I misinterpreted it. There was physical touching involved, other people witnessed it, and it was uncomfortable. I’ve also had the experience of a woman giving me a hard stare because I saw her husband playing a phone game that I also play and I was just saying “oh look I also play that!” Like I’m here with my kids and wearing a wedding ring, I’m not trying to steal your man at the playground! |
| Women get super horny in their 40s, that's a hormonal fact. Men know this. It's women's sexual prime. After that they get unhorny. |