PSA: No one wants you

[Anonymous]

^^ that was one example. My hair is still naturally blonde, I am fit and have kind of a rounder face and dress fairly fashionably. People are shocked to learn that I am 48. They aren't just being polite. Sometimes my DH introduces me to someone and then privately afterwards they ask him how old I am, assuming I am like 20 years younger...

And still, not getting hit on nonstop or feeling like men are avoiding me in public because they are married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I often get hit on by husbands of women in my social circle. Women who are my close friends and would have never thought her drunk husband called me after a party SHE organized, to suggest that I meet him in private. "Meet for coffee", "see maybe there is more we can talk about" etc. Zero interest in these bolding overweight middle aged dads! I'm amazed men are so narcissic and are of such a low opinion of female friendship that they have guts to do that.
I'm well above average looks, do very well dating single men on OLD and meeting in real life.

I’ve seen this.. it’s wild behavior

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hear you OP. I introduced myself to a dad standing next to me at DD's class event, and the mom came out of nowhere and just stood between us. No hello, no smile. Dead.

No one wants you, and no one wants your husband.

Omg yes this. Or like if you’re sitting and talking to a guy at some event and then his wife or whatever comes over, sits next to him, puts her hand on his leg. So insecure!!! It’s always women who (obviously) don’t know me, and I’m sure I’ll get gaslit for saying this, but it has happened more with Southern women who haven’t socially been around many people with my EXOTIC looks 🙄🙄🙄 Like just calm down

I put my hand on my husband’s leg all the time. It has nothing to do with you.

Speaking of insecure, though - It sounds like you’re really invested in the idea that all men want to bang you and all women are jealous of you.

I never said that ALL women who EVER touch their husbands leg - it’s a very specific thing that happens infrequently but is recognizable, annoying, and pathetic at the same time. If you read the thread you’ll see other examples of this from PPs. Anyway literally none of what you wrote describes me, but of
course it’s easier to create a hyperbolic straw man for you to take out some feelings on

Nah, you clearly like the smell of your own farts. Take OP’s admonition to heart: no one wants you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am in my late 40s and look about 32. Still pretty hot. Literally have not had the sense that men were after me in years. Def used to get hit on in public fairly frequently in my 20s. If OP is in her mid 40s and thinks men are all after her, she is insane.

No you don’t.

PP. Yes, I do and it is not due to procedures. My parents looked young for their age, too. When people ask me if I have kids and I say I have two teenagers they look shocked and say oh I assumed they would be little. I had my kids in my early 30s, so not particularly young. I usually end up telling them my age so they don't think I had them when I was super young (internalized snobbery, probably, and sometimes I just let it go and say, yes, they are 17 and 15. This happens every time someone I don't know well asks me about my kids. I work with people who are in their 30s and they assume we are all the same age until I tell them we aren't. My husband is 7 years older and when we first got together we were often mistaken for father and daughter (embarrassing, I know).

That being said, I am not getting flirted with non-stop. I probably don't give off a young vibe even if I look young, but it's not like it was when I was younger and strange men ALWAYS took the seat next to me on a train, e.g., and chatted me up. It may also be smartphones. No one seems to interact that much anyway, so OP feeling like men are constantly after her in 2025 feels highly delusional.

Jesus Christ lady. I have no doubt that you look younger than your years, but if you’re almost 50, you don’t look 32. Unless you’re exclusively having your age guessed by folks at the retirement home, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Um, no - I don't feel this at all OP.

I have close male friends, I have a husband, I enjoy the random small/innocent flirtation. Nothing is "hypersexualized".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am in my late 40s and look about 32. Still pretty hot. Literally have not had the sense that men were after me in years. Def used to get hit on in public fairly frequently in my 20s. If OP is in her mid 40s and thinks men are all after her, she is insane.

No you don’t.

Yes, she can. Different poster here. I get mistaken for early 30s all the time...in professional settings, especially. It can happen with some people. I am not dating now but when I am on the apps--not kidding--I get 20s men liking me ALL of the time who insist age does not matter. It's looks.

Post your (unfiltered) picture and we’ll decide. Otherwise, nope. They’re lying to you because it clearly gets a good reaction.

Tell me how and I will. I don’t use filters. I don’t know how.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am in my late 40s and look about 32. Still pretty hot. Literally have not had the sense that men were after me in years. Def used to get hit on in public fairly frequently in my 20s. If OP is in her mid 40s and thinks men are all after her, she is insane.

No you don’t.

Yes, she can. Different poster here. I get mistaken for early 30s all the time...in professional settings, especially. It can happen with some people. I am not dating now but when I am on the apps--not kidding--I get 20s men liking me ALL of the time who insist age does not matter. It's looks.

Post your (unfiltered) picture and we’ll decide. Otherwise, nope. They’re lying to you because it clearly gets a good reaction.

Tell me how and I will. I don’t use filters. I don’t know how.

DP but upload to imgur which will make it Anonymous https://imgur.com/upload
And post link or embed the image here

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I find it depressing when women are so desperate to be considered younger than they are. Who cares? It is exceedingly rare that people legitimately look young for their age. But it is incredibly common for people to use it as a compliment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women get super horny in their 40s, that's a hormonal fact. Men know this. It's women's sexual prime. After that they get unhorny.

I haven’t taken a poll, but I’m pretty sure this isn’t on men’s radar so much as their own (evergreen) horniness

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women get super horny in their 40s, that's a hormonal fact. Men know this. It's women's sexual prime. After that they get unhorny.

How is that a hormonal fact? Does that actually make sense? Stop watching porn.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Agree. Happens all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in my late 40s and look about 32. Still pretty hot. Literally have not had the sense that men were after me in years. Def used to get hit on in public fairly frequently in my 20s. If OP is in her mid 40s and thinks men are all after her, she is insane.

No you don’t.

PP. Yes, I do and it is not due to procedures. My parents looked young for their age, too. When people ask me if I have kids and I say I have two teenagers they look shocked and say oh I assumed they would be little. I had my kids in my early 30s, so not particularly young. I usually end up telling them my age so they don't think I had them when I was super young (internalized snobbery, probably, and sometimes I just let it go and say, yes, they are 17 and 15. This happens every time someone I don't know well asks me about my kids. I work with people who are in their 30s and they assume we are all the same age until I tell them we aren't. My husband is 7 years older and when we first got together we were often mistaken for father and daughter (embarrassing, I know).

That being said, I am not getting flirted with non-stop. I probably don't give off a young vibe even if I look young, but it's not like it was when I was younger and strange men ALWAYS took the seat next to me on a train, e.g., and chatted me up. It may also be smartphones. No one seems to interact that much anyway, so OP feeling like men are constantly after her in 2025 feels highly delusional.

You sound very insecure. Nobody cares how old you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Let’s go find mommy” is code for wanting to bang a strange woman?

No, OP is saying that the guy thought SHE was after HIM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am in my late 40s and look about 32. Still pretty hot. Literally have not had the sense that men were after me in years. Def used to get hit on in public fairly frequently in my 20s. If OP is in her mid 40s and thinks men are all after her, she is insane.

No you don’t.

Yes, she can. Different poster here. I get mistaken for early 30s all the time...in professional settings, especially. It can happen with some people. I am not dating now but when I am on the apps--not kidding--I get 20s men liking me ALL of the time who insist age does not matter. It's looks.

Post your (unfiltered) picture and we’ll decide. Otherwise, nope. They’re lying to you because it clearly gets a good reaction.

Tell me how and I will. I don’t use filters. I don’t know how.

DP but upload to imgur which will make it Anonymous https://imgur.com/upload
And post link or embed the image here

Not doing that with these policies (below): if I could upload it here or provide it without my name being associated with it here I would.

“We also provide automatically collected anonymous data to third party advertisers and analytics companies to supplement the tracking information described below, but we contractually prohibit such third parties from combining such anonymous data with other data they may have in a way that could enable the identification of individuals.”