PSA: No one wants you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Are these your friends? Time to find new friends.

[Anonymous]

You have a very inflated view of yourself if you think most men want you. Do you lack for attention at home?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

I don’t. I’m talking about my now ex-husband and his male friends. We are all divorced now. His most aggressive “advisor” in our divorce was a friend who had hit on me years prior, and got pushed back .

Yup, you had a pathetic social circle.

It's the whole Chevy-Chase upper social circle, then.

Ha! Which country club do you and your friends belong to?

You know: CCC along with the IMF/WB group crowd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP and I’m not saying everyone I see at the store thinks I want them. Absolutely not. My point may have been exaggerated but generally I think a lot of men at this age have a very inflated view of themselves and it shows.

Your story proves that YOU have an inflated view of yourself. That man wasn't thinking of you.

Some men and women, including YOU, think people are more interested than they are. This is not a gendered thing. It's a personality thing. That's all. Not need to get into a gender war.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP and I’m not saying everyone I see at the store thinks I want them. Absolutely not. My point may have been exaggerated but generally I think a lot of men at this age have a very inflated view of themselves and it shows.

In this situation I don’t think men are the only ones with an inflated view of themselves.

[Anonymous]

I think you're delusional, OP.

[Anonymous]

You’re deluded

[Anonymous]

Wait till you are in your fifties and become completely invisible. Getting old is hard, but it has its perks. Try to focus on those. Like not giving sh!t what everyone thinks. They can't see you anyway

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait till you are in your fifties and become completely invisible. Getting old is hard, but it has its perks. Try to focus on those. Like not giving sh!t what everyone thinks. They can't see you anyway

She's already invisible. Hence the delusions, and this unhinged post.

[Anonymous]

As a dad in his 50s I might notice an attractive mom type at the grocery store. Do I say anything - nope. It’s just a quick thought in your head. She’s cute I’d go after that if I were single. And on we go.

The reality is I’ve got too much to get done to talk to randoms and I’ve got my own milf at home.

So lady at the store. It’s all in your head.

[Anonymous]

Correct, OP. No one wants YOU.

[Anonymous]

While some of this may be delusion/main character syndrome on OP's part, I've witnessed this behavior. Both types: the man who is obviously interested/staring, gets caught, and then does a "soft blame" and says some kind of "let's go find mom" to deflect from his rudeness and project it onto the person he was oogling, and the overprotective/overinvested wife who is on regular border patrol around her spouse at all times, assuming everyone in the vicinity wants a piece (probably because she knows he'll give it).

I dress to depress so it's rarely me being targeted for the attention. OP, you might try the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 40s woman here and I need to say this out loud. No one wants you. I’m not sure if it’s all the views you get of yourself on Zoom all day or that your marriage is strained so everyone seems like a fresh piece of meat, but why does every 40-50 something think we want them?

I’ve been in the grocery store walking down the aisles searching for cereal and then the dad with a kid in tow needs to loudly announce “let’s go find mommy”. I’m not following you, I don’t want you. I’m finding stuff on my list. And yes, sometimes I hug a male friend who is part of a couple we have known for 15 years. It’s doesn’t mean I want him.

I can joke and be friendly, doesn’t mean I want you. I can talk to a dad at a school event without my husband, I don’t want you.

Anyone else feel relationships at this age are so hyper sexualized? I seriously don’t get it. Everyone feels so insecure. End of rant.

Whatever are you prattling on about.

[Anonymous]

I’m fat and not cute so I’m invisible to literally everyone.

I guess that’s one way to solve this?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, this is bizarre -- I've never had this experience. Not sure what is going on for you.