PSA: No one wants you

[Anonymous]

This is OP and I’m not saying everyone I see at the store thinks I want them. Absolutely not. My point may have been exaggerated but generally I think a lot of men at this age have a very inflated view of themselves and it shows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP and I’m not saying everyone I see at the store thinks I want them. Absolutely not. My point may have been exaggerated but generally I think a lot of men at this age have a very inflated view of themselves and it shows.

Sounds like a pot calling the kettle black situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think the “let’s go find mommy” thing was anything weird and I think you’re reading into it. HOWEVER, I have definitely been hit on by my friends’ husbands - sometimes they were drunk other times sober. No, it wasn’t just being nice/friendly and I misinterpreted it. There was physical touching involved, other people witnessed it, and it was uncomfortable. I’ve also had the experience of a woman giving me a hard stare because I saw her husband playing a phone game that I also play and I was just saying “oh look I also play that!” Like I’m here with my kids and wearing a wedding ring, I’m not trying to steal your man at the playground!

Yea, the shocking truth for the wives would be to know that their “ideal” husband is propositioning to her close friends. Like, offering to visit them with a bottle in private, when the wife travels etc.
Men are very direct with these advances, impossible to confuse

[Anonymous]

'Let's go find mommy" does not mean they are trying to hit on you.

PSA to the OP: Not everyone wants *you.*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

I don’t. I’m talking about my now ex-husband and his male friends. We are all divorced now. His most aggressive “advisor” in our divorce was a friend who had hit on me years prior, and got pushed back .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

I don’t. I’m talking about my now ex-husband and his male friends. We are all divorced now. His most aggressive “advisor” in our divorce was a friend who had hit on me years prior, and got pushed back .

You did have a sad, sad friend group. You do realize your group may not be normal, right? Pls go find better friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

I don’t. I’m talking about my now ex-husband and his male friends. We are all divorced now. His most aggressive “advisor” in our divorce was a friend who had hit on me years prior, and got pushed back .

Yup, you had a pathetic social circle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

I don’t. I’m talking about my now ex-husband and his male friends. We are all divorced now. His most aggressive “advisor” in our divorce was a friend who had hit on me years prior, and got pushed back .

Yup, you had a pathetic social circle.

It's the whole Chevy-Chase upper social circle, then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP and I’m not saying everyone I see at the store thinks I want them. Absolutely not. My point may have been exaggerated but generally I think a lot of men at this age have a very inflated view of themselves and it shows.

That’s exactly what you said so people have reacted to your hyperbole.

So it’s all these random men everywhere you go? There are probably many who think, “Holy cow. That 40 yr old woman thinks I want her. Really?” Or they haven’t actually given you any thought at all. Someone here is pretty self-centered.

[Anonymous]

“Let’s go find mommy” is code for wanting to bang a strange woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

I don’t. I’m talking about my now ex-husband and his male friends. We are all divorced now. His most aggressive “advisor” in our divorce was a friend who had hit on me years prior, and got pushed back .

Yup, you had a pathetic social circle.

It's the whole Chevy-Chase upper social circle, then.

Nope. We see you and just avoid you and your circle. Too much drama. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

I don’t. I’m talking about my now ex-husband and his male friends. We are all divorced now. His most aggressive “advisor” in our divorce was a friend who had hit on me years prior, and got pushed back .

Yup, you had a pathetic social circle.

It's the whole Chevy-Chase upper social circle, then.

You think your zip code or tax bracket keep you from being pathetic? I actually laughed out loud reading your post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

I don’t. I’m talking about my now ex-husband and his male friends. We are all divorced now. His most aggressive “advisor” in our divorce was a friend who had hit on me years prior, and got pushed back .

Yup, you had a pathetic social circle.

It's the whole Chevy-Chase upper social circle, then.

Ha! Which country club do you and your friends belong to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45, my DH is 47. I have literally never gotten the impression that other men think I'm after them, or that my DH is looking at other women.

OP, it sounds like maybe you are the one hyper sexualizing these situations?

No she’s not. Most husbands hit on their wives attractive female friends. Men also hit on their own friends’ wives

Some of you have incredibly sad friend groups.

I don’t. I’m talking about my now ex-husband and his male friends. We are all divorced now. His most aggressive “advisor” in our divorce was a friend who had hit on me years prior, and got pushed back .

Yup, you had a pathetic social circle.

It's the whole Chevy-Chase upper social circle, then.

Rich people problems. Stop working out and your problem will solve itself, lol.

I thought this was going to be a relatable post about the invisibility of middle-aged women.