Do you say anything if visiting family are dressed inappropriately?

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Yes

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Anonymous wrote:I think next year the niece should arrive in oversized, sloppy sweat pants.

No one under the age of 65 cares when a teen wears sweats for almost anything.

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Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Oh boy. Just wait till your kids are that age. Of course its not your place.

NP and my kids are that age and yes I would tell them they need to dress appropriate to the situation. This is something we have discussed through their childhood dressing appropriately for a situation and I haven’t had to tell them how to dress appropriately since they were much younger.

Sure, but you're the parent. Aunt Busybody says nothing.

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But... a mini skirt is an appropriate choice for a friends and relatives casual party.

Are you part of a particular religious community, OP, that mini skirts shock you that much?!?!

I truly don't get it. Wardrobe malfunctions should be separated from the choice of wearing normal clothes, such as mini skirts.

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Anonymous wrote:I think next year the niece should arrive in oversized, sloppy sweat pants.

It would be more respectful.

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Anonymous wrote:Your party sounds like it sucks OP. If you don’t want to specify attire on the invitation, you can always say “Choose your and your childrens’ outfits wisely! Your hosts WILL be silently judging you. May the odds be ever in your favor.”

*laughing aloud*

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I think now in my 40’s it’s even easier for me to overlook “inappropriate” clothing from anyone. As a host I have no problem just welcoming and interacting with guests how they come where maybe in my 20’s I would struggle not to gossip about it. I hope there’s no switch ahead of me where I get uptight.

It’s so much easier and more fun imo to just not police other people’s choices that don’t hurt you at all. Just meet them where they are and say yes. It costs nothing. All the time but especially if you’re their host. Being a good host is so important.

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Anonymous wrote:I think now in my 40’s it’s even easier for me to overlook “inappropriate” clothing from anyone. As a host I have no problem just welcoming and interacting with guests how they come where maybe in my 20’s I would struggle not to gossip about it. I hope there’s no switch ahead of me where I get uptight.

It’s so much easier and more fun imo to just not police other people’s choices that don’t hurt you at all. Just meet them where they are and say yes. It costs nothing. All the time but especially if you’re their host. Being a good host is so important.

Such good advice - Just meet them where they are and say nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Exactly. And maybe even worse. No one should be "eyeing" this teenager at all. OP needs to stop worrying about this kid's clothing and start worrying about being in a family of creepers.

If someone bends over and shows their butt to all….its not the adults being creepers, it’s her being an exhibitionist. A creeper is someone who upskorts or looks through the crack in the bathroom door. Not someone minding their own business at the chip and dip table who unexpectedly gets an eye full of underwear.
Look, we all make wardrobe mistakes and I think most women have been there with realizing something is more revealing than they thought it was gojng to be. I’m not saying put her in the stocks, or even to say anything to her about it. But blaming adults just for being in the room when she’s running around wearing a long shirt and calling it a dress is taking it too far the other way.

The adult doesn’t need to then gossip to everyone that they saw her underwear when she bent over. That is rude and demeaning. Shame on the grandmother.

There was no gossiping to everyone. Elderly grandmother mentioned it to her own adult daughter. Doesn't sound like either woman said word one to the niece either.

There was no need to tell anyone.

I love OP sock-puppetting, "doesn't sound like..." OP: grandma was rude to comment on her granddaugter's attire to anybody. So either grandma is a jerk, or you mentioned it first.

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When my younger cousin wore a super short dress to a holiday party my grandma, rum and coke in hand, loudly exclaimed “if that dress was any shorter we’d all see your snatch hair.”

And that sums up who my grandma was. 😂

You just need a snarky old drunk grandmother to call them out.

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Anonymous wrote:When my younger cousin wore a super short dress to a holiday party my grandma, rum and coke in hand, loudly exclaimed “if that dress was any shorter we’d all see your snatch hair.”

And that sums up who my grandma was. 😂

You just need a snarky old drunk grandmother to call them out.

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I love posts that make me look laid-back and non-judgmental in comparison

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Wheezing out NO to your question as I snort laugh heartily at COZY BUSINESS CASUAL. You are the problem OP. Do you pass out a lot with all of your huffing and puffing? You might be killing off badly needed brain cells.

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Anonymous wrote:When my younger cousin wore a super short dress to a holiday party my grandma, rum and coke in hand, loudly exclaimed “if that dress was any shorter we’d all see your snatch hair.”

And that sums up who my grandma was. 😂

You just need a snarky old drunk grandmother to call them out.