Do you say anything if visiting family are dressed inappropriately?

[Anonymous]

I need some examples of cozy business casual. Is this like work slacks and mittens? Pencil skirt, fuzzy ski hat and Uggs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh boy. Just wait till your kids are that age. Of course its not your place.

NP and my kids are that age and yes I would tell them they need to dress appropriate to the situation. This is something we have discussed through their childhood dressing appropriately for a situation and I haven’t had to tell them how to dress appropriately since they were much younger.

Yes if they are YOUR kids. OP is a little kid mom and it shows.

[Anonymous]

I'm 44 and I wear mini skirts, OP. I know not to bend down with very short skirts, and I choose pencil minis so that when I walk up and down stairs, people can't see my underwear. In winter I wear fun tights with my skirts.

But a teen has to learn all this. It's NOT your place to remind her in front of guests. She will learn it, don't worry. And accidents happen sometimes - they're not anyone's fault. When someone has a wardrobe malfunction, your job is to pretend it never happened.

And unless you're incredibly conservative, I can't imagine people side-eyeing a woman wearing a mini skirt. Heck, *I* come from a somewhat conservative culture (East Asian), and I get complimented on my outfits by my MIL.

[Anonymous]

A. In what world is a mini skirt not appropriate for a casual party?!?!

B. There are velvet minis, and corduroy minis, all for made for winter wear. My friend wears a puffy mini skirt when it's cold, with tights.

C. Sometimes stuff happens. That shouldn't make you want to shame the wearer and shouldn't make you think their clothes are inappropriate. That would make you a punitive shame-fueled clothes-bigot.

D. I don't think you analyzed the vibe correctly. People were probably not critiquing her outfit, or embarrassed like you. And believe me, Grandma has seen a lot worse than that in her life!!!

[Anonymous]

But was she wearing a cozy sweater with the mini skirt?

[Anonymous]

Teen girls wear short, tight, and/or revealing clothing. That’s a fact. They don’t see it the way middle-aged eyes see it. Wardrobe malfunction is unfortunate but, as a PP said, the girl needs to learn how to pick things up in a minidress. And it sounds like the adults were gossiping if you know that a grandma saw the kid’s underwear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh boy. Just wait till your kids are that age. Of course its not your place.

NP and my kids are that age and yes I would tell them they need to dress appropriate to the situation. This is something we have discussed through their childhood dressing appropriately for a situation and I haven’t had to tell them how to dress appropriately since they were much younger.

A mini skirt is perfectly appropriate for a family Holiday party.

[Anonymous]

Grandma probably wore short skirts in the 60s.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

OMG we have the Taliban clothes police even during the Holidays.

OP and that other PP, your judgement reflects poorly on YOU. Women are allowed to wear minis. If there's a revealing moment, avert your eyes.

[Anonymous]

Mind your own hem line

[Anonymous]

Teen girls are wearing super short skirts or horribly baggy sweats. It's just where we are right now, and you should zip your lips OP! Can't wait til you have teenagers.

[Anonymous]

Omg. No. What in the world? You do not comment on the physical appearance of others unless you are his/her parent or it is something that can be fixed in 30 seconds or less (eg., you have toilet paper stuck to your shoe).

Geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and I wear mini skirts, OP. I know not to bend down with very short skirts, and I choose pencil minis so that when I walk up and down stairs, people can't see my underwear. In winter I wear fun tights with my skirts.

But a teen has to learn all this. It's NOT your place to remind her in front of guests. She will learn it, don't worry. And accidents happen sometimes - they're not anyone's fault. When someone has a wardrobe malfunction, your job is to pretend it never happened.

And unless you're incredibly conservative, I can't imagine people side-eyeing a woman wearing a mini skirt. Heck, *I* come from a somewhat conservative culture (East Asian), and I get complimented on my outfits by my MIL.

WTH is this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time you need to make sure that everyone, teenagers included, understand that the strict dress code is “cozy business casual attire.” And that any revelation of having an actual body will be considered something worthy of judgment.

Ffs.

All the guests have been there before, including my niece and her family. It's not a strict dress code, of course, everyone just comes dressed relatively polished. Nobody has ever dressed like they're headed to some college nightclub.