Do you say anything if visiting family are dressed inappropriately?

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Anonymous wrote:Your party sounds like it sucks OP. If you don’t want to specify attire on the invitation, you can always say “Choose your and your childrens’ outfits wisely! Your hosts WILL be silently judging you. May the odds be ever in your favor.”

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As a pervy, non blood, uncle, please don't tell the 20 something nieces to cover up. It's about 50% of the only reason I attend these things.

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Anonymous wrote:As a pervy, non blood, uncle, please don't tell the 20 something nieces to cover up. It's about 50% of the only reason I attend these things.

This made me throw up in my mouth.

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Exactly. And maybe even worse. No one should be "eyeing" this teenager at all. OP needs to stop worrying about this kid's clothing and start worrying about being in a family of creepers.

If someone bends over and shows their butt to all….its not the adults being creepers, it’s her being an exhibitionist. A creeper is someone who upskorts or looks through the crack in the bathroom door. Not someone minding their own business at the chip and dip table who unexpectedly gets an eye full of underwear.
Look, we all make wardrobe mistakes and I think most women have been there with realizing something is more revealing than they thought it was gojng to be. I’m not saying put her in the stocks, or even to say anything to her about it. But blaming adults just for being in the room when she’s running around wearing a long shirt and calling it a dress is taking it too far the other way.

The adult doesn’t need to then gossip to everyone that they saw her underwear when she bent over. That is rude and demeaning. Shame on the grandmother.

There was no gossiping to everyone. Elderly grandmother mentioned it to her own adult daughter. Doesn't sound like either woman said word one to the niece either.

There was no need to tell anyone.

I love OP sock-puppetting, "doesn't sound like..." OP: grandma was rude to comment on her granddaugter's attire to anybody. So either grandma is a jerk, or you mentioned it first.

I'm pp you quoted and am not OP. Go back to the drawing board, Detective Doofus.

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OP's husband probably got all horned-up leering at the niece. OP wants niece in a burka for the next visit.

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If actual butt cheeks were exposed at all times (not only when bending over), I would not say anything as the host! How rude. That's her parent's job.

She didn't know the dress code was a sweater set. Picturing my inlaws side of the family, half the young women take every opportunity to dress fancy (my side of the family is hoodies and leggings at all times).

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But... a mini skirt is an appropriate choice for a friends and relatives casual party.

Are you part of a particular religious community, OP, that mini skirts shock you that much?!?!

I truly don't get it. Wardrobe malfunctions should be separated from the choice of wearing normal clothes, such as mini skirts.

No, it’s really not. And they’ve been to this party nearly ten years in a row. They and she knows nobody has worn such a skirt. People are dressed for the country club or church, not a Vegas nightclub.

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Anonymous wrote:No, you definitely don't say anything about this.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Mini skirts so short that underwear shows are worn to attract attention. Therefore there is no judgment for people who notice. Don’t be ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:We hosted family and friends over the weekend for an annual party at our vacation home. Not a snooty affair, everyone comes dressed in cozy business casual attire. My niece was not the only 17 to 20 year old, however, she was the only one wearing essentially a mini skirt, so short that my elderly mother saw her underwear when she reached down to grab something. You could feel guests looking at her and side-eying. We didn't say anything but I sort of regret not saying anything to her parents. That said, our children are younger, so I acknowledge I don't know how difficult it is to veto clothing choices on technically adult kids when you attend an event together.

What would saying something accomplish? Do you think she had a change of clothes in the car? What would her parents of done? I guarantee they KNOW she dresses like she does? I think you need to be happy that she was even WEARING underwear

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It depends. Depending on other factors, a miniskirt can be perfectly cute and appropriate or vulgar and inappropriate.

Like a full bodied young girl in tight micro mini with bare legs and high heels and face full of makeup with lash extensions would look vulgar in a lunch country club crowd. If this were my niece, I would have a chat with my sister. It might be unpleasant for niece to get that feedback, but it’s best if it comes from smn who cares vs her being a laughing stock at a similar party in the future.

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Anonymous wrote:When my younger cousin wore a super short dress to a holiday party my grandma, rum and coke in hand, loudly exclaimed “if that dress was any shorter we’d all see your snatch hair.”

And that sums up who my grandma was. 😂

You just need a snarky old drunk grandmother to call them out.

Oh Granny! NO ONE has snatch hair anymore!

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But... a mini skirt is an appropriate choice for a friends and relatives casual party.

Are you part of a particular religious community, OP, that mini skirts shock you that much?!?!

I truly don't get it. Wardrobe malfunctions should be separated from the choice of wearing normal clothes, such as mini skirts.

No, it’s really not. And they’ve been to this party nearly ten years in a row. They and she knows nobody has worn such a skirt. People are dressed for the country club or church, not a Vegas nightclub.

Minis are worn in country clubs. Do you seriously expect people to dress as if in church for your little holiday party? I'm so glad someone branched out and rebelled, OP. Your party sounds awful, with the most terribly dressed people imaginable! And you're the most awful thing in all this story. How dare you criticize a woman for wearing a mini skirt!!! Shame on you.

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Right? OP, your friends are creeps.

And if people need to wear specific clothing for your stupid creep party, you better be damn clear about that when you invite people.

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But... a mini skirt is an appropriate choice for a friends and relatives casual party.

Are you part of a particular religious community, OP, that mini skirts shock you that much?!?!

I truly don't get it. Wardrobe malfunctions should be separated from the choice of wearing normal clothes, such as mini skirts.

No, it’s really not. And they’ve been to this party nearly ten years in a row. They and she knows nobody has worn such a skirt. People are dressed for the country club or church, not a Vegas nightclub.

Very short minis are what's in fashion now. My kids are still elementary, but at their holiday concert the middle school girls were all wearing dresses so short they had to keep tugging at them. I don't get the fashion or find it particularly flattering, let alone practical, but your niece wasn't wearing anything weird.

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