Do you say anything if visiting family are dressed inappropriately?

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Mini skirts so short that underwear shows are worn to attract attention. Therefore there is no judgment for people who notice. Don’t be ridiculous.

People used to say this about ankles. She deserved it, her ankles were out. They still say it about hair, etc.

So why not go naked? Your privates should remain private, otherwise people will notice and comment.

Her privates weren't out. But nice try.

Perhaps this is the problem. Some of us think that underwear, cracks and excessive cleavage SHOULD be private.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, good luck being the parent of a teenager. But, also, if you are battling about their clothes will they hear you when something important needs to be said?

My teenager intentionally decided to wear the same clothes for a week on vacation. Including for sleep. I had to offer to wash them mid week. He's also a very gifted student athlete and has a chronic illness. I give him advice, he can decide whether or not to take it. I come down hard when it's something that impacts his health or grades.

You are way too passive if your teenagers still lives at home. You are the parent. He is nearing the age where he doesn’t have to take your “advice”, but he’s not there yet. No one should have to smell him after a week in the same clothes. Sounds like helping him understand that will help him socially and on the job market. Man up, Mom.

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Clothes are not any hill to die on. They just aren't. Kids can and should wear whatever the hell they want. Guess what, adults too. It's clothing. Get over it.

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Cozy business casual 😂😂😂

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Anonymous wrote:While not popular, there are events where appropriate dress should be observed. It's more about making other people feel comfortable and not making awkward situations.

At a high school winter concert some of the girls in the front row of the orchestra sat with their knees open providing a direct visual of their crotch. They wore black dresses as directed by the music teacher but he neglected to understand that most of these kids are very working class (think Queens and Bay Ridge) and probably never wore a dress in their lives.
I sent a note suggesting that mothers remind their daughters how to sit in a dress and was attacked for it just like so many here are doing. There was no follow up when I suggested that these events are also about comportment and polish for the eventual job interviews these kids will have to go on. HR would think these kids sitting manspread style grew up in a barnyard.

If you're not going to dress or behave that way for a job interview then you shouldn't dress or behave that way for other social events. Showing up in an outfit that is distracting and puts others in an awkward situation simply reflects poorly on the wearer.

She wasn't on stage or at a job interview; she was at a family house party wearing totally normal teen dress clothes.

It's still a social event.
If it's OK to wear whatever one wants, then PJs should be OK too.
Or Uncle Merv could show up in his wifebeater.
Dad could make an appearance with a bathrobe that's a bit too small.

See everyone, one year a young guest wears a mini skirt to the party and next thing you know, men are showing up in short bathrobes. Way to ruin a decade of tradition, Ms. Mini-Skirt.

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Definitely not.

Kids live and learn. Stay out of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Clothes are not any hill to die on. They just aren't. Kids can and should wear whatever the hell they want. Guess what, adults too. It's clothing. Get over it.

Hi, I'm looking for the holiday party.

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Anonymous wrote:Clothes are not any hill to die on. They just aren't. Kids can and should wear whatever the hell they want. Guess what, adults too. It's clothing. Get over it.

Hi, I'm looking for the holiday party.

Add a cozy scarf and some loafers, and you're golden.

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Mini skirts so short that underwear shows are worn to attract attention. Therefore there is no judgment for people who notice. Don’t be ridiculous.

She was wearing underwear. Nobody saw anything. If she was visibly commando, that’s the only time anyone should take her aside.

No need to “take her aside” in either case because she already knows what her outfit reveals and she chose it on purpose to show off what it shows off. And you’re just supposed to deal.

It’s 2024. This is no longer the era of “don’t dress like a slut—it degrades you and it’s disrespectful to the host and your elders””.” This is the era of “you are a perv for noticing I’m dressed like a slut—stop slut-shaming me”

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Mini skirts so short that underwear shows are worn to attract attention. Therefore there is no judgment for people who notice. Don’t be ridiculous.

People used to say this about ankles. She deserved it, her ankles were out. They still say it about hair, etc.

So why not go naked? Your privates should remain private, otherwise people will notice and comment.

Her privates weren't out. But nice try.

Perhaps this is the problem. Some of us think that underwear, cracks and excessive cleavage SHOULD be private.

Body envy much?

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t invite them to one of my events again. If they can’t take the time to educate themselves about appropriate dress, then they aren’t worthy of being a guest. It’s offensive to all.

For the love of all that is holy, someone please explain what "cozy business casual" is! All I can come up with is tunic sweaters, leggings, and statement necklaces from Chico's.

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Mini skirts so short that underwear shows are worn to attract attention. Therefore there is no judgment for people who notice. Don’t be ridiculous.

People used to say this about ankles. She deserved it, her ankles were out. They still say it about hair, etc.

So why not go naked? Your privates should remain private, otherwise people will notice and comment.

Who decides what's private? As stated, once upon a time, ankles were private...

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Yes. You look chilly here’s a ……

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Anonymous wrote:What is "cozy business casual"?

In Bethesdan that means lululemon leggings with a blazer

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Anonymous wrote:Clothes are not any hill to die on. They just aren't. Kids can and should wear whatever the hell they want. Guess what, adults too. It's clothing. Get over it.

Hi, I'm looking for the holiday party.

My grandma would be searching for the dollar bills.