Do you say anything if visiting family are dressed inappropriately?

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree with you, OP. It sounds like this WAS a snooty affair.

That was obvious as soon as the op said "cozy business casual attire."

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Mini skirts so short that underwear shows are worn to attract attention. Therefore there is no judgment for people who notice. Don’t be ridiculous.

She was wearing underwear. Nobody saw anything. If she was visibly commando, that’s the only time anyone should take her aside.

No need to “take her aside” in either case because she already knows what her outfit reveals and she chose it on purpose to show off what it shows off. And you’re just supposed to deal.

It’s 2024. This is no longer the era of “don’t dress like a slut—it degrades you and it’s disrespectful to the host and your elders””.” This is the era of “you are a perv for noticing I’m dressed like a slut—stop slut-shaming me”

It's normal for men to appreciate a young woman's mini-skirt. Nothing pervy happening there.

You’d be amazed how much of the behavior you probably think of as normal is experienced by others as pervy.

Congrats, you’re the gross creeper uncle the girls are talking about.

See, you can't have it both ways. Wearing something intentionally designed to draw attention to the body comes with.... attention.

If you think the honus is on men to over ride eons of evolution and not notice... exactly what nature has trained them to look at, then you are, simply wrong. You may wear whatever you want, but you don't get to decide what other people think about it.

I guarantee if I (48 M, very well endowed) rolled up to your house for Xmas sporting some lycra nut huggers and micro tank top you would most certainly call it offensive. And I kindly doubt you'd like me telling you to stuff it.

A. You didn't have to tell us you were a 48-year-old male. We knew.
B. You could actually wear that, and guess what? That would be your choice. Granted, it's not cozy business casual, so you'd be wrong in that regard, but you could wear all the nut huggers you want.
C. I promise you, every single woman at your nut hugger party would "just deal." 1000%

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Mini skirts so short that underwear shows are worn to attract attention. Therefore there is no judgment for people who notice. Don’t be ridiculous.

People used to say this about ankles. She deserved it, her ankles were out. They still say it about hair, etc.

So why not go naked? Your privates should remain private, otherwise people will notice and comment.

Her privates weren't out. But nice try.

Perhaps this is the problem. Some of us think that underwear, cracks and excessive cleavage SHOULD be private.

Body envy much?

Back in the day, women wanted to be respected for their mind and personality, and their body was a side bonus. Faux feminism to show everything you have and then whine when guys don't want to put a ring on it.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are jealous that your niece looks so much younger and prettier than you in her mini-skirt and she is stealing the attention from the men at the gathering.

Aren’t the men at the gathering the niece’s family members? If yes I think the niece might have some form of mental disorder. Why does she want to attract sexual attention of her uncles/cousins etc.?

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Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Mini skirts so short that underwear shows are worn to attract attention. Therefore there is no judgment for people who notice. Don’t be ridiculous.

People used to say this about ankles. She deserved it, her ankles were out. They still say it about hair, etc.

So why not go naked? Your privates should remain private, otherwise people will notice and comment.

Her privates weren't out. But nice try.

Perhaps this is the problem. Some of us think that underwear, cracks and excessive cleavage SHOULD be private.

Body envy much?

Back in the day, women wanted to be respected for their mind and personality, and their body was a side bonus. Faux feminism to show everything you have and then whine when guys don't want to put a ring on it.

Who’s whining about that? We’re talking about someone wearing a miniskirt to a holiday party. You are truly a creep.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are jealous that your niece looks so much younger and prettier than you in her mini-skirt and she is stealing the attention from the men at the gathering.

Aren’t the men at the gathering the niece’s family members? If yes I think the niece might have some form of mental disorder. Why does she want to attract sexual attention of her uncles/cousins etc.?

Women always compwete to be the prettiest in the room. Doesn't matter if its amongst family.... or monks. They compete against themselves.